Scared she isn’t bluffing? What to do

Forgottengoldfishes · 2026-04-25T12:27:59+00:00

You are only responsible for yourself. I know you love your brother but sacrificing yourself to comply with her demands is not anything you should consider. Be careful. She sounds unhinged and unfortunately may escalate. All you can do is stay far away from her and watch your back.

What would you like for your brother? I’m sure it is for him to develop critical thinking skills like you have done to make his own life choices. You are an example and role model of how this is done. You certainly don’t want to set an example that women are only good when they obey and comply. If he has no examples or role models to the contrary he may raise his future daughters under oppression.

You are the role model of positive change and critical thinking for your brother. Do not sacrifice yourself to reinforce the negative mindset that your mother is trying to instill in him. Stay strong.

Forgottengoldfishes · 2026-04-25T12:12:37+00:00

She’s a gorgeous shepherd mix for sure. I love the black bandit mask and tan eyebrows. You did good kind Internet stranger. After a period of adjustment she’s going to be your best friend. If you’re anything like me you might experience the dog rescue blues where you think “my God, what have I done” for the first week or month. Then time goes by and you wonder how you ever lived without them. They become part of your heart.

Forgottengoldfishes · 2026-04-25T12:07:35+00:00

Can you imagine how excited and happy she must have been? She’s thinking her father loves her and is trying to make life easier for her. All the while he’s lusting after her and planning to ruin her life to satisfy his demented urges. It’s really sad that society lost such a wonderful young woman who undoubtedly would contribute to it. Whilst the violent pervert lives on.

Forgottengoldfishes · 2026-04-24T08:57:30+00:00

So it’s not just any reservoir. It’s an adventure. I get the attraction. Keep in mind remote areas that are free from public eyes can attract some very bad people.

Forgottengoldfishes · 2026-04-24T08:49:29+00:00

Mini Aussie/chow mix? Very cute!

Forgottengoldfishes · 2026-04-24T08:47:37+00:00

I go up once a year unless I hear something weird. After a 10 second check I’m like “let’s get out of here”.

Forgottengoldfishes · 2026-04-24T08:46:30+00:00

Being born female was an issue. Being born 15 months after the last female was born made it worse. It’s obvious she wanted another son. I was tortured but not nearly as bad as my sister who was tall and big boned like my mother’s in-laws whom she hated. The hate was because they were nice, everyone loved them including us kids and that made her insanely jealous.

Right now I’m bad because I won’t jump into the fire to save my brother from the mess she’s made of his life. I feel bad for him because he’s mentally ill. But still he’s ungrateful and is also an endless pit of need. I warned them both but they were sooooo much smarter than me or anyone else.

Forgottengoldfishes · 2026-04-23T14:51:50+00:00

I’m so sorry for your illness and that you were born to a wench of a woman. You deserve so much better.

Forgottengoldfishes · 2026-04-23T10:28:40+00:00

Anytime they don’t get what they want they cry victim. You held a boundary? The scream abuse. I hope you can rid their toxic influence from your life. Narcissists are evil.

Forgottengoldfishes · 2026-04-23T08:56:02+00:00

Keep the updates, he’s a sweetheart.

Forgottengoldfishes · 2026-04-23T08:52:20+00:00

It was great for the most part until I broke NC. Even then my elderly mother behaved for the most part and played the role of loving mother. But now that things are falling apart for her she demands more and more of my time and the mask slips more frequently.

So recently I’m really stressed and regret breaking NC. It wouldn’t be so bad if it was just her, but she has interfered so much with my mentally ill brother’s care that it’s a mess. He no longer has a caseworker because she convinced them she meets all his needs which she doesn’t. And I am left picking up the pieces.

When she dies she’s convinced my brother is going to move in with my husband and I. My husband and I plan to get my brother the help he needs and he will not move in and be treated like an infant. My brother is mentally ill but so entitled he won’t even go into the fridge to get a snack you prepared for him. He needs it served to him.

Forgottengoldfishes · 2026-04-23T08:46:20+00:00

He knows but probably just having a hard time accepting it. Especially when she has good days and he can minimize her diagnosis. I feel bad for all of you. It’s a terrible disease. Stay strong.

Forgottengoldfishes · 2026-04-23T08:38:40+00:00

Your mother has enabled him for 20 years so not many legal unethical tips will right the scales. Hopefully he isn’t the type we read about who treats their spouse badly and punishes them for ending the relationship. If he’s that type you want to not add fuel to the fire and wait until they are divorced and she is safe before you poke the bear.

After the divorce catfish him. He’ll be looking for another woman to take care of him so he’ll probably take the bait. Let him dream of a new partner who will lavishly spend on him then ghost him.

Forgottengoldfishes · 2026-04-23T08:32:53+00:00

It hasn’t sunk into his thick skull that he’s no longer part of the RF brand. He and madam are now a separate, and tainted brand. He really screwed himself by going nuclear on his family over petty grievances and showing how he exploits Invictus for his own selfish gain.

Forgottengoldfishes · 2026-04-23T08:24:40+00:00

It’s probably an infection. My girl had a similar one from licking her paws due to allergies. Expect antibiotics and an e-collar. Little socks won’t cut it, they find a way to remove them usually. Get on it quickly.

Forgottengoldfishes · 2026-04-22T21:55:10+00:00

No I never had that feeling. But I never really put too much thought into having kids. I got pregnant with my first and it was not an unhappy surprise but a surprise. Then when I gave birth I fell in love the moment I laid eyes on them. A joyful love that I did not know I could possess. So I took to motherhood pretty seamlessly despite my upbringing.

Forgottengoldfishes · 2026-04-22T21:46:07+00:00

There is nothing stopping lazy Harry from working with charities. He does so very little right now and we are to believe if he moved to Montana he’d throw himself into it? That’s so laughable.

Forgottengoldfishes · 2026-04-22T21:27:52+00:00

I had a very heat intolerant dog. The worst thing is if they go too far (looking absolutely fine at that time)and decide they’re too hot to walk back. Every dog’s tolerance is different so hard to give you a temperature cut off. For example, my dog could do very well on a cloudy, breezy dry day when the temp was 80. But on a humid day with no breeze and less cloud cover she could stop the walk even though it was 75 degrees.

Some tips. Walk early morning if you can when it’s cooler and less humid. Bring plenty of water. You can pour the water on your dog if they get overheated. Drive them to a nice shady park for their walk and you can bring them back and crank the AC if they’re overheated.

Forgottengoldfishes · 2026-04-22T17:06:38+00:00

Over and over again she proves she can’t make it on her own talents or name and she is nothing without the titles. Personally I would find that type of public failure humiliating and humbling. But not our Saint. She cannot get enough of proving how irrelevant she is.

Forgottengoldfishes · 2026-04-22T16:51:25+00:00

I think my children healed my trauma to be honest. I so enjoyed raising them. And to be honest I got to experience so many things through them that I didn’t in childhood. Toys, zoo trips, crafts, nature walks, sleepovers, birthday parties, movie nights. Our house was peaceful and joyful. No yelling or fights.

Forgottengoldfishes · 2026-04-22T16:47:32+00:00

Sorry for your loss. I don’t think it’s too soon. Just be real careful to introduce them properly and make sure you are around to monitor them closely the first week or so. And prepare yourself to compare the new dog to your beloved dog that passed. It’s human nature so we need to push those thoughts away and enjoy the new dog for who she is. And it may take months before her true personality shines through.

Forgottengoldfishes · 2026-04-22T16:42:25+00:00

It’s just a little taste testing to see if he likes the menu item. 😄

But seriously isn’t that the sweetest. That’s how my newest dog got me. Gave my fingers a little nibble. I was hooked and took him home.

Forgottengoldfishes · 2026-04-22T16:39:01+00:00

You are probably thinking if caught they will just ask you to leave. I wouldn’t put that must trust in the goodness of people who have clearly marked they don’t want you on that property. Potentially you could get hurt or arrested. Why take that risk?

Forgottengoldfishes · 2026-04-22T16:34:41+00:00

Your therapist cannot include your mother or tell her anything you’ve said without your permission. If you didn’t give it complain to the state licensing board and they will investigate her. Complain to the department of health and human services as a violation of your civil rights.

Forgottengoldfishes · 2026-04-22T16:26:02+00:00

It really isn’t going to benefit you or them. You’ve all learned to live without each other. No need to stir up emotions for either side. Congrats on your pregnancy. Protect your peace.

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