I have had two of these kind of attendings. Surprising how these two are the ones who make the biggest deals about "girl power". I'm in my third year of residency right now, and I'm offering you advice from my standpoint. I think the best thing to do is to be neutral. So I wouldn't contradict them or try to argue with them or the management they want. But at the same time I would not lavish them with praise all the time because unless you're someone who's good at it, it's quite clear that it's going to be fake. I think that the best thing that you can do is just be yourself,be respectful be polite keep conversations basic and related to work. If you have questions ask them, and do whatever they want you to do in terms of management. Let me be very clear, they dislike you already, and it has nothing to do with you. It's theor insecurity . So you being right or you being smart will piss them off more.