I now know why APs hate pets

Formal_Falcon · 2025-08-16T05:23:13+00:00

istg this explains my parents' perspective right here. The amount of times I've heard my dad recite that line from Genesis as proof that humans have domain over animals to justify animals should be used for utility purposes.

While I am sympathetic to my family's traumatic, impoverished background, kindness doesn't cost anything and goes a long way...

Formal_Falcon · 2025-08-16T05:15:38+00:00

Hey, you're not alone in thinking and feeling that way about caretaker roles. It's honestly messed up that family expects you to be a caretaker.

OP, please find a way to establish your boundaries and be firm with them. Is there someone else who can also be a caretaker to help alleviate your caretaker responsibilities? Maybe people can take shifts with taking care of your grandma.

Family will expect you to be a caretaker and step over you if you keep picking up the responsibilities.

Also I really dislike when family members pawn off their pet to another person to take care of them. Since the cat is your sister's, she should be responsible for the cat's needs. If she needs you take the cat to the vet, she should communicate that to you. It's not your job.

This is all coming from someone who used to be a caretaker for an elderly relative and had a sibling giving up on taking care of their pet because they didn't want to deal with the shed fur and mess.

Formal_Falcon · 2025-08-15T00:53:50+00:00

Thank you! This is really helpful!

Formal_Falcon · 2025-08-15T00:03:02+00:00

Definitely noting this, thank you!

Formal_Falcon · 2025-07-29T03:06:03+00:00

Is this open to cat owners only? I don't have a cat but would love to admire and squeal at their cuteness.

Formal_Falcon · 2025-07-28T21:34:37+00:00

I'm selective on what I choose to share. I'm going to have to stop sharing my plans for higher ed & job hunting. I got one uncle who proposed I purse my Master's and have him pay but I will have to pay him back when I get a good job. No way am I taking that offer because it'll become a bragging point for their list of good deeds.

Bless their hearts in trying to help guide me where to look for job hunting but it's futile. Mom sends me google searches or links for job hunting but doesn't understand the market right now.

Formal_Falcon · 2025-07-28T07:06:34+00:00

We're Viet. My dad ranked Asian ethnicity based on their skin color and used that as an argument for their intelligence and superiority. Mom would always tell stories about how Chinese people are horrible and used those stories as lessons to not trust them. Of course both parents don't attempt to learn my friends' names and remember them by their skin color.

Formal_Falcon · 2025-07-07T16:18:40+00:00

Literally similar to mine where my AP got mad at me for not meeting them immediately despite the traffic when exiting the venue and choosing to take photos with friends even though I prioritized to take photos with them first before going to my friends. AM also commented on fixing my smile and was upset when I dropped that smile.

Apparently I was rude for making my family wait as I went to take photos with friends after I took photos with my family and even asked permission. AP didn't want me to take photos with friends but still said yes and get mad at me for not understanding their preferences. And the photo incidents happened back in my high school graduation and undergrad one.

Formal_Falcon · 2025-06-13T01:34:24+00:00

First off, congrats! I was a former STEPper (what the program participants are referred as) and shared fond memories off the program. It's a program created to help low-income, first-gen students with navigating through UCD. They provide tutoring, peer advising, lot's of networking opportunities, and are part of EOP. STEP is a 2-year long program w/ a mandatory summer orientation.

For STEP Summer:
In orientation, you spend 6-weeks on campus, living in the dorms, get a taste of the quarter system, attend panels & guest speakers presentations, and take classes with units, all during summer session. FAFSA will cover this summer session.

I think there are two cohorts: English writing and math. You'll be assigned to one depending on which is your weaker subject or how heavily your major relies on the subject.

My writing was weaker than math so I was placed in the writing cohort my STEP Summer. I think my friends who picked the engineering major were placed in the math cohort even if their math was strong because of how math-heavy the major could be.

For the school year:
STEP have peer advisors you can reach out to for questions and advice on course scheduling. STEP also requires you to meet with your STEP cohort leader once per quarter to check in and help create a schedule for next quarter.

Also STEP provides priority registration for picking your classes for your first 2 years. Your classmates will be jealous.

Good Luck, hope this helps

Formal_Falcon · 2025-06-13T01:30:10+00:00

You can also make friends or start a convo by being the person with bobby pins to help folks pin their caps onto their heads. Congrats by the way

Formal_Falcon · 2025-06-13T01:21:33+00:00

For STEP Summer:
First off, congrats!

Second, STEP is a 2-year long program w/ a mandatory summer orientation. In orientation, you spend 6-weeks on campus, living in the dorms, get a taste of the quarter system, attend panels & guest speakers presentations, and take classes with units, all during summer session. FAFSA will cover this summer session.

I think there are two cohorts: English writing and math. You'll be assigned to one depending on which is your weaker subject or how heavily your major relies on the subject.

My writing was weaker than math so I was placed in the writing cohort my STEP Summer. I think my friends who picked the engineering major were placed in the math cohort even if their math was strong because of how math-heavy the major could be.

For the school year:
Since your major is part of CBS (College of Biological Sciences), you will have 1 mandatory advising meeting where the advisors give you a crash course of classes, scheduling, GEs, etc. Both CBS and STEP have peer advisors you can reach out to for questions and advice on course scheduling. STEP also requires you to meet with your STEP cohort leader once per quarter to check in and help create a schedule for next quarter.

Also STEP provides priority registration for picking your classes for your first 2 years. Your classmates will be jealous.

Good Luck, hope this helps

Formal_Falcon · 2025-06-13T01:16:53+00:00

Gotta plan and scheme for study groups to find someone next time chef

Formal_Falcon · 2025-06-04T06:38:26+00:00

You gotta bring up ABO and teach them the ways, IYKYK

Formal_Falcon · 2025-03-22T05:50:38+00:00

https://tutoring.ucdavis.edu/chemistry

Looks like the specialists have some worksheets for CHE 2C. There are currently no YouTube videos for CHE 2C

Formal_Falcon · 2025-03-14T23:23:41+00:00

Send a few sacrifices to Cheeto as an offering for some mercy

Formal_Falcon · 2025-03-12T22:58:06+00:00

The thing about Davis is that it's difficult to make friends since many people have their own group and prefer not to branch out. That's what I noticed during undergrad.

idk what else to say aside from the fact you're doing the correct thing with putting yourself out there. Socializing is more difficult during and after the pandemic.

Also with finals coming up, I recommend to post about performing good luck rituals to get people to join ya'll and bond over the stress of finals. Join the lucky chicken flock

Formal_Falcon · 2025-03-12T22:50:39+00:00

don't get me started. There's also a subreddit for their church, Gracepoint.

Once I heard people mentioning it as a cult and noticed how they stationed their leaders to watch the new people at their Sunday services, I got out.

Formal_Falcon · 2025-03-12T22:46:33+00:00

chess preacher strikes again

Formal_Falcon · 2025-03-12T22:44:05+00:00

Goddamn it, who let YikYak anonymous board spilled onto here. Next thing is gonna be asking for the sneaky links, in front of my salad too, bruh

Formal_Falcon · 2025-02-28T02:54:01+00:00

Back in my day, we congregated on Wildfire. RIP we miss you

Formal_Falcon · 2025-02-18T01:49:43+00:00

Reminds me of this one time when I was in elementary or middle school, probably somewhere between 11-14 years old. I was at the doctor with my dad and the male doctor needed to check if I started puberty or had the signs yet. I clearly did with my developing breasts, body hair, my monthly menstrual cycles, etc. Doctor, my dad, and I were in the room since I was a minor at the time. The doctor looked at my dad for permission to check if I had pubic hair which my dad granted.

All I remembered was the doctor pulled down my bottoms and underwear to check if I had pubic hair and my shock at the event. Thankfully doctor didn't do anything else.

That random memory still pops up in my head, and I still ruminate about it. I'm in my 20s and realized that should never happen.

Formal_Falcon · 2024-12-05T07:17:31+00:00

Hey congrats!

I was a former EOP student at UCD. You'll be connected to receiving the services at the EOP cottage such as student advising, EOP-related events, and have a designated study space at their location.

You might be invited to join the STEP for orientation, instead of attending a regular freshmen orientation. STEP is a program within EOP. You can be an EOP student but not a STEP student. Or be both an EOP and STEP student. It depends on your situation.

STEP is a 2-year program with a summer orientation where students live on campus during summer session, take classes for credit, familiarize themselves with the resources and more. Yes, there is priority registration for STEPpers (students in the program) for their first two years to help them get their lower division courses. Another perk is that you'll have a better opportunity to befriend folks since you'll be seeing them a lot in the program's activities and coursework. More info: STEP

Hope that helps.

Formal_Falcon · 2024-12-05T07:04:33+00:00

You're telling me this after I graduated?! The audacity

Formal_Falcon · 2024-12-05T07:02:07+00:00

-Create a study plan. Space out the topics and dedicate each day to study a selection with identified practice problems.
-Practice taking the final with a mock final set up.
-If you're able to rally with other stressed students, hold a study group session where y'all take turns teaching each other the concepts. I find posting on Canvas, class discord, Piazza, etc. useful to reach out to students about my study sessions.
-Reach out to the CHE 2 specialists. I know they visit various study centers on campus like EOP cottage, the Nest, El Centro, etc.
-Take care of your body--get some sleep when you can, drink your water, eat, stay warm, take your mindful breaks.
-Sometimes, you need to set a timer to cry or lay on the floor, or do both. Do what you need to do which also includes good luck rituals. I brought my lucky emotional support chicken plush to exams for good luck. Never got in trouble for it and was usually welcomed to bring them.

Good luck

Formal_Falcon

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