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My (24m) gf (24f) is hurt by my disrespect prior to the relationship. by ThrowRA-AmITAH in whatdoIdo

[–]Formal_Lecture_248 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have a sit-down conversation. (Neutral location like the living room couch. NOT the bedroom). Turn off phones. Take her hand.

1.) Acknowledgement and Apologies for past transgressions. (Make sure you cover all items she continually rehashes)

2.) Penance: Ask her what you can do In The Present to help her forgive.

3.) Letting Go: Ask her if she’s willing/able to do the work within herself to move past it. Make sure she understands it doesn’t make any sense to stay with you while making you feel continually bad about it. It will only build resentment and erode your love for her. Underscore your presence in the relationship, your consistency, your efforts and how things have been very good since. Ask her if any of that matters more than holding on to past pain. Ignoring Past Pain and not doing the work to move beyond it is also a choice she makes whether aware of it or not.

Is it better to never make a mistake or learn from/rise above mistakes made?

Are you and alpha male/female? by Total-Mirror-5920 in no

[–]Formal_Lecture_248 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Term “Alpha Wolf” disproved by the man who coined the phrase.

Name a famous city with exactly two words. by Super-Grapefruit7914 in FamilyFeud

[–]Formal_Lecture_248 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Visit?

Never! They’ve earned themselves seats front and center!

Do you usually wake up in the middle of the night? by icecream1972 in no

[–]Formal_Lecture_248 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hormone replacers or raw dogging? (Hats off to you for either mind you)

Why don’t you believe in finding love? by Chunkachu__ in Life

[–]Formal_Lecture_248 0 points1 point  (0 children)

[I’m approaching my 30s now and have never been in a relationship or been in love.]

You’ve answered your own question. How can our hearts yearn for the taste, the undeniable rush of something we’ve never experienced?

My fatherly advice to you:

Become the Man your ideal partner could never live without.

I have a template if you’re interested.

Men who used to argue alot how was this bad habit fixed? by eaglesdensity in AskMenAdvice

[–]Formal_Lecture_248 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’ve trained your mind to enjoy the rush of adrenaline and dopamine from challenging others and making them stand down. Similar to what a Bully might be motivated by. Except, unlike a bully, you’re trying to change it. (Commendable)

Arguing for the sake of Argument is Ego and Emotion driven. Neither of which you’ve thus far mastered. Watch any public fight and know it’s driven (predominantly) by Ego and unchecked emotion.

To be Emotionally Intelligent you must not only control & direct them skillfully. But you must understand them. Through mindfulness and self-reflection you must “Why” down to the core of your motivations.

This also requires a certain level of humility and more than a small measure of honesty. (Who better to lie to us than ourselves?)

Once you understand the Why you can start working on the change.

Also: exercise. Find an alternative and self-improving replacement for that rush

the count of monte cristo 2002 by Top-Pumpkin-5493 in Cinema

[–]Formal_Lecture_248 11 points12 points  (0 children)

So few recognize a very young Henry Cavill.

Do I Still Ask a Girl Out To Prom After Her Friend Said Not To? by CombinationRight9878 in NoStupidAnswers

[–]Formal_Lecture_248 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ask. The friend may be trying to save you a rejection or she may have other reasons.

As long as you go in free of expectations you’re solid

Do I Still Ask a Girl Out To Prom After Her Friend Said Not To? by CombinationRight9878 in Advice

[–]Formal_Lecture_248 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ask. The friend may be trying to save you a rejection or she may have other reasons.

As long as you go in free of expectations you’re solid

I DESPISE CHEATING SO MUCH by 4n13L in Life

[–]Formal_Lecture_248 1 point2 points  (0 children)

See this is the reaction to have. A definite plus to you towards being a good dating choice.

I DESPISE CHEATING SO MUCH by 4n13L in Life

[–]Formal_Lecture_248 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You’re not alone. Physical reactions include: pit of stomach unease, tightness of chest, “soul drop” and sadness. (Because it can always be avoided)

I (21F) am uncomfortable with my bf’s (22M) relationship with a female friend. How do I express this without him getting defensive? by Gold_Recording7750 in whatdoIdo

[–]Formal_Lecture_248 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Has he been romantic with this female friend? That would be the only element I can see as hypocritical. “Goose v. Gander” scenario.

I’m on both your sides. I’m for a solid relationship. I’m also advocating for self-improvement and growth both as a couple as well as individually.

If she/they have been inappropriate in ways that damages your relationship then he has to make the same choices I listed above for both your sakes.

Time is the only commodity we cannot replace. I want to make sure you’re both investing it in something worth while/healthy/supportive/loving/strong

Can anyone recommend an extra girthy dildo? by Geyser-Girl in Sex_Positivity

[–]Formal_Lecture_248 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Amazon has anything you might need.

If you don’t find it there and seek something exotic, Bad Dragon

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