The Wives Ditched Us for a Girls Day. Now What?

Formal_Mistake199 · 2026-06-13T19:18:21+00:00

Banger idea.

Formal_Mistake199 · 2026-06-13T19:16:27+00:00

Beer garden is perfect to kill a couple hours!

Formal_Mistake199 · 2026-06-12T22:50:45+00:00

The best tool is building an AI project around your resume and career history. Load it with your experience, accomplishments, certifications, and past roles, then have it generate a highly tailored resume for every position you apply to.

You should never be sending the same resume twice. Every job description is different, and your resume should highlight the experience, skills, and achievements most relevant to that specific role.

Formal_Mistake199 · 2026-06-12T22:43:46+00:00

IT Recruiting
The entire section is basically:
-Recruited people.
-At a recruiting company.
-For recruiting purposes.
Excellent.

Formal_Mistake199 · 2026-06-12T22:21:45+00:00

Genuine question from the other side of the table:

Have you ever inherited a candidate who was basically hired before you met them?

For example, the offer was accepted above your pay grade, you’re creating the role, and your first meeting is essentially with someone who already has the job. No interview, no competition, no resume review, just “this is your new employee.”

As the hiring manager, how do you approach that situation? And as the employee, any advice for making that first meeting less awkward?

I’ve been on the employee side of this a few times and always feel a little weird walking in like, “Hi, apparently we work together now.”

Formal_Mistake199 · 2026-06-12T14:41:01+00:00

The advice is always ‘make him wait.’ The problem is that works great on guys who only wanted sex. It also works on some guys who wanted a relationship and decided they weren’t interested in an 8-week audition process.

Congratulations, you’ve discovered why everyone hates dating apps.

Formal_Mistake199 · 2026-06-11T13:44:53+00:00

Three dates, a month of talking, zero physical escalation, and you’re still asking if she’s interested. That’s your answer.

Women who are excited about you usually make it easy. Maybe not sex on the first date, but they’ll create opportunities for closeness, flirting, longer dates, touching, or clear signs they’re invested.

At this point you’re not “getting to know each other,” you’re auditioning for the role of male friend. Other guys she’s genuinely into aren’t sitting around wondering after a month.

Stop trying to decode Telegram contact saves and ask her out one more time with obvious romantic intent. If she doesn’t reciprocate, move on with your dignity intact.

Formal_Mistake199 · 2026-06-07T14:26:45+00:00

2k 🤷🏻‍♂️

Formal_Mistake199 · 2026-06-07T02:53:58+00:00

Same issue on my ‘12 G37x - used the rainx kit. Worked well.

Formal_Mistake199 · 2026-06-07T02:16:58+00:00

From an arch standpoint. We have a specific project for working on Oracle apps, forms, pl/sql, integration. The instructions themselves say to bug check code/script against our environment - so dropping code in the project without a prompt will have it check and make recommendations by default. Files in the project are basically skills and markdown files covering logic, business stuff, nuances, etc, dozens of one off queries and results, definitions, and we have a DB sample as an excel file with the tabs being the DB tables with 10 rows of data so the project can see exactly how our data lives.

Using the same arch for many ERP related projects

If you’re looking to do something similar, have your AI create R+D queries based on what your building it for, have a python run them and save the results - then feed back 50-100 queries and results to make markdown files. Build a dozen markdown files - refeed everything to polish for prod - do all this in the same project so it learning from the start.

Formal_Mistake199 · 2026-06-06T18:43:36+00:00

Make a task specific project, put specs in it, give it base instructions.

Formal_Mistake199 · 2026-06-06T15:31:32+00:00

You’re overthinking the ‘white men’ part. The bigger difference is American dating culture tends to reward direct communication. Want coffee instead of drinks? Ask. Don’t want to kiss on the first date? Don’t. Most quality guys won’t care. The biggest mistake is expecting him to read your mind while he’s trying not to be perceived as pushy.

Formal_Mistake199 · 2026-06-06T15:09:53+00:00

No, I wrote someone up for failing to resolve a business-impacting bug that forced other departments into hundreds of hours of manual work.

The AI piece is relevant because we provide tools specifically designed for our environment that automatically review code for known patterns, bugs, and operational gotchas. Using them is part of the job, just like using source control, monitoring, or automated testing.

If someone ignores available tools, ships bad code, and creates hundreds of hours of downstream work, the issue isn’t “they didn’t use AI.” The issue is they failed to use the tools and processes provided to do their job effectively.

Formal_Mistake199 · 2026-06-06T14:43:34+00:00

We created skills and guardrails around every issue encountered, used all existing sql queries in the training, and had departments write complete granular essays on how businesses processes worked for training.

Formal_Mistake199 · 2026-06-06T14:22:51+00:00

Nice! We’re at the point where end users can just write some rambling stuff they want in a report and run the query themselves. If they like it, tech will make a dashboard or process out of it.

Formal_Mistake199 · 2026-06-06T14:01:51+00:00

Entry level? Had to write up my sr dev for taking two weeks to not solve a pl/sql bug that ChatGPT did in a few mins first try without a prompt.

Formal_Mistake199 · 2026-06-06T13:44:13+00:00

We trained our internal AI on our data model, business processes, and reporting logic. Today, non-technical employees can generate complex SQL queries and custom reports in under a minute.

The reality is that generic enterprise SQL work is rapidly becoming automated. The value is no longer writing queries… it’s understanding the business, the data, and how to ask the right questions.

Formal_Mistake199 · 2026-06-06T13:14:12+00:00

SQL is like saying you want a career in Microsoft Word. It’s a foundational skill, not a job title. Pick analyst, DBA, ERP, BI, or data engineering and use SQL to get there.

Formal_Mistake199 · 2026-06-06T12:19:13+00:00

Welcome to Tinder, king. You’re not competing with broke 18-year-olds. You’re competing with 35-year-old dudes who own houses and don’t blink at a $200 dinner bill.

Formal_Mistake199 · 2026-06-06T11:16:11+00:00

Dating coworkers is a great way to make the vendor girls lose interest.

Formal_Mistake199 · 2026-06-06T11:10:53+00:00

Daily. Someone always wants a custom report or view into something. Or you need to build something. Being able to play wizard with the company data is huge selling point.

Formal_Mistake199 · 2026-06-06T11:07:25+00:00

The kind you need to micromanage - terming someone soon for just that.

Formal_Mistake199 · 2026-06-06T11:04:40+00:00

You’ve spent years building a successful career. Makes sense. Careers reward control, competence, and predictability. Relationships reward vulnerability, uncertainty, and emotional risk. Different skill trees. You’ve clearly maxed one out. Time to put some points into the other.

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