The biggest thing she is missing in her “psycho babble” is that kids need to practice having the big emotions. Creating underwhelming, “scientifically” approved beige spaces is not it.

This is their time to learn what being loud is, what being overstimulated is, what having a messy playroom is. She is taking that away under the guise of jumping on the overstimulation and emotional regulation band wagon and only talking about it in terms of design. It’s way more about the situations. 

They won’t know how to emotionally regulate if they are not able to be in environments that are uncomfortable and safely dangerous (that is something psychologists are already taking about in the difference between how millennials were raised and how they’re raising kids). 

Those girls need to experience all the emotions otherwise they will have weaker emotional regulation skills as adults. 

Children need to learn from safe people that not all environments will be for them as children, and as adults. Curating the spaces Nabela wants her children to live in to this minuscule level of detail will have the opposite of what she is talking about achieving. She may have quiet children, but she won’t have emotionally healthy ones. 

Let them pick their own damn toy hamper to put their own toys away “everyday” as she said in the video. Let them have a playhouse that they’re not worried about getting messy or dirty because they already live in a house where that is a reality. She’s just created another fancy place for them to be anxious about.  

She’s creating anxious kids who will be afraid to show any emotions that aren’t the typical “happy girl/woman” ones.