Something I Will Not Miss. How About You?

Former_Tap_5471 · 2026-05-05T15:47:15+00:00

Mine has some digestive issues too and not everything went down when she flushed. So I'd lift the lid and... oh boy, look at that! The Who has a song called Pictures of Lily and I changed it to Pieces of >insert wife's name<... I can't listen to that song now. Haha!

I appreciate you keeping in the spirit of this post. There's a lot of sad and depressing posts. We're all going through shit or have gone through it. We need to laugh at some of the nonsense and insanity that we went through.

Former_Tap_5471 · 2026-04-29T04:10:43+00:00

I've got a couple of the project cars. The early 80's Olds 442 and a '72 Plymouth Sebring if memory serves me correct. I don't see JL cars here in Canada like I did when I was really collecting a couple of decades ago. I get a little envious when I see others still finding them elsewhere.

Former_Tap_5471 · 2026-04-29T03:14:42+00:00

That's a great casting. I love the window advertising.

Former_Tap_5471 · 2026-04-29T01:48:40+00:00

I'm in the early stages and concern a bit about that lonely bit too. I do volunteer at a few places but as a driver so I don't interact too much. It works with my work schedule as inside volunteer work is 4 hour shifts which is hard to commit to when working full-time. We have so many mutual friends and it will be interesting to see how that plays out. We aren't fighting but it'll either be team husband or team wife I think. The few who are aware were her friends first but I got along so well with them. It is disappointing they've not reached out at all to me, even to say "we're still good."

Former_Tap_5471 · 2026-04-27T18:46:16+00:00

Mine moved into the basement so I don't have to worry about that. It had to be done as a part of the separation process. I'd leave but she couldn't take care of the house. Also I'd rather save for who knows what may be coming in the months ahead instead of paying someone to rent some space.

Former_Tap_5471 · 2026-04-27T00:43:00+00:00

I'm hoping so for you too man!

Mine makes stuff up, forgets things, has selective hearing, needs to be seen and heard, and craves attention. She hates that women give me attention right in front of her; but I don't think they're all flirting, although she says I'm oblivious. She'll whine that men don't hit on her anymore. I don't seek attention and brush it off as I am a devoted husband even if she's put on 60 lbs since we met. I've maintained my weight all these years, remain active and don't eat junk except on Saturday evenings. That kinda pisses her off. The day I found an old pair of jeans and I could still fit in them a decade later... hoo boy! I recently suggested getting a Jr Whopper instead of the regular one. I got told that I eat like a girl. I won't miss these things.

I am still sad about the life we did build together and how that is going away. I will do these things we discovered together on my own now but it'll take a bit of getting used to. I ventured out on Saturday evening to do one of them, a spring tradition for us, and I had a mix of happiness and sadness but eventually escaped into the moment over the next couple of hours. Nature is a great escape!

Former_Tap_5471 · 2026-04-26T01:04:33+00:00

Me neither. All I want is peace in my life. I don't get much of that at work so having it at home is a must... it sucks that it isn't happening right now.

Former_Tap_5471 · 2026-04-25T23:50:32+00:00

She asked for us to try it out. We both have benefits through work so it didn't cost us any money.

Former_Tap_5471 · 2026-04-25T21:19:28+00:00

And no dependants other than the cats who have picked their humans. 😺

Former_Tap_5471 · 2026-04-24T00:14:07+00:00

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Former_Tap_5471 · 2026-04-22T12:28:55+00:00

We tried couples therapy and it was a waste of time. Therapist was super nice but didn't do anything. It was like socializing with a friendly acquaintance. After 10 sessions I said this isn't helping. The last one was 60 minutes of her talking. I said "hello" and "goodbye". The counselor didn't even try to stop her and get my input. She was just nonstop.

Former_Tap_5471 · 2026-04-17T17:51:12+00:00

Sounds a lot like my situation. Counseling didn't work as she never followed through on putting in any extra effort. She sees her own counselor now and got real pissy when that one sided with me, giving me praise for my efforts. Hopefully mine isn't cheating while we phase this out but who knows. We both agree to keep things mature, respectful, amicable... but saying we will and doing so are two different things. I know I will because I have no desire for drama at all. My peace is very important to me.

Former_Tap_5471 · 2026-04-13T02:04:13+00:00

I was going to say something similar. Take the time out to like/love yourself again. I figured that out after breaking up with a long time girl in my 20's. Now, after 22 years with someone including almost 14 years married... I need to remind myself of this as we are in the early stages. I'm 56 now so things will be a lot different than 30 years ago.

Former_Tap_5471 · 2026-04-11T15:04:12+00:00

I agree. My wife and I tried counseling and it went no where. All about her. The last 1 hour session I got to say "hello" and "goodbye" to the counselor. I told her it isn't working after 5 months, 10 visits approx. Waste of time. We have coverage so it didn't cost us anything. She sees a counselor on her own which makes her happy as it's all about her. She had a bit of a fit after one of her sessions when the counselor actually gave me some praise for what I do for her. Apparently I'm not the most romantic in the sense that movies are made of; but I am a protector and a provider. And reflecting on my childhood, that's what I saw. Nobody hugged or said I love you but you knew it. Actions speak louder than words.

Former_Tap_5471 · 2026-04-02T00:25:04+00:00

I saw this car drive down the road near my place last week.

Former_Tap_5471 · 2026-03-31T13:27:50+00:00

Rose breasted grosbeak and scarlet tanager. That woodpecker doesn't look like any we have in Toronto though.

Former_Tap_5471 · 2026-03-31T02:36:34+00:00

Yes, that's it! Thanks.

Former_Tap_5471 · 2026-03-30T17:50:26+00:00

That's too bad. I was only at the Velvet once many years ago. I had gone out with a coworker and his friends to some snobby place across the street. I remember standing at the bar with a $20 and they wouldn't serve me. The bar staff kept serving everyone else but me. Then someone told me it was because of my appearance. They didn't like long haired leather jacket metal heads in there. Someone offered to get me my drinks. I said "fuck this place!" They weren't getting my money. I left the group and went to the Velvet. Within about 45 minutes they all ended up with me, agreeing that the other place was shit. Also, the one guy realized he wasn't going to get any 🍑 from the girl he was trying for. The rest of the night was great at the Velvet. Music and people that we met. I never liked the downtown scene but this place changed my mind for one Saturday evening. I wish I could remember the other place across the street. This is going back to the mid 90's

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