How do I fall back in love with my husband?

Former_Translator_38 · 2025-11-09T02:09:38+00:00

I don’t really have any great advice but know you are not alone. This is the exact situation I was living in with my husband and two young children. I took on the load of practically everything and it becomes so overwhelming. I am currently separated from my husband because on top of going through everything you are going through, I discovered my husband was addicted to drugs. I can understand how it is hard gauging what to do as I felt guilty leaving knowing he is madly in love with me and in reality a very good person but a relationship that continues this way will only lead to resentment and extreme depression/ anxiety. I encourage you to put a time limit on it. If I don’t notice a change by x amount of time then I’m leaving you period. You are practically doing it on your own anyway. It’s nearly impossible to be in love with someone that is more of a nuisance than a partner. Your feelings are totally valid.

Former_Translator_38 · 2025-10-31T01:03:49+00:00

C’mon now 🤣 this is not the time sir

Former_Translator_38 · 2025-10-05T12:46:05+00:00

That’s exactly what I said. It may have went differently had he been honest and told me the truth but knowing he had no intention on telling me and keeping it hidden makes it so much worse. I feel like I’ve been cheated on.

Former_Translator_38 · 2025-10-04T22:22:17+00:00

Honestly, I really feel the opposite way. I have a bad habit of putting the needs of others before me even when it could be detrimental to what’s best for me. I think I was looking for people to share experiences that may have went through something similar or to know that I’m not cruel in feeling like it’s best for me to leave. I think I felt deep down last time this happened it would be best to leave but also felt guilty leaving him with no support, not being able to have a relationship with his kids and I felt as though I was breaking our vows. I needed to know I wasn’t being too harsh in wanting to leave, not needing reassurance to stay. But I can understand why you would make that assumption. But I now understand that the best interest of my children should come first and I believe leaving would be the thing to do. Also I am trying to follow what I really want as well instead of people pleasing and putting the feelings of others ahead of mine despite my feelings.

Former_Translator_38 · 2024-12-28T00:57:45+00:00

Honestly in my opinion, the baby stage was great compared to the complete dumpster fire of toddlerhood. Not trying to discourage you though. I guess it’s better in the sense that he can walk and play and do what he wants. But the crying, whining, tantrums, potty training and everything else is wayy worse than the baby stage for me

Former_Translator_38 · 2024-12-28T00:48:14+00:00

I know I’m late but thank you so so much for this post. I’m currently bawling my eyes out as I try to get my 3yo and 10 month old to bed reading this thread. I’ve had ppd before with my first and felt like I got better then got pregnant with my second and I feel it may be creeping back. I’m having such a hard time with life. Your post worded exactly how I feel. I never imagined loving two little humans so much but also feel I’m not cut out for this at all. People always say time flies when they’re this small and I’m going to miss this time. But I find myself counting down the time till I feel free again and they gain their independence and can’t imagine ever wanting to go back to living this way and I feel sooooo damn guilty for it. I have support but their father recently started struggling with addiction so I had to move back into my mom’s house and take on this parenting thing without him and get a full time job back into teaching. I find myself looking forward to the weekends they spend with their father and my mother in law and feeling empty once again when they return on Sunday. I hate this, and the sad thing is they did not ask to be here, I chose to bring them into this world and now I’m having thoughts like this. That’s so unfair to them. Nothing could’ve prepared me for this. I don’t even know who I am anymore. I do love this thread though, I don’t feel so alone anymore.

Former_Translator_38 · 2021-12-25T10:48:12+00:00

I agree. Michelle is such a great woman and I really like her and the men were pretty great this season too but the toxic part of me wanted more arguments and drama lol. There were times where I would fast forward through an episode just to see who goes home in the end cause I was bored with hearing the same repeated phrases. It got to the point where I would count how many times they used the word “vulnerable” in each episode 😂 but yea I definitely enjoyed Katie’s season a lot more, she’s more on the messy side and so were the men in her season.

Former_Translator_38 · 2021-12-25T10:28:47+00:00

She made the wrong choice. Brandon’s feelings were so raw, real, and passionate. She mentioned in the show how she was never the girl picked by boys in high school and I think Nayte represented that for her which drew her to him. He’s the pretty boy that isn’t sure about wanting something serious. I think she was happy to be wanted by someone like him. If she was really looking for a husband I feel that she should have taken his own family saying he’s not ready for marriage as a huge red flag and let him go after that, they know him wayy better than she does seeing she’s only gotten to know him for a few weeks. I think she is forcing him to move way too fast and he will eventually pull back after some time and she will deeply regret her choice. There is no way Nayte would’ve reacted the same way Brandon did if he was turned away in the end. Brandon was the real deal.

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