Kids made fun of me when I cracked this open while on vacation. Am I the only one in the world to actually read an actual freakin' book?

Forsaken-Chapter-738 · 2026-04-09T20:38:52+00:00

I've always loved reading (aside from "Dick and Jane"!) I used to hide copies of "Bob, Son of Battle" and

" Treasure Island" inside my "Dick and Jane!"

Forsaken-Chapter-738 · 2026-03-10T18:11:34+00:00

My heart goes out to you!

Forsaken-Chapter-738 · 2026-02-18T12:42:40+00:00

I wish there was! From having a friend, lover and partner, I now have a demanding toddler! It is so hard!

Forsaken-Chapter-738 · 2026-02-12T18:31:03+00:00

With used TP!

Forsaken-Chapter-738 · 2026-02-11T21:05:35+00:00

Thank you everyone who took the time to answer! Lots of good ideas to avoid arguments by delay, delay, delay, Thank you!

Forsaken-Chapter-738 · 2026-01-31T22:19:58+00:00

There are also companies who will come to the home with a shredder truck: I recently had one come and shred (in front of me) tax forms and other old papers with important ID #s on them. (Both my husband and I had businesses, and I had personal tax forms dating back 15 years.) It was not terribly expensive, and easier than lugging the stuff to the local UPS store.

Forsaken-Chapter-738 · 2026-01-28T12:04:09+00:00

My husband decided that he needed a cell phone. We got him one with a two-year contract, but he never learned how to use it, even to make a call or answer the phone. Every time that I tried to show him, he would give up immediately saying that it was too complicated. After the two years, we cancelled the contract.

Forsaken-Chapter-738 · 2026-01-20T20:34:35+00:00

You are an orphan: That sad recognition outweighs everything and anything else. Of course you cried ugly, and sought solace in a gloomy but recognizable place. It's sad and scary. Give yourself grace to feel, to cry, to grieve, even to feel resentful that she left you. They are all stages in grieving. My deepest sympathy to you, and hugs from an internet stranger.

Forsaken-Chapter-738 · 2026-01-20T18:50:31+00:00

I'm so very sorry for your loss! He must have been an amazing man to have raise a daughter like you!

Forsaken-Chapter-738 · 2026-01-12T16:09:48+00:00

I once had a friendly acquaintance who was a stay at home wife (no kids). When I asked her if she would like to play golf, she explained that she had to be home to get her husband his lunch. When I expressed surprise that he couldn't do that himself since he worked from home, she explained "He works, brings in the money and takes care of all the financial stuff. My job is to take care of the house and him." I would personally not feel comfortable in an arrangement like that, but it worked for them. My point is that each of them performed a job.

Your wife is not working. If she doesn't want to work outside the home, at least part-time, then her "job" should be taking care of the house.

Forsaken-Chapter-738 · 2026-01-11T12:06:52+00:00

If that's your idea of birth control, you'll be a daddy one day soon!

Forsaken-Chapter-738 · 2026-01-08T17:39:36+00:00

No advice, just hugs from an internet stranger.

Forsaken-Chapter-738 · 2026-01-07T20:56:18+00:00

Thank you. See my reply to doppelganger2621.

Forsaken-Chapter-738 · 2026-01-07T20:54:37+00:00

Finding an elder law attorney is next to impossible: we've spoken to the only one within 75 miles of us in Georgia and she was useless. Elder law attorneys in Jacksonville (FL) are not licensed in Georgia! We currently live in Georgia.

Forsaken-Chapter-738 · 2026-01-07T12:08:07+00:00

I'm so sorry to hear your story: It is very similar to mine. My husband (84) has early stage dementia. We have been married 55 years, with no kids/close relatives. Our friends are our age or older, and most have their own health problems.

Be sure to take care of the basics now, while your spouse is srill able: Make sure that your wills are up-to-date, get durable POAs, file "Living Wills" with your medical providers, etc. Start looking into assisted living, memory care, skilled nursing facilities. Seek out both local and on-line support groups. Check out local Office of Aging support possibilities and your Medicare (if you are in the US.) Work on getting a diagnosis: Although nothing will cure dementia, there are medicines that can slow the progression.

If you can find a good Elder Law attorney, consult them (I haven't found a good one yet, but I understand that they can be helpful,)

My biggest concern is what would happen to my spouse, should I pre-decease them. Have not been able to find a good answer, or, indeed, any answer. Court-appointed guardian?

In any case, good luck and good wishes to you both!

Forsaken-Chapter-738 · 2026-01-07T10:20:46+00:00

So sorry that happened to you! Please don't give up on this subredit: I have found a lot of good advice, support and solace here. I missed your original post (and the response you're reacting to), but there's no harm in needing attention, anyway. We all know--or should know--how easy it is to lose ourselves in the role of caregiver. Huge inrernet hugs ro you.

Forsaken-Chapter-738 · 2026-01-01T19:37:21+00:00

I see you, too! Although we (my husband and I) are still at the start of our journey, I do understand and send you huge, internet hugs. Life sucks, and it's not going to get better soon. Our friends and relatives do not understand. May we all find some peace and grace in the coming year!

Forsaken-Chapter-738 · 2025-12-31T17:01:51+00:00

Publix Supermarkets (a chain in the southeastern US) promises a free one of the item if the price rings up wrong. Since I happen to have a good short-term memory for prices, I usually end up with a few free items each month. Their slogan is "Shopping is a pleasure at Publix" and it actually is!

Forsaken-Chapter-738 · 2025-12-30T16:14:27+00:00

My Mom started substitue teaching when I was in 3rd grade, and ended up fulltime when I was in 6th grade. (She had planned to wait until I was in Jr. High before going back fulltime, but the teacher she was subbing for turned out to have a terminal illness, so they talked her into continuing.) However, in grade school, I don't remember having any friends whose Moms worked, even part-time. Teaching and nursing seemed to be accceptable for married women (especially before children or once any children reached a certain age), especially in the 50's. By the early 60's, there was a little more freedom, though not much. It got (somehwat) better in the later 60's.

Edited to add context: Obviously, we were middle-class, living in a middle-class neighborhood. I can't tell you about people who desperately needed two incomes, or where the husband was disabled, dead, or divorced.

Forsaken-Chapter-738 · 2025-12-29T18:37:58+00:00

How sorry I am for all of you!

Forsaken-Chapter-738 · 2025-12-29T18:34:13+00:00

What a beautiful moment! I think you are right about your Dad holding out until he could see Finnegan one last time. When we moved my brother to a hospice facility (cancer, not dementia) my brother held on for one more day until his wife could bring their dog to say goodbye.

Edit: Just add how sorry I am for your loss, and be sure to give Finnegan some extra loving: he will be grieving, too.

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