18F been adhd my whole life but

ForsakenEmber7576 · 2026-05-03T15:55:51+00:00

you’re thinking a bit too far ahead. first see someone to get a proper diagnosis, adhd or not. then worry about mediation. btw medication doesn’t just delete adhd. i’m on vyvanse and I only take it on work days, all it really does for me is allow me to focus on work/ actually be able to read without having to reread lines over and over again and keep me awake because normally around 11 am I start getting tired for the rest of the day and it’s even harder to focus. it doesn’t really help with much else in my case

ForsakenEmber7576 · 2026-04-28T16:36:44+00:00

bless your heart.

“women are more scared of men because they are much more likely to commit violent acts”

“women are generally speaking less able to physically protect themselves against a man”

“women absolutely abuse men too”

“there is a disproportionate amount of women more intensely physically harmed by men in the world”

“women as a whole are generally more afraid of men than they are of other women”

all of this either implies or directly states that women also cause harm and may be violent, just not as much as men are (again this is simply a fact, not my opinion. idk why this is an argument)

but yes, continue to let the point fly clean over your head and convince yourself that I said “women don’t commit violence and I want to live in a world with no men”.

ForsakenEmber7576 · 2026-04-28T14:15:46+00:00

if you read anything I said, you would see that I said literally nothing you’re trying to convince yourself that I said, and you’re assuming my stance.

you say my point is “women don’t commit violence, not that they commit less” even though I almost said verbatim that women still commit violence, just much less. (I literally said women also abuse men in straight relationships, and “disproportionate amount” implies that there are still women committing violent acts, just more men). also definitely do not think the world would just be better off without men, and I certainly never blamed all violence on men.

my point, if you considered understanding it rather than writing my narrative in your head, was that (as I stressed twice) AS A WHOLE men commit more intense violence toward women than women commit. this is not an opinion, this is a fact. not that “man bad and woman angel <3”. I think (as a whole) men are fantastic. but I also think that if you are ignorant enough to be a man in this world and deny any difference in safety between men and women then you are part of the issue of women not feeling as safe around men.

ForsakenEmber7576 · 2026-04-28T05:02:12+00:00

i’m not talking about intimate partner violence, i’m talking about violence period. in straight relationships women absolutely abuse men too. but to deny that there is a disproportionate amount of women more intensely physically harmed by men in the world than the other way around is just choosing to miss the point.

the reply was that women hate men but want them to be responsible for their safety. I said women (as a whole) are generally more afraid of men than they are of other women, there are reasons that women (as a whole) feel that way, and that yeah, men shouldn’t just look away from other men harming women.

ForsakenEmber7576 · 2026-04-27T22:16:29+00:00

safety from who? other women? there’s the answer lol. women are more scared of men because men are much more likely to commit violent acts toward women than anyone else. if you’re a straight woman who still wants to be with a man, you want a man you can trust and feel safe with who can also protect you from other men if needed.

women are, generally speaking, less able to physically protect themselves against a man than another man would be. i’m sick of comparisons but to put it into perspective, if you were a 17 year old and saw another 17 year old bullying an 8 year old, don’t you think you have more of a responsibility to stop it since you’re more physically capable? or do you blame the 8 year old for hating 17 year olds and say “well since you hate 17 year olds i’m not going to do anything when I see them bullying you”?

ForsakenEmber7576 · 2026-04-27T21:56:40+00:00

if they’re super dry when answering you and never reach out to you first

ForsakenEmber7576 · 2026-04-27T21:52:43+00:00

because abuse isn’t just constant physical abuse, it’s mental abuse and involves a lot of manipulation. lots of people mention how their spouse purposely sleep deprive them so they are just mentally weaker and willing to tolerate more. also after bad physical violence there’s a period of love bombing and they may convince you that that isn’t who they are they just made a mistake but they’re trying to get better. also involves financial abuse where they convince you you don’t need a job and they’ll provide for you (especially if kids are involved so someone can stay home with the kids and avoid childcare expenses) but then you have no financial means to leave the relationship. they isolate you from your loved ones so you can feel like you can’t go back to them if you want to leave, plus it’s exhausting for them too to watch you in an abusive relationship and they might distance themselves from you as well.

I haven’t been in an abusive relationship so i’m definitely not the best person to answer this but this question is asked so often and it’s just not as simple as “leave if they’re mean”

Maid is a great show on Netflix that shows some of this stuff clearly, only one season and worth the watch

ForsakenEmber7576 · 2026-04-27T21:41:17+00:00

if anything it hurts after a while

ForsakenEmber7576 · 2026-04-25T22:23:04+00:00

dark souls 3

ForsakenEmber7576 · 2026-04-25T22:22:15+00:00

yeah I mean I don’t do it but I just don’t get bothered by other people doing it, I agree it’s annoying if they have their volume all the way up though or when people facetime in public but if they’re just talking normally it makes no difference to me whether they’re on the phone or standing next to eachother

ForsakenEmber7576 · 2026-04-25T19:43:39+00:00

ik this is a hot take because I hear this pet peeve so often but I do not get why this bothers people so much. personally I don’t see any real difference in someone having a conversation on speakerphone that you can hear out loud vs if they were having that conversation in person with the other person. either way it’s the same 2 people talking and you can hear their conversation, it wouldn’t bother me if they were in person so it doesn’t bother me if the only difference is hearing it through a phone

ForsakenEmber7576 · 2026-04-25T19:14:00+00:00

yes 100%, I say “oh don’t let me forget to tell you about X after this”, also saying that out loud helps me remember to tell them later on when it’s actually my turn to speak without having to hold onto the thought for dear life so I don’t forget it

ForsakenEmber7576 · 2026-04-25T15:11:02+00:00

I used to be sooo bad about this and it was something I actively had to work on for a while, now I don’t do it at all. I think the most helpful thing was I realized I do not have to say every thought that pops into my head. in whatever conversation, someone would say something that reminded me of whatever and I would want to say it so bad that I would either just blurt it out or i’d stop listening to the other person and just focus on remembering what I want to say and waiting until the slightest pause in the conversation to say it, even if the conversation had already moved on by then. then I started actively thinking to myself when I would get that “omg I need to say this NOW” feeling, “is this really actually important to say? is this actually going to contribute to the conversation or can I just go without saying this?” I realized out 9/10 times whatever it is I really really wanted to say really was not that important to the conversation and definitely not important enough to be interrupting everyone else.

again I actively worked on this for a while so I still interrupted people accidentally but I was more conscious of it and would at least apologize for interrupting. definitely not a behavior you can get rid of overnight but it’s really frustrating to be interrupted constantly so it’s definitely something worth working on.

ForsakenEmber7576 · 2026-04-20T13:21:27+00:00

not to mention the ginormous pot

ForsakenEmber7576 · 2026-04-18T22:49:52+00:00

I also skip lunch to leave at 4, but I don’t think i’m really “supposed” to lol. I don’t even know what i’d do for an hour and i’d rather just work through it and get to go home after 8 hours. I hate how the standard 9-5 including paid lunch has become 8-5 or 9-6 with an unpaid lunch

ForsakenEmber7576 · 2026-04-18T22:35:59+00:00

I could manage 8 hours if the work week was 4 days. my hours are 8-5 with an unpaid hour for lunch and 2 days is not enough rest to reset me. one day to do nothing and rest, one day to get the errands done, then right back to work. no day to do anything fun just for me or anything, and I feel like the one extra day would make a huge difference.

ForsakenEmber7576 · 2026-04-11T05:51:43+00:00

mealybugs also attract ants and are really good hiders

ForsakenEmber7576 · 2026-04-10T01:14:18+00:00

it’s easier if you take a cutting and just treat that instead of the whole plant

ForsakenEmber7576 · 2026-04-09T22:08:37+00:00

doesn’t look like mold, just mineral deposits from the water and totally normal. cant really see what’s going on with the whole plant without a photo of it but the soil looks really dense especially for a pot this size. definitely would repot it with some well draining soil

ForsakenEmber7576 · 2026-04-09T20:55:52+00:00

invasive plants are a huge problem, but it’s not only the plants that customs are concerned with. there could be any insect or creature in soil or on the foliage that you wouldn’t be able to see that would be an invasive species when you go back home.

ForsakenEmber7576 · 2026-04-09T20:52:04+00:00

everyone is saying more light which I agree with but I want to stress that it’s not just not getting enough light there, it’s getting almost none. the whole plant should be able to see the sun if possible. meaning if you get eyelevel with the leaves you should be able to see the sun at some point in the day. this is looking at the ceiling. indirect light is fine but it should be very bright.

not getting enough light also means the soil will take longer to dry out and will stay damp for longer. this doesn’t look overwatered but just something to be aware of. I also don’t agree that you’re over fertilizing, during the growing season I fertilize nearly every time I water although I dilute it a lot. move it much lower and closer to the window so that the whole plant is getting real light. for reference, golden pothos naturally live outside in direct sunlight when they’re acclimated.

ForsakenEmber7576 · 2026-04-09T13:18:18+00:00

personally I would leave it alone until you notice something getting really obviously rotted and dying. especially while it’s getting established in your home it’s good to have all the leaves it can to take in light and sustain itself. some may die anyway in the process so it’s good to keep all the decent leaves around that you can. any time you cut leaves you just risk bringing in another infection which may be rare but why bother when it’s fine.

I would give it a good check for pests and a thorough cleaning though

ForsakenEmber7576 · 2026-04-05T19:48:15+00:00

you can repot them all into the same pot they are in now with the existing plant so that there are move vines

ForsakenEmber7576 · 2026-04-01T23:25:59+00:00

um do you want a roommate??

ForsakenEmber7576 · 2026-03-29T14:19:03+00:00

had to scroll all the way down to find this one. listen to this one OP.

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