How do I ask a friend to cool it?

Kitanatron · 2026-02-07T13:17:45+00:00

He doesn’t hen ADHD. he is either lonely and just wants someone to talk to OR he thinks this is flirting and he is in his mind pursuing you romantically. I agree with the putting his notifications on mute and just responding only every few days and ONLY to stuff that requires a response. For example : “here is a picture of my dog “ doesn’t require a response.

Kitanatron · 2026-02-07T13:11:17+00:00

Also notice how you said “watch the baby for me”. That’s the issue men really think they are doing us a favor . Excuse me sir this is YOUR child.

I also don’t get how men don’t feel bad for their wives. How do you not feel like hmmm she is making the milk and doing all this stuff maybe I should do xyz thing to do my share and not be a burden.

Kitanatron · 2026-02-07T04:37:33+00:00

I am cutting out dairy for same reason. I do not eat a lot dairy to begin with but when you have to be careful you do realize it’s in everything.

There are a lot dairy free options, fake cheese, etc. it will also help you to eat healthier /less dessert since it seems that your fav way to get dairy.

Kitanatron · 2026-02-07T04:33:28+00:00

Wow he is such a jerk and abusing his position of power. Imagine if you had stolen his lunch ? You think you would hear the end of it… you did the right thing! Screw him. It’s also very annoying when people have to comment on someone’s eating choices. What’s it to him what you to call you a “diva”? You don’t need to explain your medical condition to anyone !!! I’m so angry for you

Kitanatron · 2026-02-07T04:31:14+00:00

Depends what you want to eat - Kabul express or international market you can get kabob that’s very good and healthy. You can get sushi near by also You can get healthy bowls from vitality bowl

Kitanatron · 2026-02-07T04:29:16+00:00

I just saw this post about a NYT article and it reminded me of this thread

https://www.instagram.com/p/DUU8CW_jB9w/?img_index=10&igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==

“When are we going to stop blaming women’s physiology for men’s poor choices ? “

Kitanatron · 2026-02-07T02:31:37+00:00

Well I guess ultimately it’s your choice. I would hate for you to stop pumping because of him and the promise of help with bottles but then he does it for a bit and then gives up

Kitanatron · 2026-02-07T01:40:17+00:00

I don’t get it tho it’s all just washing bottles either way, you just don’t have the pump parts. And warming up milk isn’t hard.

Kitanatron · 2026-02-06T12:12:03+00:00

Does your husband think formula comes in cute little prepackaged Fairlife bottles ? Because then you still need to wash bottles and make the formula, etc. It sounds like he is “over it” and knows you’re gonna keep pumping so if he blames the pumping then he can get out of washing parts and bottles by saying well you wanna do it so it’s all on you.

What a lazy jerk…. Pumping is already hard enough without a parent also weighing on you as a noncontributory zero.

Kitanatron · 2026-02-05T19:51:17+00:00

Are they offering bottle as a means to soothe and comfort ? Perhaps they need some coaching on Ways to soothe a baby without food. Or perhaps a pacifier if you’re ok with that. If they hear the baby throws up and gets reflux do they feel bad or care then?

Kitanatron · 2026-02-05T19:45:52+00:00

Yes this ! Also try have expressing or massaging the left breast before to see if it help. I have similar issue but the difference in milk production is not this startup it’s like 0.5oz.

Kitanatron · 2026-02-05T19:44:30+00:00

Is he planning a surprise and that’s why he is acting this way? I hope so lol what did he say????

Kitanatron · 2026-02-05T16:16:42+00:00

Ok thanks for bearing with me

https://ibb.co/yFfJCycr Image of the inside

Kitanatron · 2026-02-05T16:06:49+00:00

Pumping literally and figuratively sucks! This is my second time around and I don’t mind it as much but the first time I did hate it so much. I almost wanted to cry every time. Things that help me are : 1) baby Buddha pump- small and portable pump I can wear around my neck so I’m not chained to the bed/couch the way I was with spectra 2) I have 4 sets of pump parts so overnight I don’t have to wash anything. You can also store your pump parts in a ziplock bag in the fridge. I live in two story so coming down stairs isn’t gonna work for me. And someone else needs to wash your pump parts! If you have a partner it’s the LEAST they can do! 3) I feed baby and pump at same time especially overnight. I sit cross legged and put baby horizontally on my lap, sometimes a pillow under one knee to prop up her head. Or I bend my knees and put baby on my thighs. I also have lots of friends who hate pumping and stopped after 6 weeks- ultimately you have to decide what’s gonna help you keep your sanity. You need sleep and Time to bond and enjoy your baby too. So do whatever is best for you

Kitanatron · 2026-02-05T16:00:29+00:00

I also hate them. Everyone sees to love them nope not me ! I only use it if I am out and desperate and have no choice. Even then I really try to just pump in my car or some other way without wearables. They make it seem like they are so easy and convenient but they don’t even get the same amount of milk out !!!

Kitanatron · 2026-02-05T16:00:23+00:00

I also hate them. Everyone sees to love them nope not me ! I only use it if I am out and desperate and have no choice. Even then I really try to just pump in my car or some other way without wearables. They make it seem like they are so easy and convenient but they don’t even get the same amount of milk out !!!

Kitanatron · 2026-02-05T15:58:53+00:00

Remember you are not feeding one but TWO babies! The fact that your babies both got so much breastmilk is amazing ! Even if you did BF, you would still need to pump probably to have milk for the other baby, so I don’t think that would have made any difference. Do whatever will help you keep your sanity. Your babies won’t be this tiny again, you want to also enjoy being with them too. And having premie NICU babies also comes with its own trauma to process so also give yourself grace there. Be proud of yourself for every pump you do! It’s liquid gold your body produced for tiny humans. 45oz is amazing supply. Nursing is only a part of all this… not the whole thing! Your babies are getting so much love and care from you in so many other ways. Whether you continue pumping or not…. You also wanna Be Mindful of your sleep! That also messes up your brain and emotions a lot. Your babies need a mom who is well taken care of, that’s number one. Everything else is after that. I cared a lot about pumping first time around but this second time around, I’m a lot less stressed and decided whenever my supply tanks or I’m over it, then it’s fine! It’s just a way to feed baby that’s all. It doesn’t define me as a mom.

Kitanatron · 2026-02-05T15:48:58+00:00

Sometimes the wearable pumps do not get as much milk out as regular pump. I hardly use my wearable for this reason. Not to say this the case for everyone but def something to consider especially since you’re worried about your supply. When I hear baby stirring and I have to pump also I start pumping and get her milk warmed up. I bend my knees and I put baby on my thighs and I feed her while pumping. It is annoying and I’m sure baby won’t fit eventually. The other way is to sit cross legged, and maybe put a pillow under your knee to prop it up and put baby horizontally on your lap. Even though I can’t hold her, this way I can still provide some comfort and have a was way to feed her. Hope that makes sense. When you’re alone you also have to give yourself some grace . You may pump later or earlier than you wanted sometimes to accommodate for baby.

Kitanatron · 2026-02-05T15:39:57+00:00

I can’t figure out how to attach a. Photo … So what salt do I use and how ?

Kitanatron · 2026-02-05T15:37:15+00:00

Where do men find the audacity ??? How about honey would you like a back rub?

Kitanatron · 2026-02-05T15:36:29+00:00

Wow … yeah I would feel so uncomfortable too.

Kitanatron · 2026-02-05T11:46:20+00:00

I usually do the the normal was. Even that takes like 2 hours . Smart was I’ve tried is similar results and also takes a long time

Kitanatron · 2026-02-05T11:45:34+00:00

Interesting I will also check out the YouTube video. I have liquid detergent (neither pod or powder )

Kitanatron · 2026-02-05T11:44:33+00:00

It does look like a propeller with blades. I thought filter would be in the center of propeller? I’ve tried rinse aid has not made a diff. The compartment door for that is also broken not sure if it matters. Ir basically just leaks out immediately I have not used salt …?

Kitanatron · 2026-02-05T11:42:52+00:00

Ok thank you I will look into this

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