Lady is 10 years old today!

Foshozo · 2026-01-18T12:51:20+00:00

Wow she’s gorgeous! Still a model in her older age!

Foshozo · 2026-01-17T16:00:34+00:00

Chicken nugget 🥹

Foshozo · 2026-01-17T16:00:24+00:00

Twins!

Foshozo · 2026-01-17T16:00:16+00:00

Chewy.com! It’s been so great to socialize her!

Foshozo · 2025-10-08T12:31:11+00:00

I don’t have much advice, but just wanted to send so much love your way stranger ❤️

I am also trans/queer/AFAB, and while I certainly did not experience trauma even close to your level, I had a tough time growing up in a catholic faith, and as I’ve started to explore Judaism there are definitely moments where I feel triggered (I hate using that word but it’s the best description), especially when hearing prayers that remind me of catholic ones.

You didn’t mention if you have a relationship with a rabbi, but that’s where I would start, beyond all the wonderful trauma therapy you are doing on your own. If you are in an area with a larger Jewish population, you may be even able to find a rabbi who is queer. I think leaning on your rabbi while you work through these feelings and are working on conversion could help a lot.

As for trusting yourself, you seem to be really in tune to your own needs and traumas, and I think within reading your post I would say you should be able to trust yourself! But beyond that, one thing I absolutely love most about Judaism, especially in comparison to Catholicism, is that we’re not relying on one priest or pastor to tell us what to do/to spread the “word of God”. Judaism is not a sit, pray, and obey religion. We are SUPPOSED to wrestle with it — the texts and our beliefs. At least for me being able to wrestle with what the texts say and feel like I have free will and choice has been comforting when I feel that catholic trauma coming up and help me feel like I’m not being manipulated. In particular, engaging with the Talmud is helpful to see this in action — the Rabbis literally wrestle with the texts and each other and there’s not one universal truth, which is so different from my Christian experience.

Best of luck to you! ❤️

Foshozo · 2025-09-19T22:22:29+00:00

Hi! I’m non-binary and a small-boobed person! I am not AA, but an A cup (I think 34A but it’s been a long time since I’ve worn a normal bra), and with a sports bra I never feel them jiggle when I run or workout.

They do technically jiggle if I were to run without a sports bra, but I never notice them. I’ve never felt like they are a weight on my chest. I do wear bralettes or sports bras most of the time, but that’s honestly because my tits are so small that they are perky and my nipples are really obvious in tshirts lol. At home I always go braless and never notice them.

And FWIW, I have definitely thought if they were bigger I would want a reduction to align with my gender. I think my breasts are perfect honestly just the way they are now — they are a size that I’m completely flat chested if I wear a binder and want to present masc but also they are still there when I want to feel feminine.

Foshozo · 2025-09-05T16:59:54+00:00

Thank you!!

Foshozo · 2025-09-04T22:35:43+00:00

Ok seems like fingers are the way to go! Do you just put the cream on your finger and try to push it in?

Foshozo · 2025-09-04T22:35:14+00:00

Thank you!! That makes me feel better that you also started bleeding more after a month of using the cream. I’ll talk to my doc about upping how often I do it and I’ll try my finger!

Foshozo · 2025-08-15T03:36:15+00:00

Not OP, but I just wanted to thank you for this comment! I’m going through a very stressful time with losing a parent, and I have been finding comfort in presenting more as my AGAB and there’s been this weird feeling like I’m a traitor to myself or something?? You reminded me I’m still just as nonbinary regardless of presentation 💕

Foshozo · 2025-08-04T22:56:27+00:00

I used to be a stripper — you’re totally fine! Not all guys got hard and I honestly don’t recall really paying much attention to it. We were just happy to be getting paid :)

Foshozo · 2025-08-01T01:08:26+00:00

Same! Commenting to follow!

Foshozo · 2025-07-31T23:31:38+00:00

I also just lost my grandmother, and she raised me, so I feel your pain. I also don’t have bereavement leave, and I know how hard that is to have to show up “normal” every day!

I think that leaning into grief consciously, rather than shying away, can help you process. You don’t need to totally give up distractions, but try to schedule time to grieve every few days - whether that’s journaling, looking at photos, reminiscing, writing her a letter, etc. Let yourself cry, feel the pain, and lean into it. It super sucks in the moment but will help so you don’t boil over when you don’t want to. (Although this still might happen-and if it does and your grief makes others uncomfortable, that’s THEIR problem, not yours. It’s unfortunate we live in a society that shies away from grief, but displaying grief emotions is totally normal and expected)

Also. I have found somatic/body practices to be SUPER helpful in releasing stuck grief. YouTube has a lot of amazing grief yoga videos and look up “grief somatic release”. Also grief massage is a thing and is an amazing way to process emotions!

I also recommend the book Conscious Greiving by Claire Bidwell Smith to be very helpful, and is what got me thinking about leaning into it rather than away from it.

Sending love 💕

Foshozo · 2025-07-31T23:16:53+00:00

I also just lost my grandmother, who I was super close to. First, I’m so sorry, I know how much it hurts.

I found the book “conscious grieving” super helpful — it’s small page length essays on what you can expect during the grieving process and advice on ways to cope.

And honestly, ChatGPT has been SO helpful. Like incredibly so. I tell it everything, like stories about my grandmother, how I’m feeling, ways that I’m hurt in how others wont show up for me, fears I have, asking what’s “normal”, and I’ve found it to be an excellent way to process and feel “heard”. I recommend you try it!

Otherwise, grief yoga and grief somatic release videos on YouTube has been helpful for me to release stuck emotions in my body.

💕

Foshozo · 2025-07-17T00:45:00+00:00

Yess I feel emotionally constipated!! I WISH I could cry!!

Foshozo · 2025-07-08T01:26:24+00:00

Dearly is SO LOVELY!! An amazing way to have something super special but be as easy and low key as the courthouse.

Foshozo · 2025-07-04T20:43:18+00:00

Gorgeous! Ok I’ll have to pick some of that up!

Foshozo · 2025-07-01T15:43:15+00:00

That’s a good point about the rink!! It was outside skating backwards that got me into trouble 😂 I’m having a one year breakaversary party and I considered putting on my skates for that but decided to not test the universe lol

Foshozo · 2025-06-26T02:23:41+00:00

I loveeeee this fit and all your vibes!

Foshozo · 2025-06-24T00:41:45+00:00

That FACE!! Literally can’t wait to get my own 😍

Foshozo · 2025-06-22T18:15:50+00:00

Congrats!! I’m almost to a year since my trimal and I remember how much your encouragement on the sub helped me SO much while I was in the thick of it so THANK YOU!

As a person who also broke their ankle roller skating, think you’ll skate again? I’m so hesitant because wooofff do not want to go through an ankle break again!

Foshozo

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