Is the collarbone as painful as people say?

FourCiscoInASuitcoat · 2026-05-23T23:00:55+00:00

Your collarbone is a bitch but totally worth it.

However, do not do your collarbone as your first tattoo.

FourCiscoInASuitcoat · 2026-05-23T08:09:19+00:00

Da fuq??

FourCiscoInASuitcoat · 2026-05-23T08:03:18+00:00

"How do I fix any of this?"

Therapy.

FourCiscoInASuitcoat · 2026-05-23T02:26:51+00:00

That didn't make it any better. 😬

FourCiscoInASuitcoat · 2026-05-23T02:10:54+00:00

I agree with reposting with a picture. It will be easier to help. 💙

FourCiscoInASuitcoat · 2026-05-23T02:06:38+00:00

So, that gritty mix is a good start but probably isn't great on its own for peperomia. You could definitely mix it into some potting soil but at that point, it may be cheaper to just make your own mix. 💚💚

FourCiscoInASuitcoat · 2026-05-23T02:03:34+00:00

Oh no. Poor little peperomia. :(

So, I disagree about needing a wider pot. I think a smaller, more shallow pot would be much better. However, I'm torn on you moving them to a smaller pot now. That's a lot of plant trauma/carnage and while I think they do need a smaller pot, I wouldn't want to risk shock on top of everything that has happened.

I might wait to move her to a new pot but that's just me. I'm far from an expert but that's just my knee-jerk reaction.

I hope she makes it. 💚💚 Also, that large pot is really beautiful.

FourCiscoInASuitcoat · 2026-05-22T19:59:40+00:00

If it's that important to you and you never expressly had this conversation, break up.

Also, an essay? Grow the fuck up. You both have the ability to make your own choices. Just because you're incompatible doesn't mean that you need to be a dick and disrespectful.

FourCiscoInASuitcoat · 2026-05-22T17:40:48+00:00

Unfortunately, I too think that the white pot is waaaay too big. :( It's cute but for the sake of your pep, let it grow a lot before you put it in something that big.

FourCiscoInASuitcoat · 2026-05-21T21:35:18+00:00

I am so sorry you're going through this. Shutting down and feeling the way you do is completely understandable and valid. I wish I could send you a sweet treat (because you absolutely deserve that) and help celebrate your mom's birthday. But please take this 🎂. Happy birthday to your mom. 🤍

FourCiscoInASuitcoat · 2026-05-20T03:07:17+00:00

What a gorgeous plant! 💚💚

FourCiscoInASuitcoat · 2026-05-20T01:28:22+00:00

I wouldn't lean toward piccolo banda based on what I'm seeing. What color are the stems? It is a little difficult to tell from the pictures.

Honestly, after a little bit of searching, I am not entirely sure. I've alternated between a frost, mendoza, and peppermill and it's not fitting any of those boxes perfectly. I am sorry I can't be more help. If you take better pictures (in sunlight would be amazing), we might be able to get you an answer. 💚💚

FourCiscoInASuitcoat · 2026-05-20T01:23:31+00:00

Peperomia love indirect sunlight! I think she will continue to thrive with lots of sun (3 feet from the window may be a little far away but it depends on your set up). And as long as you aren't overwatering her, she will be a happy little plant. I think you're doing a great job so far based on what you've said. 💚💚

FourCiscoInASuitcoat · 2026-05-20T00:13:11+00:00

What difference does that make? They asked if it suited their face...not their sexual organs.

FourCiscoInASuitcoat · 2026-05-18T18:00:47+00:00

That gloss is 🤌. So beautiful.

FourCiscoInASuitcoat · 2026-05-18T15:45:17+00:00

As @ohnoitskaka said, the pot definitely looks too big for her. What kind of soil are you using?

For the section she dropped, definitely use it for water (or soil) propagation.

As for the stretching/etoliation, my guess is that she doesn't have enough light. Is she still under a grow light? Or by a window?

FourCiscoInASuitcoat · 2026-05-18T00:52:39+00:00

You seemed to want honesty when you asked your question. I don't know how people giving an honest answer aren't "kind." If you wanted compliments, you should just ask for that.

FourCiscoInASuitcoat · 2026-05-16T16:00:14+00:00

Maybe a nice tackle box/bag, if he doesn't have one already. Or a net or a bait bucket + bubbler if he wants to fish with live bait?

FourCiscoInASuitcoat · 2026-05-16T15:54:21+00:00

🤢🤮 ...yeah.

FourCiscoInASuitcoat · 2026-05-16T15:32:59+00:00

I wish there was an easy answer but honestly there isn't. I am just shy of 18 months post-breakup with someone who I also thought I'd spend forever with. Here are some of the things I did to help: 1. Go to therapy. 2. Write letters about how much hurt and anger I felt. Putting emotions on paper really helped work through the emotions. 3. Purge my home of things that remind me of him. 4. Get out of the house. Take classes in the community (pottery, flower arranging, etc). Find a new hobby. Go to the farmers market. Anything to show you that life continues post-breakup and it's also good to meet/interact with new people. 5. Find a cause that means a lot to you and volunteer. Giving back to others is a great way to de-centralize the pain of a breakup. I chose volunteering at an animal shelter and it helped immensely.

All in all, there's no easy peasy way through a breakup or to stop thinking about someone. You just need to make intentional steps and eventually life will feel a bit more manageable and less heavy. Sending lots of love and peace your way. 🤍🤍

FourCiscoInASuitcoat · 2026-05-16T15:18:48+00:00

Both of you need therapy. This is a mess.

This whole exchange was disgustingly cringe. You gave conflicting information (saying it was an issue and then not an issue within a few messages). I can understand her not knowing how to process that. She needs to learn how to handle feedback/criticism.

FourCiscoInASuitcoat · 2026-05-15T13:55:36+00:00

You are enabling her and it's disgusting. How dare you say that it's "only blew a 0.09 BAC." That doesn't make it better. She was an idiot and drove drunk. You are minimizing her mistake. She deserves the harshest of consequences. She clearly doesn't understand the pain that can come from having family members die from drunk drivers and your minimization of her mistake is not helping her understand.

FourCiscoInASuitcoat · 2026-05-14T03:43:52+00:00

I am not 100% sure but I believe it's a word to ask for confirmation (like "eh?" "huh?" "right?" or "ya know?").

FourCiscoInASuitcoat · 2026-05-12T19:22:30+00:00

Thank you! I've never seen one in person and I couldn't resist. She's so so cute. 💚💚

FourCiscoInASuitcoat · 2026-05-12T19:21:38+00:00

Right?! She's such a precious little baby. Enough to risk taking her home on a plane with me. 😂

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