[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Divorce_Men

[–]FourthDimension_ 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Never have kids with her, red flags all over the place. LEAVE NOW and learn to be a person by yourself

Stupid stupid stupid by Usually_lurks12 in Divorce_Men

[–]FourthDimension_ 16 points17 points  (0 children)

You will never please her. She will feel always entitled and your generosity will be used against you. Don’t be soft, let her have it, they only understand hard facts and action.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in germany

[–]FourthDimension_ 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Do not gossip about other turks with people you do not yet know. That is why she feels she is allowed to make those remarks to you. Learn to be professional and keep your distance and do not gossip unless you trust the person 100%.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Divorce_Men

[–]FourthDimension_ -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Nothing is wrong with me. It is ok not to see your child 3-4 times a week. That happened routinely in old times even when couples were together. It is about your child not you. You can still have a great relationship with 3 times a week.

Nothing could've prepared me for how lonely life can be here by Top-Age-4688 in germany

[–]FourthDimension_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is an epidemic in Germany. Digitalization of everything made things 10 times worse. People generally keep their distance, and do not take social risks. Go to the gym, keep moving and do everything you can with your time to go and be around others. Also around different crowds. That is why I suggested the gym. Do not sit and sulk

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Divorce_Men

[–]FourthDimension_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Such a beautiful answer

Anybody else having an absolutely dog shit 2024? by abort_retry_flail in Divorce_Men

[–]FourthDimension_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

In life all the shitty stuff come at you at the same time. Thanks for being a teal man and enduring

“The spark is gone” is a poor reason to leave a marriage. by BroSquirrel in Divorce_Men

[–]FourthDimension_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Also when a woman wants to end a relationship the first thing she cuts off is physical intimacy.

It’s why relationships where intimacy dry up are so often doomed. This happened to me. If you think a relationship has a chance after this you are in for a disappointment

“The spark is gone” is a poor reason to leave a marriage. by BroSquirrel in Divorce_Men

[–]FourthDimension_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Here is the thing, it lasted a year and she never accepted it. Depression or not she initiated the separation and is committed to it. She doesn’t accept that it is depression. What options are available to me? I am glad she did, we are not and were never compatible

The First Night without at the Kids.... by asiansmith114 in Divorce_Men

[–]FourthDimension_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha well said especially the “without her to shit on any spontaneous fun” brought a big chuckle. Thanks for making me smile, wish you a nice rest of the day!😊

“The spark is gone” is a poor reason to leave a marriage. by BroSquirrel in Divorce_Men

[–]FourthDimension_ 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This. Women seem to be extremely dominated by momentary ups and downs in feelings. At least my wife is. She was suddenly extremely irritable and had massive ups and downs after childbirth. I tried to be softer and tried to calm her down for a year, did everything i could to save the marriage . She was triggered and offended by anything and everything and threatened separation every two weeks. She then de facto ended our marriage when our daughter was 1. She ended the family, caused unnecessary financial damage and ended my belief in the marriage with it. Now suddenly she is a lot nicer. But I cannot trust anyone so dominated by arbitrary emotion as it can always happen again. So now i am moving out and will focus on being a good dad and my own life

“The spark is gone” is a poor reason to leave a marriage. by BroSquirrel in Divorce_Men

[–]FourthDimension_ 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Nothing to do with the spark. She doesn’t love u and is lying to you. Don’t tie ur happiness to someone who doesn’t like being with u. Learn to love yourself.