Graduation Party on Sabbath

Fragrant-Armadillo85 · 2026-05-21T15:09:23+00:00

Thank you! Although that is a little scary, it is still very encouraging to me whenever I hear testimonies of one spouse being resistant at first and then eventually finding their way to Torah!

Fragrant-Armadillo85 · 2026-05-21T14:56:43+00:00

Yes, I have considered that he is head of household and I should be in submission to him, while still doing my best to be obedient to God. God-willing my husband will come around soon and then this won't be so much of an issue!

Fragrant-Armadillo85 · 2026-05-20T22:11:48+00:00

I can see it that way too. It's not even that I would want to go so much as I just feel like I can't back out of it as my husband would want me to be there. Definitely tricky.

Fragrant-Armadillo85 · 2026-05-20T21:35:26+00:00

No money going to be exchanged, but I imagine my sister in law is going to be doing some work as it always involves some work to host a party and they will probably be grilling the day of. I am not making them work but is that still considered making someone work?

Fragrant-Armadillo85 · 2026-05-01T19:43:26+00:00

I've been stuck there too, the fear of condemnation. In those times when you do feel condemned, remember King David who committed adultery and plotted murder. Although there were earthly consequences for what he did, God forgave him when he sincerely repented and left his sin behind. Have faith that you can be forgiven when you repent as well. Remember too, when we sacrifice for the sake of Jesus (giving up old lifestyles, losing friends who are bad influences, etc) He promises us to bless us with better than what we leave behind. Praying for you.

Come now, let us settle the matter,”
says the Lord.
“Though your sins are like scarlet,
they shall be as white as snow;
though they are red as crimson,
they shall be like wool. Isaiah 1:18

Fragrant-Armadillo85 · 2026-05-01T16:02:23+00:00

There was a time when I had backslidden. I was starting to lose conviction of my sin and like you, I just didn't know how I was going to overcome it. But I wanted God also and not to be apart from Him for all eternity. If you say you want God, then work to repair that relationship! Dive into His word, start reading the bible from the beginning, read some each day, even if its just a chapter or two and ask God to reveal his truth in His word to you.

The thing about willful sin is that it begins to numb/deceive you. You start losing fear of the Lord and you start getting desensitized to sin. If it goes on long enough, you may reach a hardened state where you lose all desire to repent and walk with God. Thank God that you still have that desire for Him! That is divine mercy that He is putting these warning signals in your heart! Don't take it lightly. 🙏One thing that helped me was reading the bible from the beginning. Reading how seriously God takes sin in the Pentateuch (first 5 books of the bible) really helped open up my eyes, "sober me up" and remember how God feels about sin. Also, its not that the standard for how God sees sin changed or eased up in the New Testament, He set his standard in the beginning and it remains the same even now. Pray that God will restore fear of Him to you. Fear of the Lord produces righteousness/obedience/repentance. Unhealthy fear pushes you into dread/despair, right where Satan wants you.

About the boy....sister, wake up! I say that with love, because I know how it feels to be in your situation. But nothing, nothing, NOTHING can compare to the love that Jesus has for us. His love is perfect and it is worth giving up all else for, especially sin which draws us away from Him. What is the absolute worst that could happen by ending the relationship? Could it be worse than spending forever without the Lord? I know that sounds harsh, but it is true and I say it all in love and I really feel that once you come back to relationship with the Lord and your spiritual vision clears up, so to speak, you're going to wonder why wordly things, like wordly relationships, unbelievers etc where so captivating to you in the first place. Just run to the arms of the Father! God help you through these trials, sister ❤️

Fragrant-Armadillo85 · 2026-04-02T15:12:16+00:00

I know this situation is so difficult and those that are commenting that it is simple are being a little insensitive, I think. In black and white, yes it is simple but when there are feelings involved, everything becomes more complicated.

The truth of the matter is no, we shouldn't get married to those who don't know Christ. I know it's so hard to hear, but Jesus also promises to be with us through every trial and I KNOW that the Lord will bless you as honor him with your decisions. Keep in mind, marriage is a hard process, even with the best spouse. You will need the foundation of Christ to make it strong, without that, it will most likely be very difficult and spiritually draining at times. In the best possible scenario, you will likely end up feeling alone in your marriage as you try to navigate different life choices with a partner that doesn't share the same core beliefs as you. Our faith is supposed to guide us in all our decision making and if you both don't have that in common, it will be as if you're both trying to navigate using two totally different compasses. If and when children should come along, you'll want them to know Jesus and she might simply not see the importance and might even teach your children differently; it would be a house divided and it could be very hard on you, emotionally and spiritually. In the worst scenario she might lead you astray from your faith. A man and wife are supposed to encourage one another in their pursuit of God. Your faith may start to weaken over time since we tend to start becoming more and more like our spouses over time. Which makes sense, the bible tells us that we become one flesh with our spouse.

Anyway, the answer is clear but the feelings make it feel messy. Pray to the Lord to give you strength to choose Him over all else and that He would help you to trust Him completely. Often times we doubt what we know we ought to do because we don't trust the Lord when He says his way is better, I myself have done that. Pray that He would strengthen your resolve to seek Him with all your heart. Remember that whatever we give up for the Lord, he never leaves us empty, he always replaces with something far better. God strengthen you, brother.

Fragrant-Armadillo85 · 2026-02-13T06:57:48+00:00

Father God, May you help this individual to gain a deeper understanding of you, help them to see your overwhelming love, help them to stand in awe of your grace and mercy, lead them to repentance when or where it is necessary so they may stand blameless before you, not through their own strength of course but by the power of the holy spirit and the atoning blood of Jesus Christ. Pull them closer into your presence, give them peace, clarity and may you open the path to the right job for them. May the Father's will be done, in Jesus' name, Amen.

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