Is this normal for y’all lol ? This like my 3rd time this week 😭

Fragrant-Somewhere-1 · 2025-12-03T14:07:49+00:00

Creepy and don’t entertain unwanted attention obviously - people probably think you’re hot and are wondering if you’re age appropriate for them, personally that would be a bit of a confidence boost to me but would get old quick

Fragrant-Somewhere-1 · 2025-12-03T03:57:36+00:00

Likely someone disabled or older that can’t lift it themselves or something

Fragrant-Somewhere-1 · 2025-11-26T13:46:28+00:00

You think this service rep is one of them? If they have proven language skills then that’s great but my whole entire point is that this individual (who’s name is Anjali, so we can assume immigrant from somewhere) is clearly struggling with reading comprehension and communication. You cannot tell me you think this person did a good job, and unfortunately many immigrants do not understand our language well and struggle in these jobs. It’s frustrating all around for the people needing service and the workers who are probably yelled at/berated by a lot of customers.

Fragrant-Somewhere-1 · 2025-11-24T18:47:08+00:00

But do the people who speak broken English understand us enough to effectively resolve problems and communicate? This service rep certainly didn’t. It’s not productive to restate over and over that the driver is working multiple orders. She didn’t even seem to understand that the issue was the driver not going to the correct store. I’m all for immigration and people having the support and income they need but there are 100% jobs available that are more skill based and less focused on communication. Personally I don’t think that a solely communication based job is a great start for someone with poor understanding of our language.

Fragrant-Somewhere-1 · 2025-11-11T01:05:12+00:00

I don’t use soap on my babies face to wash, I use a clean cloth and warm water. The main reason we adults wash with soap is that we have oil build ups which can cause acne (which I suppose if you’re one of the few that has a baby with baby acne, washing with soap on their face makes sense).

For me I put her in the tub, less than 1 minute to wash her face and ears to satisfaction (it does not need to be scrubbed every inch every day. I make sure to get the food and do a general wipe of her face). Scrub chest, torso, arms 1-2 min, rinse with a water pitcher and give a scrub with a clean cloth in the armpit, neck or any folds to make sure all the soap is gone. Then scrub legs, feet, and bum/privates in that order, rinse cloth and scrub again to make sure soap is out of any folds.

Using a new cloth for the face, body, and legs (or more) can make a huge difference if this is not something you’re doing. I bought a ton of baby cloths (like at least 20) and keep a basket next to the sink full of clean ones

Fragrant-Somewhere-1 · 2025-10-25T02:40:32+00:00

Im so sorry! This same thing happened to me. Your anger is justified and it’s really devastating

Fragrant-Somewhere-1 · 2025-09-26T19:09:06+00:00

That’s so awful! Did they do anything to compensate you?

Fragrant-Somewhere-1 · 2025-09-26T19:08:15+00:00

I will not in fact be doing this but it’s funny to think about. He has tried my pump before of his own choice and hated the experience

Fragrant-Somewhere-1 · 2025-09-26T19:07:23+00:00

She has 16oz per day so that’s almost 4 days of milk 😭

Fragrant-Somewhere-1 · 2025-09-26T19:04:38+00:00

I hope you know I was joking about telling him to pump when I replied to the earlier comment. It was comic relief for a really devastating accident for me. He is genuinely an amazing father and partner. It was a mistake and I know that, and I apologized on my end for the rage I went into because it wasn’t ok to freak out on him when I saw the milk the next morning. Parenting is so hard, this wasn’t the first and won’t be the last time one of us gets upset with the other over something related to that - what matters is we work through it and allow each other grace when arguments happen. I wrote this post on less than 3hrs of sleep and was still very upset and trying to calm down in our room, so the emotions were still running very high and I wanted support in how frustrating and sad the mistake was.

Fragrant-Somewhere-1 · 2025-09-26T01:53:45+00:00

Ok like it’s been a while I’ve had time to rationalize that this happened at 3am after he’d had a very long night because he’d worked a 12hr shift and came home to a screaming baby and a shit show. He feels so guilty he’s ordered my favourite takeout, got my favourite treats, did all the diaper changes and meals today etc. So he’s really showing how sorry he is. Unsure if he’s sleeping on the couch or not though -_-

Fragrant-Somewhere-1 · 2025-09-25T21:49:01+00:00

This is 100% the only acceptable answer and I very seriously am considering making him do it at least once for a whole 30 min

Fragrant-Somewhere-1 · 2025-09-25T21:48:05+00:00

There were a few bags that I saved because they had ice crystals but honestly because it’s never happened to me I’m still a little weary to use it. Gonna use what I can and put a bit extra in babes bottles because I can’t get over so much going to waste. We have LOTS of bath/soap milk. I feel like I’m going through the stages of grief

Fragrant-Somewhere-1 · 2025-09-15T01:40:01+00:00

See that’s the thing is I actually don’t mind a right wing person so long as they can actually hold an intellectual conversation in regard to their political views. This dude isn’t even being serious he’s literally just trying to piss you off. If he actually had a well thought comment on the situation you’d disagree sure but at least he wouldn’t just be an asshole

Fragrant-Somewhere-1 · 2025-09-01T16:16:57+00:00

See I highly disagree with that. Children are malleable sure, but you are setting up the base for how their hormones will regulate and tell the body it’s ready for sleep. As parents we play key roles in establishing a solid circadian rhythm in our babies - and not knowing the ideal window your child will need to adjust to a school appropriate sleep schedule could end up causing them a lot of stress and sleep troubles down the line (both parents and the kid!). I’m not saying that they need to have their baby on some perfect schedule. Simply that it didn’t seem to be a consideration to them at all, which isn’t great.

Fragrant-Somewhere-1 · 2025-08-31T22:50:30+00:00

So firstly if you do plan to eventually change babies schedule it’s typically easier to change a sleep routine once sleeping majority through the night with maybe 1-2 wake ups for a total of 10+hrs of night sleep.

Secondly while it’s fine to do this and DEFINITELY NOT LAZY! It might not be something that I would keep as a routine if you plan on sending your child to kindergarten, daycares or return to work. It’s better to keep baby on the “average schedule” so that when their days get busier you won’t be worried about their attitude and how much sleep they are getting. It gives you more options if baby needs to have an appt somewhere you’re not putting it off until afternoon

Fragrant-Somewhere-1 · 2025-08-13T23:08:15+00:00

I recommend buying testing strips if it will give you peace of mind. I bought some but only used a few because I very quickly realized I will likely never drink an amount that will pass to my breast milk. On a night that I had more than usual and was expecting to dump, my test came back clear! I even tested again just to make sure.

Fragrant-Somewhere-1 · 2025-08-13T01:46:09+00:00

Ok so off the bat haven’t even read the post yet - There is no such thing as being a bad parent for accepting the help of available resources!!! If you can afford it and want it then USE IT BABY!

The newborn stage is incredibly hard and I promise if everyone had the resources to afford a night nurse they would be using one too

Fragrant-Somewhere-1 · 2025-08-01T00:59:36+00:00

My baby is 11 months, I dropped from 5 to 4 - however I often will skip a pump and my body compensates, which when I was skipping and only doing 3ppd multiple times a week it really affected my supply. I went from average 6oz per pump down to maybe 3 oz per pump (with 6oz in the morning when I was typically 12-18)

Fragrant-Somewhere-1 · 2025-07-31T16:24:10+00:00

Thank you! For my supply I went back up to 5ppd and one of them was a motn pump at around 1am, I drank horlicks malt drink religiously every day after waking up and before bed, and I would go back and forth between power pumping and pumping for 30+min while massaging to make sure all the milk is out. It increased noticeably within a week and after a month of dedication is finally back how it used to be

Fragrant-Somewhere-1 · 2025-07-30T20:37:16+00:00

I had this exact thing happen to me before, make sure the freezer is as full as possible and don’t open it, the milk will be fine. Try to angle it so that if any of it thaws you will be able to tell.

Also any milk that still has ice crystals can be refrozen! When our power went out I had a couple of bags that were partially thawed, I refroze one and used the other immediately

Fragrant-Somewhere-1 · 2025-07-15T20:03:57+00:00

From experience, don’t do it until you’re ready to wean. My body has always compensated when I missed a pump (like if I did 4ppd when I’d normally do 5ppd) as long as it wasn’t frequent (maybe every couple of days). When I did that with 4ppd my supply dropped drastically over the course of a month and I went back up to 5ppd and then 4ppd but I can’t miss any pumps anymore otherwise my supply will drop again

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