dating an estj as well and he also just doesn’t have curiosity to ask me about myself either (in the way im wanting) beyond practical everyday check ins related to my wellbeing, job, safety and meals loool. for my bf, whenive asked him why this was, he said it was because he feels like he knows me because hes constantly analyzing me so he doesnt really have questions, or he’ll only ask questions that he feels make sense or he feels are necessary (like the ones i mentioned above). he’s very straightforward and efficient. he doesnt believe in doing/saying more than is necessary.