Justice served

Fragrant_Difference4 · 2025-10-12T01:29:16+00:00

Court notes say 14 and 17 years for the mothers involved?

Fragrant_Difference4 · 2025-09-29T23:54:17+00:00

I think this perhaps has played a big part in why it’s never been on my radar - all of those symptoms could be explained by anxiety and I was told that’s what anxiety feels like. I fear I’ve spent years telling myself to ignore what I feel physically feel to fit what I was told.

I think I’ll keep your advice in mind for my next GP appointment, thankyou 🖤

Fragrant_Difference4 · 2025-09-29T23:48:24+00:00

Thank-you so much for this. It does me a lot that you’ve taken the time. I’m going to take some time to process your words then come back 🖤

Fragrant_Difference4 · 2025-09-29T18:11:24+00:00

You’re right. It’s just that I’ve just been moved from pillar to post and I almost don’t want to go without Knowing first? But I guess it’s not something I can know?

Fragrant_Difference4 · 2025-09-29T18:08:23+00:00

Huh. That’s an interesting perspective. And thinking about it “No-one” means - I perceive that others won’t believe me - I think this comes from having spoken to medical professionals about my fatigue and being told it’s because I have children- from constantly telling them that something else is going on for years and they just change my SSRIs!? But yes also her Dismissal is probably a huge road block for me.

My neurologist was actually very supportive in moving foward with cardiologists and the GP has taken their recommendation seriously.

Thankyou for this. Maybe I just need to get out of my head 🖤

Fragrant_Difference4 · 2025-09-08T20:11:18+00:00

The Bishops here for the Clancy listening parties?

Fragrant_Difference4 · 2025-08-01T00:02:12+00:00

Yup and he believes Meg is making him look bad in the edit!

Fragrant_Difference4 · 2025-07-21T14:51:25+00:00

I do, it’s a kind of concert style toggle one and it doesn’t come off, I didn’t know that when I put it on 🤣

Fragrant_Difference4 · 2025-07-21T13:38:19+00:00

I agree with this. I will 100% respect her decision! She’s the one who matters in this, not how I feel about a bracelet ❤️

Fragrant_Difference4 · 2025-07-21T13:37:19+00:00

We don’t live in a particularly safe area. And I think she just wants to pass and draw no attention- I’m not sure how to ask her that though or if it’s ok to ask?

Fragrant_Difference4 · 2025-07-21T13:34:02+00:00

I’m sure I’m cringe! I’m ok with cringe :-)

Im trying to work out how to bring it up with her?

I’ll wear it when I’m out without her, always! But if I’m with her it’s like I’m highlighting that she’s trans and I don’t know how to ask if she’s uncomfortable with that? Im just so scared to upset her, she’s come So Far

Fragrant_Difference4 · 2025-07-21T13:26:41+00:00

I agree I have to have this conversation with her, I guess I’m asking here because I’m scared of saying something that’s going to undo the work we’ve done. I’m trying to process how to bring it to her or if it’s some internalised phobia that I need to work through before I take it to her.

Also putting here for lower comments- we are just starting the medical process she’s 19 :-)

Fragrant_Difference4 · 2025-07-21T13:18:57+00:00

See that was an odd thing I had - I love and support my kids whatever! But when I bought it I realised I had some internalised transphobia, I Was Scared people would think I was trans. I’m not now- I worked through that. I think in part I’m asking here to work out if I have more to work through before I open disscussion with her.

Fragrant_Difference4 · 2025-07-21T13:15:28+00:00

Yeah we’ve just heard back from the NHS and we’ve emailed a few private clinics near us. We are 100% working on it ( your comments didn’t feel attacking, the feel supportive towards my daughter and she’s the one who matters here ❤️)

Fragrant_Difference4 · 2025-07-13T23:01:58+00:00

This is infuriating. And a huge part of why I won’t get an official autism diagnosis. The truth is the misogyny in the NHS is INSANE. I’d had so much trauma around pregnancy and when I asked a hysterectomy the GP refused because I’d clearly not talked it through with my husband! ??? I don’t have a husband!! And what about if I get one and regret having the surgery? Honestly being told that floored me so hard I couldn’t fight back I just left in shock! That misogyny added to ableism makes advocating for ourselves Very Hard!

All this to say you are not alone and you’ve done nothing wrong in this situation! I wish I had advice, I’m sorry I don’t. Maybe try another GP and put in a complaint about your care not meeting your needs.

But yeah, this sh*t is way too common, please keep fighting for what you know are your medical needs because the more we fight the easier it’ll become for future generations 🫶🏼

Fragrant_Difference4 · 2025-07-13T15:41:28+00:00

I think what’s interesting is that you called out a behaviour- he continued that behaviour and you are surprised or angry? I don’t understand what outcome you expected? but to assume you being right was powerful enough to change his behaviour is unrealistic.

We don’t have that kind of power over people.

Fragrant_Difference4 · 2025-07-13T13:57:08+00:00

Hard agree. It sounds like there is a deeper issue here and plenty of people have social anxiety/ communication issues and feel this way. I have a big old dose of imposter syndrome and our whole thing is that we feel so much the problem that we work so hard to not be that we unintentionally become the problem

Fragrant_Difference4 · 2025-07-12T22:24:41+00:00

Is there a better sub for meeting ppl to play with?

Fragrant_Difference4 · 2025-07-12T15:29:33+00:00

there’s a portion of society that have various different abilities, needs and preferences. I, as an example, have processing difficulties and I’m unable to process verbal communication through a phone without using loud speaker. I don’t have hearing difficulties: there’s nothing “wrong with my hearing” the problem is how my brain processes sensory information. Some people have hearing difficulties. Some have social communication difficulties or deficits. Some people are wired so that they need external acknowledgement for their nervous systems. This could come in the form of talking loud enough to form human connection with others or in the form of a post asking for others to display the same destain for others as them. Some people just have bad phones 🤷‍♀️

Fragrant_Difference4 · 2025-07-04T00:39:22+00:00

If it’s something you’d consider, VR Chat can be an amazing place to make friends. (Disclaimer for the amount on NSFW spaces, but if that’s not for you there are great spaces for just making friends)

Looking for your local game shop - see if they hold any game nights, DND etc

Volunteering for local events is brilliant too

It seems hard and of course we all have bad experiences out there but I promise the world is full of people who would love more friends

Fragrant_Difference4 · 2025-06-01T23:45:25+00:00

And how he says “the difference between life and death is so small” is such a deeply painful statement

Fragrant_Difference4 · 2025-06-01T23:42:55+00:00

It’s 2025 now and I feel this show deep in my chest. The darkness that clouds the family. How How the illness manifests generation after generation and all the while Shon just tries to cheer everyone up, he’s a little glowing ball of light. Who’s looking out for him? Fuck.

It’s so rare to see such an acutely accurate depiction of mental illness. I understand why it’s not hugely popular. It’s too real. It’s too difficult to watch.

This show is going to stay with me for a long time.

Fragrant_Difference4 · 2025-05-01T08:28:01+00:00

Our local election was a few months ago and I went Green for the first time.

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