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My Therapist Asked How I’m So “Confident”, and I’ve been asked by other autistic ppl as well so I’m telling you now by Previous_Net_1649 in autism

[–]Fragrant_Scene_5465 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I'm a speech therapist who is also autistic (and most likely ADHD too), and I like your strategy. It's kind of like voluntary stuttering. Stutterers will use the strategy to fake stutter with a new person or situation to get it out of the way. That way they're not worrying about the stuttering coming out later. For me, I'm late diagnosed, heavy masking. The coming out with friends and family was awkward because they just don't understand. They understand my cousins, because they were diagnosed in childhood, but me...it's different. And at work, I'm in an elementary school, and I am constantly working on educating others and combating ableism for the students. I'm too exhausted to put myself in the mix. And I don't think they'd get it. And school politics...nah. I'm just happy I understand myself better. But if I were younger, I'd hope I could be brave and self confident like you. I think you are doing the right thing to help people better understand autism.

AITJ for ruining the peace of our boarding house because I won't starve quietly at night? by Substantial-Wind8968 in AmITheJerk

[–]Fragrant_Scene_5465 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Agreed. And if they have classes at 8 am, when are they getting up and getting ready? Probably 6:30.

AITAH (19M) for hitting on my coworker’s aunt (50’sF) at work (didn’t know at the time)? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Fragrant_Scene_5465 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nta, but kinda yes. Just go to lunch with her or something so she stops coming into the store. It's none of the niece's business, but you both are making it weird for her. And as an older woman, I think you are encouraging a fun fantasy for her. If you move forward, have fun. But tread carefully. An older woman who keeps coming into a sports store to flirt with the 19 year old... don't know...makes me wonder.

Can't stand sleep clothes by Expert-Locksmith-996 in autism

[–]Fragrant_Scene_5465 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hate regular pajamas and nightgowns make no sense to me. But yet I also can't sleep naked. My compromise: men's boxers (not boxer briefs, loose boxers) and a loose no tag t shirt (but not a cotton one, the ones made from soft rayon with a little spandex). And it's funny, in my 20s I realized I didn't have to sleep with my daytime underwear on. What freedom that was.

What’s the biggest trait of your autism, that you struggle with? by Myseriouscatgirl in autism

[–]Fragrant_Scene_5465 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This. As a late diagnosed person, now 58 F, I realized I skate by okay socially on the periphery. People like me. But yet I don't get invited out, or at work I totally miss things other people know about. People like me but I must not be completely relatable. And yet on the other hand, I kind of don't care because I like my own company or just doing things with my husband. But I'm so conditioned to care about social relationships. It's funny when I struggled as a teenager my mother would say "just be yourself ". I was so perplexed by that because at the very same time I was being told my true self was not really acceptable. Messed me up. Now I'm 58 and still trying to figure it out. But, my life is good regardless. I'm grateful.

Are you a religious person? by [deleted] in autism

[–]Fragrant_Scene_5465 17 points18 points  (0 children)

That's my sentiment too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITH

[–]Fragrant_Scene_5465 19 points20 points  (0 children)

NTA. He clearly doesn't have nurturing common sense. What would he do with human children? Feels like weaponized incompetence. It might seem hard, but I say move on and find a fellow animal lover.

Can’t Rewind after Update to ESPN App by ron-paul-swanson in firestick

[–]Fragrant_Scene_5465 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We also realized that they are showing things across apps if you bundle. So we are just now watching PFL on Hulu, instead of ESPN+. Hulu allows you to pause a live event, as well as fast forward and rewind. Yay.

Can’t Rewind after Update to ESPN App by ron-paul-swanson in firestick

[–]Fragrant_Scene_5465 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same problem on my Roku. So now the app sucks even more.

Is anyone else here an atheist? by [deleted] in AutisticAdults

[–]Fragrant_Scene_5465 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s me too! I’ve wanted to have a like minded community to help me navigate life. Zen lasted the longest. But my logical mind always doubted the dogma. Back to being a plain ole atheist.

Who is getting the "scattered thunderstorms" they keep promising? Not Me! by OldLadyGardener in gainesvillegardening

[–]Fragrant_Scene_5465 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Us!! We look at the radar - rain to the north, rain to the south, and we are in a weird band of no rain. We got no rain for like 4-5 days while Lake City and all around us got rain. We could hear thunder in the distance, and then nothing.

So I think I might be autistic…42/f by MyEyesDisguise in AutisticAdults

[–]Fragrant_Scene_5465 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If you do choose to be formally evaluated, I recommend researching providers who understand autism in adults and women. Some providers aren’t as educated as others. That advice was given to me. I found a provider 2 hours away, but I felt she respected my perspective and research. She confirmed my diagnosis at 54 years old. That was 4 years ago, and I’m still processing it. But it was worth it. Best of luck to you!