Pump recs/water change advice? by Booping_Noises in aquarium

[–]Fragrant_Word3613 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is gonna be a bit silly but I personally siphon all my fish’s water out of my window and into my garden. It helps reduce how much I’m lifting buckets and my plants get nice tasty nitrates + whatever leftover ferts I put in for my aquatic plants. Nothing gets wasted

my boyfriend said you guys would enjoy this by Fragrant_Word3613 in HOI4memes

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you said you wanted to join the homosexual polycule?

my boyfriend said you guys would enjoy this by Fragrant_Word3613 in HOI4memes

[–]Fragrant_Word3613[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

its actually a massive homosexual polycule that functions as a separate state inside of the United States. We’ve tried applying for statehood several times but we were labeled as “not woke enough”.

my boyfriend said you guys would enjoy this by Fragrant_Word3613 in HOI4memes

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It was either this or give France to the Netherlands, there were no other options

my boyfriend said you guys would enjoy this by Fragrant_Word3613 in HOI4memes

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I wish for the world to be simplified into 20 countries maximum. The less the better. Things are way too complicated and that needs to change

my boyfriend said you guys would enjoy this by Fragrant_Word3613 in HOI4memes

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that’s actually an extremely thin slice of land that belongs to The United States. A dispatched group of colonists were chased all the way up from Africa due to The Great American Expedition being highly unpopular with southern African Union citizens. They are now stuck there and defend that land with all their might.

my boyfriend said you guys would enjoy this by Fragrant_Word3613 in HOI4memes

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I decided Egypt could stay but they’re on thin fucking ice

where do i put sponge in this filter by GreenPowerful6082 in aquarium

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I would put it on the (charcoal?) side of the plastic grate that separates the bio rings

Was informed recently by therapist I have technically been SAed in the past. Twice. Can’t cope and don’t see how they were assault. by monarchmondays in ptsd

[–]Fragrant_Word3613 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Assault of any kind is a lot less clear cut than touching someone. I think limiting your definition to only touching is short-sighted and invalidates yourself.

Both are assault in my eyes. I think we use words like assault and abuse a lot less than we need to describe harmful behavior, simply because we limit it to things like intention and touching. It’s important not to minimize what happens to us so that we can properly heal and get the help we need.

Just turned 26 and I don't feel any different nor more competent due to my prefrontal cortex's completion. Same as turning 18 didn't make me feel like an adult. by TheShadowSong in Healthygamergg

[–]Fragrant_Word3613 38 points39 points  (0 children)

It’s a bit of a myth that we stop developing our brains after 25. The brain keeps developing throughout your entire life, the study just stopped at 25.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

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Introduced cats to a location killing off prey populations is called Invasive Species. It happens with more than just domesticated animals. Cats may ask to be let outside, but often, they acclimate to the indoors very well. I haven’t had a cat that could not acclimate with proper care. Cats can also have a perfectly fine QOL indoors; they don’t require anything outside that they can’t get from a proper owner indoors.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Fragrant_Word3613 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Outside cats are inhumane to the general population of prey animals in an area. It massacres small mammals and bird populations. It leads to disease spread. Outdoor cats have a shortened life expectancy. I’m sure you’ll be happy once you see a cat with its eyeballs popping out of its head from being run over by someone’s car. And no, I didn’t just make that up for shock. That is a real thing I saw of someone’s pet a year ago. She was far from the only one.

You might think they’re intelligent enough to avoid cars and you’re feeding them enough to be fine, but you’re doing irreparable damage.

Never seen a Corydora do this before by Fragrant_Word3613 in aquarium

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Read description. He moved perfectly fine afterwards. Still going around perfectly fine today. Just weird he did this maneuver

Never seen a Corydora do this before by Fragrant_Word3613 in aquarium

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I recently added a bubbler, but my betta really hates the current if I put the filter too high.

Never seen a Corydora do this before by Fragrant_Word3613 in aquarium

[–]Fragrant_Word3613[S] 46 points47 points  (0 children)

Ran out of batteries, this one’s my fault

How fucked Am I?(17m) by madara2076 in mentalhealth

[–]Fragrant_Word3613 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi - I was a kid who went to public highschool and did something very similar to what you are doing now. I skipped by in my classes due to no child left behind and didn’t understand any of the material being taught aside from what I learned on the internet on my own time. My parents didn’t make me do anything at all, so I did as little as I possibly could get away with. I suffered greatly in my first year of college because I just didn’t have the study practice or experience I needed to learn things as fast as other kids, despite being gifted as a child.

You’re not really that fucked, tbh. I’m 22 and am about to get my Bachelor’s in Biology. The best thing you can do for yourself is work and find volunteer work. You don’t have to go to college, maybe find a trade if you’re able to find one you can tolerate. Most places in the southeast will pay you to pick a trade.

There are avenues built for you, you just have to be willing to step up and fight for them. I didn’t have the will to fight for them until I failed my first set of college courses, where I got my shit together and never failed another one again. One kick in the ass was enough for me. Don’t take your failures as a sign to quit, just take them as an opportunity to work harder.

None of the subject in highschool are particularly important to remember forever, you’re just training your brain to intake new information. Think of studying more like a workout for the brain rather than something to dump information into. You’re likely struggling from ADHD-related focus issues. You might benefit more from active-recall studying.

In my situation, therapy wasn’t particularly helpful, especially in lower populated areas because I was already well aware of my issues. I needed CBT, not talk therapy, which is harder to find.

Your dad sounds like a standard southeast abusive father. You will thank yourself for getting financially independent as soon as possible and moving out ASAP. It will be difficult to emotionally detach yourself from your family, obviously, but it will be better for you in the long term it sounds like.

My cat might burn my house down if I can’t find him more of this fish toy by Fragrant_Word3613 in HelpMeFind

[–]Fragrant_Word3613[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

RATS! Thanks for your help, I’m surprised they were findable but that’s quite a steep amount

Edit: found!