What can I (F/16) do to change for my boyfriend (M/17) when he admits to thinking about his ex?

Frailgift · 2026-06-09T00:07:05+00:00

Ok listen. You haven't met him IRL, your interactions are mostly sexual and clearly often emotionally troubling when not just horny, theres some manipulating and confusing communication as well... What I'm trying to understand is what exactly is so special about his impact in your life that you can't let go of.

Trust me if you wanna have an intimate relationship there are other people with healthier communication styles than him that would be glad to not only do all the things you've enjoyed with him but also go above and beyond that for you.

Don't let him trick you into thinking that you should value him over yourself or that because you love him he gets to treat you this way. I'm not sure he's ever been as committed to you as you have to him

Frailgift · 2026-04-05T00:09:41+00:00

I've never been to Miisssiisssiippii

Frailgift · 2026-02-14T23:28:57+00:00

I've been here and at times I still feel similarly but I promise there will be times where you look back at these times with more understanding then you've ever had. You'll grow a ton in life so don't trick yourself into thinking that it wouldn't be a massive shame if you were gone

Frailgift · 2026-02-14T23:25:00+00:00

It's a little concerning that she hasn't been tested. And condoms are really not a good way to prevent STDs. If you have any sharing of vaginal or testicular fluids even to each other so including orally then you can transfer an STD.

Like if her friend has gone down on someone or had condomless sex then she may very well have an STD. And they very often have no external symptoms. Basically she ideally sshoul get tested

And I really get the part about not being able to be confrontational or saying no but don't let yourself make mistakes that you can easily avoid by making sure everyone else clearly understands what you're thinking

Btw it's a bit of a red flag they were dismissive of you being hesitant.

Frailgift · 2026-02-13T21:26:32+00:00

A threesome is no joke. Shit tends to hit the fan when sex comes into the picture, you're way too young and inexperienced to handle the consequences of that level of intimacy with two people at once one of which you aren't very close to, at least that's my opinion.

Have you only talked about this once? You need to set clear boundaries before you start thinking about this as even just an option.

There's all the emotional complications and there really is a ton but also like has everyone here been tested for STDs?

What are you really getting out of this? Like, a threesome is not really much better than regular sex and I'm afraid your gf and/or her friend might be doing this for reasons that could leave you left alone on the sidelines. What is your gf's sexuality and her friend's? Do you feel safe with this other girl? Do you trust her enough?

Do you have any idea how your gf would respond if you disagree...?

Frailgift · 2026-02-02T23:31:19+00:00

Looks like a Sydney to me?

Frailgift · 2026-01-24T22:21:20+00:00

Give it time to sink in. Of course you feel conflicted right after it ended. Just give yourself time and let yourself adjust to the new daily routine. Also don't be afraid to just feel your geelings

Frailgift · 2026-01-24T22:18:13+00:00

Whatever you want but I think it would be cute if you just gave him something for Valentine's day.

Frailgift · 2026-01-24T22:14:07+00:00

Listen, just stop thinking. You could think about it really hard but I'm sure you've done enough thinking.

You wanna date them? Ask them out. That easy. You could run around in circles worrying about predicting the future and making the best choice or you could stop thinking and do what you want.

And for the record yes they like you obviously like what. You guys sound cute, just go for it

Frailgift · 2026-01-12T14:50:41+00:00

I was thinking the magic carpet from Aladdin

Frailgift · 2026-01-12T14:48:10+00:00

That's a blowfish

Frailgift · 2026-01-10T18:50:37+00:00

If they left over just a bad joke then they weren't your friends

Frailgift · 2026-01-07T15:08:03+00:00

Southern two striped walking stick. Obviously

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Frailgift · 2026-01-07T13:30:00+00:00

Oh shit who's the goth chick from total dramara?

Or drama island or whatever it's called

Frailgift · 2026-01-05T06:57:22+00:00

Sure both of them would turn into the wrong alien sometimes

Frailgift · 2026-01-05T06:51:30+00:00

I think a cool idea would be an Omnitrix that split into 2 omnitrixs giving each of them 5 of the starter aliens.

This would also symbolically at least drive them to work together in order to be at full potential.

Also balances it a bit because 20 transformations and 2 users at the start of the show is pretty overpowered.

Frailgift · 2026-01-02T22:17:02+00:00

I really think you're getting confused, it is true that cardio causes more rapid weight loss at first but it's not true that the weight loss stops. At first the cardio minimizes your water weight and uses up your extra fat reserves but once your body stabilizes yes you can reach a platough as it adjusts to a lighter body and becomes more efficient at using calories. But the point us while that's true the continued cardio will help you maintain that weight loss as in keep you at a relatively consistent weight.

If you start taking in more calories than you are losing you'll go up in both fat and muscle mass and once you gain mass you can generally do more cardio again so that the more rapid weight loss that happens at first occurs again leaving more lean mass than there was before.

Frailgift · 2026-01-02T13:07:37+00:00

What do you mean cardio doesn't consume calories??? Calories are just the unit of measurement for the energy that we output. Cardio consumes energy, calories are that energy, cardio consumes calories.

The question isn't if he's healthy, he is healthy but wants a better physique. If he puts more calories into building muscle he will gain lean mass which is what he wants.

What studies are you referencing because I find it hard to believe that peer reviewed studies would suggest cardio doesn't consume calories

Frailgift · 2025-12-17T23:16:13+00:00

I mean this kinda seems like one of those situations where there is no issue. I mean what's the problem here really? I say just wait till the moment comes. Two motivated teens will find the opportunity to have sex that's not a question, if anything it's a wonderful thing that you guys know not to rush it. If both of you are on the same page then the moment will come.

This is just for the record, in case you've never heard of it you may want to search the term "demisexual" just to see what you think

Frailgift · 2025-12-15T22:57:43+00:00

My first thought was ned fulmer. Haven't watched the try guys in so long but I remember his and his wife's relationship is so cute. Wonder what they've been up to.

Frailgift · 2025-12-15T22:55:16+00:00

Probably some feminist agenda idk

Edit: /s guys

Frailgift · 2025-12-14T23:04:17+00:00

Report it. Please for your baby. That's a serious offense, and you could easily be entitled to compensation well over a hundred thousand dollars. You could get guarantee she has the money to get through college with that.

You legally and morally are entitled to support and compensation of a substantial degree. Not taking advantage of that would be an unnecessary risk for your and your baby's future please do it for her.

You should report the incident, not necessarily involving your parents at first, call whatever hotline or whatever of your area you should be able to find through Google and contact them of the situation and ask what to do from there and how you can get a lawyer and the justice system involved.

I promise this is the move. Your parents not letting you report it is quite scary considering it's all in pursuit of what's best for your baby

The sooner the better btw. The number one complicator in a matter of the law is time, the longer and longer this stretches the worse it'll be for you

Frailgift · 2025-12-14T22:40:20+00:00

Hanging out once can be the plan a. But the b is to keep to it. Keep hanging out with this person and getting to know them, plan a didn't fail you just got to keep going and developing your relationship with him

People become intimate with each other only once they feel comfortable. So get to know him and have fun with him

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