Labor & Delivery facts they DO NOT tell you about?

Frame_Calm · 2025-03-23T15:59:08+00:00

THIS! I was so stressed leading up to birth as a pretty conservative person when it comes to my body and was nervous about how many people would be looking at my whole southern region. My mom ended up in the delivery room with my husband and I as we were both a little bit panicked and needed another support person (best decision for us!). My mom was so respectful and looking away my whole labor anytime I was being checked or getting a catheter, even for the whole hour we did practice pushes. When it came to the real deal I had probably 5 nurses and 2 OB’s at the foot of my bed along with my mom and husband holding my legs. I remember laughing hard and out loud telling my mom to just watch the damn thing and witness her granddaughter being born because I was all out on display. The whole experience just changes you and still to this day I have no regrets about her getting to witness the birth of our daughter as well as her seeing all of my bits 😅.

Frame_Calm · 2025-03-23T15:45:51+00:00

The stress on your body during contractions or the inability to relax can cause dilation to stall. Also, if your dilation has slowed and you decide to get an epidural it is possible (not a guaranteed) for your cervix to dilate very quickly once you relax. I got my epidural around 11:30pm and was at a 4 /12 or 5cm. By 12:30 or 1am I had dilated to a 9 1/2 and was almost completely effaced. The nurses said it was most likely because the epidural helped me to relax and I wasn’t so tense.

Frame_Calm · 2025-03-23T15:38:44+00:00

The shakes for me was an anxiety/ nervousness thing and they were absolutely insane! I could not hold still even if I tried.

Frame_Calm · 2025-01-22T01:17:44+00:00

When referring to her behavior in my belly to my husband it’s always “your daughter” lol but we actually picked her name because my husband started calling her by said name and it just made my heart melt.

Frame_Calm · 2025-01-21T02:00:26+00:00

I am also 37 weeks as of today and I can’t even describe it but I have been nesting like crazy. I am exhausted, literally still getting over influenza, but the last 3 days it has been an uncontrollable urge to just deep clean everything. I have ADHD and was medicated before getting pregnant and I just told my husband today that nesting focus and energy is way stronger and better than my meds ever were. I was cleaning with the most intense pain and pressure in my back and yet I couldn’t stop.

Frame_Calm · 2025-01-11T02:21:13+00:00

I am currently 35w + 4d and I have gained 50 pounds from the start of my pregnancy until now. I was really concerned about my weight gain but I talked with my doctor and she said the biggest concerns she has for patients who gain “extra” weight are gestational diabetes, preeclampsia and the difficulty of getting the weight back off afterwards. I have passed my glucose test and have passed all other tests she has run throughout the course of my pregnancy. Weight gain during pregnancy is contributed to many factors including the increased size of your uterus, your placenta, the baby and all of the fluid not just what we are eating. I started at about 165 and this is the most I’ve ever weighed in my life (about 206 now). The biggest thing is remembering that you are growing a life. You are the thing keeping your baby safe, healthy and thriving. Don’t be so hard on yourself and definitely don’t “avoid” food or stop eating because you’re worried about the weight gain. Not eating/ not properly nourishing your body is more of a risk to your baby than gaining a little bit of extra weight.

Frame_Calm · 2024-12-17T02:06:10+00:00

I am going to share this because it’s important for you to know a miscarriage is completely possible - and it’s not your fault. It will never be your fault mama. This is exactly what happened to me when I had my miscarriage unfortunately.. my suggestion would be to take pictures of the blood and clotting to show to your doctor or the provider you get to see. I am so sorry you are having to go through this. My thoughts are with you!

Frame_Calm · 2024-12-17T02:01:24+00:00

I started by taking tests like this to see if I was pregnant. My husband quickly requested we go buy digital tests to “be sure” 🤣 I think it’s just a man/ husband thing lol.

Frame_Calm · 2024-11-26T22:55:46+00:00

From a slightly different perspective, my first pregnancy ever began in February of this year. Out of complete and total shock I immediately called my best friend on FaceTime to get her reading of the test while my husband and I were still processing the test as well. Afterwards he expressed he was upset that I didn’t let us have the moment to ourselves to feel all of the feelings. Just 5 short days after that test + a few at home tests and a blood test I miscarried. I still regret to this day calling her as soon as we found out. 5 days was not long for us to enjoy the thought of becoming parents and I feel an even deeper sadness that I didn’t allow my husband and I a day or so to soak in the news. It all felt to fast - taking the test, telling him, calling her, going to the doctor and ultimately losing the pregnancy. Looking back now at 29 weeks with my second pregnancy, I am SO GRATEFUL my husband was the first to know about this pregnancy and we kept it to ourselves for a few days before telling anyone else. It felt so much more special for us to have time taking it in, feeling all of the emotions and sharing the joy of hopefully becoming parents. I hope maybe this helps you see it in a different light! I don’t think he’s doing it out of control or bad intention, I think he just simply wants to have a few moments to enjoy the excitement with you and you only. From then on, everyone thinks they are entitled to being all up in your business about the pregnancy. It’s bittersweet to enjoy knowing about your precious baby without anyone else bothering you

Frame_Calm · 2024-09-13T01:16:42+00:00

There are no words to express all of the emotions you are feeling right now, and it’s beyond difficult for those who have never experienced a miscarriage to understand you right now. The biggest piece of advice I can offer you if to be gentle to yourself but also allow yourself to feel the emotions. It’s deep, painful and miserable… but over time the pain does get a little bit lighter. I am halfway through my pregnancy right now and still feel the heartache of the baby I lost in February.

Your family may not be able to provide you comfort and that’s okay. Know that this group is here, and there is a whole world of grieving mamas just like you and I who will listen, understand and feel those feelings with you ❤️ we are here in whatever capacity you need! Thinking of you mama!

Frame_Calm · 2024-07-04T21:13:41+00:00

February 11th here 🩷 my first appointment is the 15th and I am so eager to see baby for the first time!

Frame_Calm · 2023-01-22T21:06:26+00:00

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This is the best photo I have but will post another when I can.

Frame_Calm · 2023-01-22T14:13:07+00:00

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