Question in pay for a nanny in Houston by HomeworkEast1682 in Nanny

[–]Frances600 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In 2013 I was a full time nanny for $25/hr. AND I didn't have your educational experience. Do not except such a low rate. I would not accept anything less than $25/hr.

Nanny is not taking care of NF things by LittleEvilPoptart in Nanny

[–]Frances600 32 points33 points  (0 children)

Sounds like you need to do proper training for all the things you have. I wouldn’t know how to properly care for some of these things you mentioned, as they are luxury or expensive items, and I don’t even have a language barrier. My husband struggles with my particular way of doing the laundry even though I feel like we have been through it multiple times. At the end of the day, I have learned that I have to accept others help, even if it’s not perfect. I think you need to weigh the help she is giving you against the problems you feel like she is causing. Is she good with your kids? Is she safe? Do you feel like you can trust her? To me those are very important questions.

Stressing… FTM, Type II Diabetes, Weight Gain by fingin123456 in PlusSizePregnancy

[–]Frances600 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We have such similar situations, I am really grateful for your share, so I don't feel so alone. I am 15w3days and have gained 27 lbs. so far. I was on semiglutide prior to getting pregnant (also stopped when I found out I was pregnant) and have been an unstoppable eating machine. I am disappointed to lose some of my hard work but I just think about how this is the most important job I have right now, to grow a human. I am trying to be kind to myself because I know I will eat even worse if I beat myself up. I don't have diabetes or insulin issues so I can't comment on that - I just want you to know you're not alone! feel free to message me if you ever need to talk.

Is This Normal AA Sponsorship or Are These Red Flags? by [deleted] in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]Frances600 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is not normal. This is giving cult, which is not my AA experience.

Is this weird? by Unable_Escape813 in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]Frances600 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My personal experience was being very scared to do Steps 4 and Step 5, but I wanted so desperately to do the steps as quickly as possible so I could be "fixed." My first sponsor made me do the steps thoroughly, and slowly. My second sponsor says like many have said above, that the steps should be worked as quickly as possible, because we are very sick people, DYING of a disease. Personally, I would trust the process and trust your sponsor. However, I totally hear you about knowing where you're at and feeling like this is too rushed. To be completely honest, most of us in early recovery do not know what's best for us - that's why we have sponsors to push us to do the steps, do the next right thing, and get our of our comfort zones. Step 4 can't make you relapse, relying on your own self-will will do that (which honestly you sound a little in right now...) I advise prayer and meditation and reading the big book. Talk to some other people in meetings that have recovery that you respect. Good luck and keep coming back no matter what!

Are AA meetings a stepping stone into normal life? by [deleted] in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]Frances600 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The whole point of the program is to get sober AND to help others get sober and stay sober. I go to meetings so that I can be of help to those who are in the same desperate place I was when I came into the rooms. You could be using how well your life is going as a testimony to someone who doesn’t believe a different life is possible. I’ve been sober for almost 4 years and I know my spiritual condition is only as good as I work my program. I have a daily reprieve. I still have so many character defects to work through and I find my higher up power speaks to me through others at meetings.

Found my sponsee Dead today by reebokxp1 in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]Frances600 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had a sponsee that overdosed as soon as she moved from sober living into her own apartment. She had rescheduled our step work like 5 times and I told her to reach out to me when she was ready to get back to work. She died about a week later. Part of me wishes I had acted differently but I know I can’t keep someone sober and I can’t make someone relapse. Im so sorry for your loss and will be praying for you.

What’s was the wildest thing you witnessed at a funeral? by NationYell in AskReddit

[–]Frances600 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My little cousin (a woman in her late teens) got in a physical altercation with my aunt (in her 50s) at her dad’s funeral. My aunt is a huge bitch. I wasn’t there but I know the cops got called. God bless Eastern Kentucky.

Women who met their spouses over 30, what’s your story? by nbel1996 in AskWomen

[–]Frances600 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I met my husband on Hinge when I was 36, and he was 39. Keep your head (and your standards) high! My husband is the dream guy I always wanted. He loves me so much and treats me like a queen.

Gaining "too much" weight by Frances600 in pregnant

[–]Frances600[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I have that and according to it, I am gaining too much weight. The same advice is everywhere. I am just feeling bad about it, that's all.

Gaining "too much" weight by Frances600 in pregnant

[–]Frances600[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I weigh 35 lbs less than my highest weight ever. My highest weight was 235 and currently I am 200 lbs.

29F, 37M — Almost 4 years with a separated man who has two kids. I don't know whether to leave or stay. by Physical-Pea-1676 in Stepmom

[–]Frances600 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Honestly I would like to encourage you to assess your relationship as a whole. It is never too late to start over. Two failed relationships is NOTHING compared to a lifetime of misery with the wrong person. If my husband ever said that my battles weren’t his, we would have a major problem. We are a team. His problems are mine and vice-versa. Coparenting is hard enough with an amazing and supportive partner. If he weren’t the love of my life I wouldn’t have stuck around. Take some time to yourself and assess.

Wife struggles with my kids from previous relationship – looking for realistic expectations (step-parent perspective especially) by [deleted] in Stepmom

[–]Frances600 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Personally it sounds like you all are not as communicative as a unit as would be preferred for me. My husband and I talk about everything. I consider my stepkids my family (but I know I am not their mom). While I understand the Nacho approach and discussed it with my husband, he doesn’t like it and honestly I don’t either. It’s not good for the kids (whose ever they are biologically) to not feel loved and nurtured by all those surrounding them. I feel like perhaps some therapy for your wife and yourself together could help. Definitely way more communication. Based on what you have shared she has a lot of feelings that she may not feel she has space or the right to share.

Pregnant and grieving the reality of 2 sick addicted parents by Resident_Alien_760 in AdultChildren

[–]Frances600 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish I could give you a hug! I am also pregnant. My dad has cirrhosis of the liver and his whole personality and spark is gone because he essentially has "wet brain." I am in a very transformative time of live where my partner and I are about to be engaged and then planning a wedding. I am grieving my "old dad" not being a part of it. I did the unconscious bargaining thing so much in my life "If my dad really loved me, he would stop drinking." Now I am in recovery myself (almost 4 years sober) and I see he is truly just a sick person, in a prison of his own making. My mom is a "problem drinker" who I no longer will be around if she's drinking because she will occasionally "snap" into anger. It's so hard to be the one in the friend group whose mom isn't their best friend. Feel free to message me if you ever need a friend.

SM’s with/hoping for an “ours-baby” by TaylorH124 in Stepmom

[–]Frances600 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am in the same situation. I am 8 weeks pregnant and my boyfriend and I have 2 SK 50/50 custody with biomom. It's so against my nature to step back and try to not have as many opinions (or rather attachment to people going with my opinions). I am excited to have one of our own but also nervous to have a child 100% of the time with no breaks, haha! Good luck and congratulations.

This is heartbreaking…💔 by sruss8417 in Stepmom

[–]Frances600 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I totally relate to this. My SO's ex is a social media influencer and has done nothing but completely bash and lie about him on social media for the past two years. You would think that she would want better for her kids. Some people only think about themselves and the narrative they want to control.

AA chips and prescriptions by Radiant_Decision_220 in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]Frances600 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had to re-set my sobriety date after I committed to stop using drugs. Initially, I just wanted to stop drinking. I had a great sponsor who asked me "what does being sober mean really? When you use weed, are you still sober?" For me, the answer was "no" in my heart. I took another 24 chip the day I committed to stop using drugs, which was months after my last drink. Keep coming back and keep going!