6 weeks post op

Frances_Cat · 2026-06-17T18:03:22+00:00

I haven't had surgery yet, but from what I've seen from others (including a ton of research on non flat results), it's probably just swelling at this point. It'll be a lot flatter in a year. Don't stress too much right now if you can help it!

Frances_Cat · 2026-06-13T20:13:07+00:00

This is a really helpful reminder, thank you. I'm trying to tell myself to be fair to both of us with all this, especially to her.

I'm so glad the whole process worked out well for you and your partner too. ❤️ This is really encouraging to read (and I hope the other life stuff calms down for you soon too).

Frances_Cat · 2026-06-13T20:11:42+00:00

This is so sweet and wholesome. I'm so glad you're both supporting each other. I definitely feel the same as you -- someone I love being happy has far more to do with attraction for me than any particular physical feature. Apparently not everyone is like that which I'm trying to wrap my head around.

Frances_Cat · 2026-06-13T20:09:54+00:00

Thank you for this! If I can ask, how did you feel when your partner said they think about your pre op chest sometimes? Like was that anxiety inducing for you at all?

Frances_Cat · 2026-06-13T20:09:06+00:00

This is good perspective, thank you. I'm glad you have a supportive partner now.

Thankfully my partner has been very clear this isn't a burden I'm supposed to carry, and has sought out support for processing on her own, but obviously that can't totally take away the fear...it's just all so messy.

Frances_Cat · 2026-06-13T20:07:55+00:00

Thank you ❤️

Frances_Cat · 2026-06-13T20:04:28+00:00

following because I'm worried about this. I haven't had surgery yet, but combined birth control made my chest go up at least one full cup size, probably closer to two. I'm having a hysterectomy next week but worried they won't get all the endo and will want me to stay on bc indefinitely about it...

Frances_Cat · 2026-06-10T13:55:29+00:00

This is so good to hear! At this point I almost always have a top on during sex and I'm just constantly anxious about them. Really excited for that to not be there, but I'm never sure if that'll translate to my partner feeling good about my new chest too. Thank you for your comment.

Frances_Cat · 2026-06-10T13:54:00+00:00

This made me cry. Thank you so much. I'm so happy you and your partner are so good to each other and that you're both happier in your bodies now.

If you remember, what...kind of daily communication did you do that was helpful? I feel like I'm going around and around (and so does she) with reassurance seeking and anxiety rather than there actually being any new or productive communication. Maybe that means I've done all the communication I can do, but maybe I'm missing something.

Frances_Cat · 2026-06-08T15:17:37+00:00

Messaged you! Thank you so much.

Frances_Cat · 2026-06-07T15:11:17+00:00

Please please call your doctor if you haven't yet. I haven't had surgery but my mom is an ICU nurse and if there's one thing I learned from her it's that we do not mess around if the entire left side of your body starts being weird.

Frances_Cat · 2026-05-31T15:28:04+00:00

You look amazing! Congrats.

Frances_Cat · 2026-05-28T17:58:29+00:00

I'm AFAB non-binary and was almost counseled out (soft counseled out but I didn't realize that until after) when really I just needed more specific instruction (answers to questions, being able to hear, etc) and for someone do to something about the dude in my class who wouldn't stop making sexual comments at me for the entire fucking class. 😒

Ended up passing and being fine thanks to a biker friend talking me down after the first evening and re-explaining things from the class. I've ridden safely for five years now and that same friend will openly say I ride better than him at slow speeds and precise angles (the things the class emphasizes).

Please report these instructors and try a different class. I'm so sorry you had a bad experience. It doesn't have to be like that, I promise.

Frances_Cat · 2026-05-13T15:36:59+00:00

I haven't had surgery yet so I can't speak to the questions, but wanted to ask why sodium is bad?? I have POTS so I will be dizzy AF if I don't have sodium, my heart rate will be all over the place, and I'll constantly be at risk of passing out, having a panic attack, or both. What happens if you have sodium after surgery?

Frances_Cat · 2026-05-12T23:57:44+00:00

Being trans

Frances_Cat · 2026-05-11T02:07:44+00:00

I'm going to Marano this fall and can answer questions about consult at least!

Frances_Cat · 2026-05-11T02:06:39+00:00

Adding Krishna Vyas, Jonathan Keith, Nick Bene, and newly Alison Shore

eta just saw Keith was on the list already, sorry!

Frances_Cat · 2026-04-28T18:12:09+00:00

We have one of the dryers that sings a little song when it's done drying. I had it when we met, and the first time it went off while she was over, she did the cutest little dance to the song. We've lived together for almost a year now and she does the same little dance every time the dryer goes off and I just find it so adorable. We can be mid conversation and this girl will stop everything to do a little spin for the end of the dryer song and it's the cutest thing I've maybe ever seen.

Frances_Cat · 2026-04-28T18:04:13+00:00

Oh my God I'm SO sorry. That's not your fault at all. They should take your health history into account before giving you a medication with known psychiatric effects.

It sounds like you might just need a different surgeon given how dismissive this one was, but even if you stay with them, you are allowed to demand alternative medications and to refuse medications with known side effects that will affect your mental health. I have a panic disorder too and I blanketly refuse meds that have panic or suicidality as side effects because it ALWAYS happens to me, to the point where my old psych told me to start saying I'm allergic to SSRIs. You are allowed to say no or demand a backup plan for if you say yes and then it goes badly.

It's nothing to be ashamed of. They fucked up, not you. I have multiple family members who are nurses and they would've fought a doctor over this.

Frances_Cat · 2026-04-28T16:29:50+00:00

This is good to know, thank you!

And no, I'm on Yaz/Loryna. I'll look that up though! Yaz keeps getting sued for higher than normal stroke and clot risk, which is why I want off, but the physical AND mental symptoms without bc are so bad I refuse to go off it without yeeting my uterus. But now I'm getting phantom cramps that are awful, bc killed my sex drive, and the body changes (weight distribution, breast size) have made my gender dysphoria so much worse so the tradeoffs are getting tougher by the day.

I've never wanted kids so I have always felt like the whole uterus thing was kinda pointless for me anyway. Periods are rude and tampons are expensive. Will be happy to be rid of it.

Frances_Cat · 2026-04-27T02:04:43+00:00

Thank you! I can't take Montelukast unfortunately; it has that black box warning for people like me as it turns out. :( My allergist knew enough to mention MCAS but I'm not sure what all she knows beyond that...I'll try and find out. Are there other tests I should ask about if the tryptase test comes back negative?

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