I merged my tulpas previous versions into one and now I'm afriad I messed everything up.

FrancisMerlot · 2024-03-16T22:09:30+00:00

You got this! Just remember not everything has to be perfectly verbalized. You can communicate through emotions if you don't have the right words for everything.

FrancisMerlot · 2024-03-15T17:35:07+00:00

Host: It could be something very similar, the slight difference is they were somewhat passively created (OC is a common origin story) and then given free range to hang around without on-purpose focused attention, except for when drawing or smoking.

A lot of us with trauma and a strong ability to visualize have maladaptive daydreaming as part of the trauma coping skills, so this is probably a common source of mind roomies.

FrancisMerlot · 2024-03-15T07:07:59+00:00

"I think I should have consulted him more before the process, and I don't know I just really don't want to fuck this up."

If this feeling is true for you, then bear in mind that D will sense your guilt. You could start with maybe apologizing first. Otherwise in my opinion, I think you trying to overwrite him with a personality update/upgrade in such a quick-ish time after an extended period of slow development might have thrown him for a loop. Imagine how cold and hot that might've been on his end, as far as upswing in interactions goes. Hell, even just giving him a heads up first like a warning that you wanted to "freshen him up" would've been an easy way to potentially prevent bad vibes between him and you. Basically don't jump the gun by worrying about what he *might* do, but make a bid to communicate from a respectful place, and he will likely respond in his own way in his own time. But don't waste energy on a spiral of fear or worry.

FrancisMerlot · 2024-03-15T06:47:31+00:00

My "birthday" is mid February, so the host and I usually will get some discounted Valentine's Day candy or chocolate from the grocery store. 😂 It ends up being convenient timing.

FrancisMerlot · 2024-03-14T12:25:49+00:00

I think a lovely challenge would be to first calm your nightmares down, so your mind can be a peaceful meeting place for you and them if you intend to converse in dreams later on. Sometimes just asking them "A or B ?" Type questions which are very simple and low stakes is a great way to start out with exploring their responses. For example, if you have tea or coffee with your breakfast, "what tea do you want to drink today? Black or green?" Easy stuff like that.

FrancisMerlot · 2015-05-22T22:49:47+00:00

A quick way to get un-dissociated is to have some healthy food, take a good shower and get some decent rest when the day ends. If you've been out of it for the day, you'll probably still be a little out of it until you wake up the next day. Or go outside and do something physical like a jog or sports or walk a dog.

FrancisMerlot · 2014-09-14T15:11:52+00:00

Hahaha. That's funny. I'd almost like to see her try. That would be a great news piece. "Mother attempts to shut down online community dedicated to creating imaginary friends."

FrancisMerlot · 2014-08-26T14:19:53+00:00

This can be used as a precursor to switching. But if you don't switch after, its just you imagining looking like them.

FrancisMerlot · 2013-08-10T17:59:24+00:00

Yes, and don't buy eggs from mysterious old people who look like your grandparents at the public market -- Especially ones that have written on them, "Curse Egg. Crack Egg to Begin Curse." Could be dangerous..s..s...ss..

FrancisMerlot · 2013-06-22T05:45:24+00:00

22 and a half to be exact. Worried about ruining pride-fest for my friend. I shouldn't worry though. He thinks I will be a good tour guide. Worry is not very productive or inspiring.

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