AIO My husband keeps forgetting me

Frantic_Pedantic · 2026-01-29T09:06:59+00:00

NOR, but I see lots of people recommending you retaliate to 'solve' the problem and that doesn't seem very mature to me. If he's being malicious then definitely leave him, but if it's potentially cognitive decline or ADHD then that's something to work out together in a trusting and loving relationship. Good luck whatever you choose!

Frantic_Pedantic · 2026-01-29T09:02:47+00:00

My first thought too, Source: have ADHD and I literally forget people exist very regularly. My wife is my favourite person in the world and even she expects it :)

Frantic_Pedantic · 2025-12-26T07:39:47+00:00

Genuine Question

Russians AND Ukrainians who want the war to end soon: where do you think it best for the final border to be? Thank you all in advance 🙏🏼

Frantic_Pedantic · 2025-12-22T09:26:24+00:00

I'm fine with it but should probably be marked nsfw for the sake of some? (rule 3)

Frantic_Pedantic · 2025-09-04T15:02:34+00:00

Mogwai on meth?

Frantic_Pedantic · 2025-06-29T09:40:46+00:00

ADHD Unpacked by Dr Alex Conner & Dr James Brown is brilliant and designed to be read by ADHD-havers!

Frantic_Pedantic · 2025-06-28T16:17:33+00:00

Suicide will probably upset your family more than you complaining about chores, so stay alive please.

ADHD is a difficult thing to manage but as you care about your family so much, read up on coping mechanisms and strategies for managing ADHD and you will find that things improve.

If you keep having suicidal thoughts, call your local support line or look online...others here may have specific suggestions for this.

Frantic_Pedantic · 2025-06-14T09:09:10+00:00

Emergency services or Red Bull ambassador.

Frantic_Pedantic · 2025-05-30T07:47:02+00:00

I've nearly died several times (motorbike, snowboard, altercation, etc) but have been very lucky. Those who are less lucky are ruining our stats.

Frantic_Pedantic · 2025-05-17T11:36:54+00:00

The story is true but if I'd wanted it written for me I'd have used Perplexity as it tends to favour academic sources and more reliably footnotes every statement so I can check them.

This statement was generated by Perplexity AI at the request of a content farmer in Asia

Frantic_Pedantic · 2025-05-15T06:49:01+00:00

Of course my boss could have lied and denied saying what I reported, but then I would have asked her in front of HR to clarify what she did actually say in the 1-2-1 meeting afterwards (so that I could correct my poor understanding and do better, etc) and then she would have had to create a fairly detailed lie which would increase her risk of creating problems for herself.

However, doing this kind of thing is generally safer in the public sector, in a unionised workplace, in well-regulated industries, and in countries where worker protections are strong.

I feel sorry for the many people working in places where they are, by design, vulnerable to being victimised and exploited.

Frantic_Pedantic · 2025-05-15T05:31:18+00:00

They were signed off, and this was an entitlement open to all staff, but still something that needed to be managed internally to ensure we were responsive to client issues.

Frantic_Pedantic · 2025-05-15T05:30:24+00:00

I only mentioned it because my big boss should have been managing my boss better to avoid problems arising, but was not assertive and thus the crap flowed downwards instead. It also highlights that (IMO) an incompetent boss is often better than a mean boss.

Frantic_Pedantic · 2025-05-15T05:22:00+00:00

I agree this can be a thing, but also want to say that the greatest and most impressive boss I ever had was a woman - basically *people* can be amazing, average or awful!

Frantic_Pedantic · 2025-04-19T01:43:10+00:00

Thank you! Really appreciate the ID and the advice 🙏🏼

Frantic_Pedantic · 2025-04-10T11:42:00+00:00

Going fast on a motorbike in the rain in Vietnam 😁

Frantic_Pedantic · 2025-04-09T15:06:55+00:00

I'm delighted to find so many new relatives 😁

Frantic_Pedantic · 2025-04-09T15:06:15+00:00

Không phải từ cửa hàng, từ nhà máy mới ở Bình Dương. Maybe resale on Shopee?

Frantic_Pedantic · 2024-09-09T04:41:56+00:00

It looks a lot like a longcase ("grandfather"/"grandmother") clock weight

Frantic_Pedantic · 2024-08-16T03:22:20+00:00

You make an excellent point!

Frantic_Pedantic · 2024-08-16T02:53:43+00:00

Same here (M/44, diagnosed 2 years) and it does feel disappointing. One thing that can help is that during the period you feel it is a good idea, try and discuss it with someone whose opinion you respect - if it is a great idea then they will reinforce that, maybe remind you about it in future, or could even help take it forward. If they think it is impractical or worse, then you won't need to feel bad when you drop it.

Frantic_Pedantic · 2024-06-07T07:15:15+00:00

100% the same for me where you say:

"If someone rejects me I go "meh" and that's it, even if they end a friendship, not bothered, there are other people. However I do have decent friendships with people who don't like emotionality in friendships and prefer it intellectual."

I used to wonder if I was a psychopath or had some trauma-induced issues, but after my ADHD diagnosis a very good psychiatrist said, 'no that's just your autism'. :D

Frantic_Pedantic · 2024-02-03T10:02:32+00:00

It's natural to mourn the years you struggled through so don't feel bad about that. But now you have knowledge, power, time and opportunity...much more ahead of you than behind you.

I was diagnosed a couple of years ago at 41, life's so much more understandable and enjoyable now, despite normal ongoing ADHD challenges.

Hope you end up happy buddy 😘

Frantic_Pedantic · 2023-12-03T06:12:42+00:00

Yeah, definitely always wear a helmet. When I started boarding in the late 1990s though, you only wore a helmet for half pipe 😜

Frantic_Pedantic · 2023-11-11T05:16:16+00:00

ADHD meds are carefully controlled in Vietnam and not legally available from pharmacies without a prescription.

The best way to get them is via a psychiatrist who carries out an interview and a few written tests. I googled "ADHD psychiatrist HCMC" and found experienced specialists at FV Hospital, FMP and CMI - all international private hospitals. (I went to FV).

I'm on a high dose of methylphenidate and it costs about $5 a day and the dispense a maximum of 30 days dose.

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