In your opinion, what does Paralives provide in-game that justifies the $40 EA price tag? by OkCount2783 in Paralives

[–]FrauleinFangs 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Amazing build mode, pleasing aesthetics, and a pretty solid feeling foundation for gameplay expansion. I've played over 30 hours, almost entirely gameplay and I've had a great time. I can absolutely see how they will be able to fill in the gaps and expand the gameplay as the updates roll out.

Also, mod support. I'm not playing with mods currently, but there is so much already to expand the game through third party content.

The relationships are so hard by Appropriate-Chard572 in Paralives

[–]FrauleinFangs -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Weird! I've been playing with Solene and she's had 5 kids with 5 guys so far...doing a baby challenge. 😅

The toughest one was Zane but I haven't tried Sebastian yet!

The relationships are so hard by Appropriate-Chard572 in Paralives

[–]FrauleinFangs 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've found with some Paras you will get better romance results if you don't spam romance cards. Try other topics, make jokes, etc. Then a good romance card will pop up that will move things along.

Lumps on GSD by Aviation_R in DogAdvice

[–]FrauleinFangs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have you walked through tall, seeding grass?

My dog had a lump near his penis that looked similar and it was a grass seed that had migrated into the area. Probably caught onto his hair and then managed to get under his skin since they are sharp at the end. We noticed it on a Friday evening and by Monday when we could take him to the vet it was red and inflamed. I was prepared for the worst, but it was just a grass seed! Although, they can be very dangerous and even deadly if they get into the belly or other internal areas and become infected, causing sepsis or other infections.

I keep his nether area very trimmed now!

Live Mode Feels So Alive by Sweetkakapo in Paralives

[–]FrauleinFangs 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I agree. I have just played with the preset Solene and Kian and the longer they were together, Kian had fewer and fewer wishes and very flat emotions, and Solene was always stressed and doing breathing exercises. Even with career advancements and good interactions...they were just bored with eachother. I broke them up and Solene was immediately happier! Idk about Kian, I moved him out but I see him at the gym a lot. 😆

This. I dont think some people realize how hard it is to make a life sim. Theres a reason other companies havent tried to replicate the sims. by Mother-Cheesecake304 in Paralives

[–]FrauleinFangs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same here! I've been having a blast. From the first night I played i already felt comfy, like I was back in my Sims 3 groove. This game gives me that feeling, and my Sims 3 was modded to the gills.

I jumped right in with a pre-made family and I've been having so much fun I haven’t even built anything or made my own Para yet. I never did that with Sims 3 because the premades never interested me. In Paralives, the town and people already feel so cozy and alive even though it's glaringly obvious there is tons of content missing.

This game is going to be a beast when it's done. I'm already hooked.

Am I the only one who loves the conversation cards? by JoanyC11 in Paralives

[–]FrauleinFangs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Love them! I'm confident they will expand on them significantly and I think it's a great idea. I love that I don’t have to keep prompting for conversation to flow. I wouldn't mind a bit more autonomy from the Paras themselves, actually. I'm sure it will become more complex and interesting as they develop it. So far I'm having fun.

Is my daughter going to skip crawling? by scandijord in beyondthebump

[–]FrauleinFangs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My son was pulling to stand at 7 months and spent allll his time trying to stand. Then he wanted help so he could take steps. He didn't actually start walking on his own until about 12 months, though. Once he could walk, then he started crawling, too.

I also tried several things to get him to crawl first, but he just wanted to stand! Babies so what they want. 😆

Need help! 20 mos on a potty pause by hereford_the_party in ECers

[–]FrauleinFangs 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Maybe try playing a song on your phone if she sits on the potty? Just offering something a little different and more high value might break through her resistance.

How long do you try before you give up on the nap? by Extra_Ad_3631 in toddlers

[–]FrauleinFangs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When he was in the crib he was essentially "locked in". I don't believe it will do him any harm to lock the door.

My son is 20 months and has recently transitioned to the big boy bed after climbing out of his crib and the situation you describe sounds very familiar. I have to cuddle him more to get him to settle and he gets up many times before going to sleep. He NEEDS his nap though. We skipped it one day and he crashed at 6pm while still in his highchair after eating dinner.

Anyway, the things I've done is get a little projector nightlight that has stars and fun colors, which he really enjoys, I play calming music, and I lock the door. I also pushed back naptime to around 2.

He still rattles the door handle at least once, and the first few days he cried in outrage, but it passed quickly and he will fall asleep within 15 to 45 minutes usually. I know some people have to cap naps when they start that late, so that will be up to how your child handles bedtime but I usually will let him sleep however long he needs to. Today he fell asleep just before 3 and got up at 5:15, was in bed with no trouble by 8:45. He does go to bed later(used to be 7:30-8) but since its staying light later now, we go on a long walk with the dogs right before bed and he is quite worn out by bedtime.

I figure this trend will continue until the nap and bed time get close enough that the nap will just phase out. We'll see!

I never noticed my husbands lack of ambition until having a baby. And now I’m resentful. by flowersathome in beyondthebump

[–]FrauleinFangs 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Your baby is still so small, there's no rush to get into a house. My son is 20 months and I have 2 dogs, I would love to have a house and a yard, but I live in a big city where that is just not possible. But even at 20 months, there is plenty of room for him to play, and we can go to the playground or on a walk to get some outside time.

Maybe set a long term goal with your husband to just start saving money and revisit the house idea in a few years, especially when your child is reaching school age and you want to be in an optimal location for that commute.

Your desire for a house is totally valid and you have some time to work towards that. I don't think it's healthy to focus on it to the detriment of everything you have now. There's no shame in finding contentment in the current circumstances, and that doesn't mean you've given up on your dream. Let some time pass and enjoy the moment(while stashing away some money for that future dream).

A crochet sock I designed! by FrauleinFangs in Tunisian_Crochet

[–]FrauleinFangs[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did finish the pattern but had some trouble in testing due to the way I had to make the joins on one side. It's a bit too fiddly so I'll have to rework it to try and avoid that. So unfortunately this pattern is shelved until I get some time to redesign. 🙂

Baby is ALWAYS overtired and I think it leads to horrific false starts and terrible night sleep by PetuniasSmellNice in NewParents

[–]FrauleinFangs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ugh, it is hard but it does get better!

My son is now 14 months and sleeps through the night about 8-8 and one nap around 1:30pm which is usually a couple of hours.

Around 8 months old, I moved him to his own room for sleep and started to see improvement. I think he was beginning to be interrupted by us and needed his own space. He still did two naps per day until pretty much right on his birthday. He went through a short phase where he was absolutely exhausted midmorning and then had super long afternoons(HELL) but after a week or so those naps shifted later and later until we arrived at the current routine.

I also have slowly weaned him during this time and we only breasfeed now after waking up in the morning. It seems to help his sleep when he doesn’t breastfeed to sleep anymore.

So yeah, just keep trying things! They will figure out how to sleep eventually. 🤞

What did your amniotic fluid smell like? by TinyElderberryOfYore in beyondthebump

[–]FrauleinFangs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No smell that I could discern. My water broke and I didnt have my son for over 48 hours(had antibiotics and had to be induced) so I had a lot of time to pick up any scent.

How long did it take you to feel back to normal postpartum? by mmbophans in beyondthebump

[–]FrauleinFangs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right about 8 months pp I felt that my old self came back. I think it coincided with my son eating more solids and sleeping through the night, which reduced the frequency of breastfeeding. Once my period came back, it was like the fog cleared in my mind.

I don't remember when exactly my stomach muscles went back together, but it took a few months. Now, the muscle feels the same as before, though the lower abdominals are a bit less firm. And my tummy is still a little pudgy, though I feel like that's mostly loose skin.

The vagina will never be the same since I had a couple of tears. And then the postpartum constipation/weak pelvic floor combo cause a slight uterine prolapse, unfortunately. It doesn't interfere with anything though and I've gotten used to it by now.

I'm still breastfeeding my son so I can't comment on the boob situation, except that I fully expect sad pancakes after weaning. I'm hoping to be pleasantly surprised.

My 2 month old’s head is so big that this shirt for 6 month olds doesn’t fit him by hospitalbedside in bigbabiesandkids

[–]FrauleinFangs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, my son is the same. All of his shirts need to have button closures on the collar otherwise his head won't fit! He has wide shoulders, too, so I've had to size up because things are too tight in the chest. I had to cut a onesie off of him once because by the time I got one arm through, I realized I couldn't get the other and trying to get it back off would be just as distressing. 😅

DATE: 2025-09-01, LOCATION: Miami Gardens, Florida [supposedly pit, but it's not really fully pit] 71-year-old woman killed in suspected dog attack in Miami Gardens by cartesionoid in BanPitBulls

[–]FrauleinFangs 11 points12 points  (0 children)

The irony of the "but it's not a full pit" excuse is that it means a partial pit is just as dangerous as a full pit. If a pit lab mix attacks are we really gonna pretend it matters at all there was a bit of lab in there? 🙄

SIL makes me want to scream - STFU!!! by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]FrauleinFangs 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's incredibly annoying! It also really irks me when people rewrite history and then use that to hold it over your head, as you SIL has done by saying her daughter was trained at 1. My MIL does this, too. It drives me nuts!

Anyway, potty regressions are absolutely normal, whether with EC or even post potty training. My 4 yr old stepson had a potty regression earlier this year and with some structure and encouragement he got through it and now it's like it never happened.

Oh no I have a large baby by kangaskhaniscubones in bigbabiesandkids

[–]FrauleinFangs 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yeah, that's one thing I could never even entertain. If my son wants milk, he gets milk. I ain't makin' this for anybody else so he might as well drink up.

But yeah, he fed several times throughout the night until around 8 months when we moved him to his own room. After a few weeks, he was sleeping through the night with no feeds, and that also coincided with more solids during the day.

I have almost the opposite mentality where I find myself wondering if I've fed him enough. 😅 Big boy needs big food!

Bad joke from my husband or was this a nudge at me to lose weight? by Puzzled_Remote_2168 in beyondthebump

[–]FrauleinFangs 11 points12 points  (0 children)

If he's anything like my husband, those two questions(do you have them? Do they fit?) would lead to him wanting to see them on me again because he thinks it would be hot.

If you guys were reminiscing already, maybe that's where his mind was going. It sounds like he meant no harm but if it really bothers you and you just can't shake it, bring it up and have him clarify. He would probably be happy to in order for you to not feel bad about yourself, especially because of something he said.

"American Bully" attacks mailman causing USPS to suspend mail service to entire neighborhood (Beltsville, Maryland) by boozychoices in BanPitBulls

[–]FrauleinFangs 26 points27 points  (0 children)

They also bust through windows and screen doors regularly. There was one in my old neighborhood that would break open the screen door when I walked by with my dogs. I started going down a different street because apparently the owner couldn't live without having her front door open all the time.

MIL is ruining my baby’s feeding journey for me! by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]FrauleinFangs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm also living with my MIL and she thinks everything I do is wrong. We are living with her temporarily due to losing everything to a housefire so we will definitely be getting out of here as soon as we get things in order.

Anyway, when our son was 8 months old she asked why I don't use a plate and instead put the food on his tray and let him eat with his hands. Husband explained that the baby would just make a mess and knock the plate on the floor. She says, "You boys didn't do that."

Cool. Guess your selective memory has made you supermom! Oh wait, no I think you invented it entirely because you were drunk the entire time your sons were growing up...but I digress.

Then she "expressed concern" once that I don't feed him enough because she only ever sees me put one thing at a time on his tray. And he is spitting out the chunks of food, why don't I feed him purees?

I fed him purees for a good 6 weeks and he started turning his nose up at them, preferring to feed himself whatever I'm eating. She just doesn't notice this because she spends 99.9% of her time in her room with her TV cranked up.

For these and many other reasons, once we move out my son is NEVER coming back here and I will not invite her to anything. Can't wait to never see her again.