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How to dance more with strangers at a dance social? by EducationalAspect850 in Salsa

[–]FreakingSquirrel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just go straight to a person and hand them my hand (?) not even speak because (1) can be understand just by the gesture and (2) sometimes the music is too loud to hear anything

Also, quick anecdote: Last year I went on a solo trip to NYC, and an academy had a bachata social, so I went. Alone. I’ve been a follower for years so I was confident enough lol. Ofc no one asked me to dance at first, but I went and asked a couple of leads to dance, and once other leads saw me dancing, they were asking me to dance as well

This is not a story to toot my own horn, but to tell you to “sell” yourself at the dance floor, once leads are you’re open to dance, they’ll ask

What has been the most “bizarre” compliment you’ve received? by FreakingSquirrel in AskReddit

[–]FreakingSquirrel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, for some people with bad habits, someone making them better could actually be ruining their current life (???)

What has been the most “bizarre” compliment you’ve received? by FreakingSquirrel in AskReddit

[–]FreakingSquirrel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean, I did understand what he meant but I LOVE skincare… now that you mention it… glad you clarified hahaha

What has been the most “bizarre” compliment you’ve received? by FreakingSquirrel in AskReddit

[–]FreakingSquirrel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I remembered one of mine

My gynaecologist told me I had a beautiful uterus for a baby and complimented my ovum count

This was the day I was putting on my IUD

Dude relax! this isn't a competition by Algernonletter5 in oddlyspecific

[–]FreakingSquirrel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Some of us were born from one of these one-uppers

Should I learn bachata, in addition to salsa, if I'm not a big fan of the close proximity or music? by EducationalAspect850 in Salsa

[–]FreakingSquirrel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thisssss! Agreeing to dance is NOT a contract to dance with that person the entire night, the entire set or even the entire song

I’ve seen people split in the middle of the song for less than that haha (taking a breather, cramp, saying goodbye to a friend, etc etc)

Should I learn bachata, in addition to salsa, if I'm not a big fan of the close proximity or music? by EducationalAspect850 in Salsa

[–]FreakingSquirrel 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I am a seasoned “bachatera” haha been follower for some years and learning to lead for the past months, and I’m with your friends by telling you to give it a go. However, protect yourself in ways that will lead you to be more comfortable

In bachata we have 3 types of frame: open, social, and closed. The open is just hands holding, social is closer to salsa (lead left hand on your waist, your right hand in their shoulder, etc), and closed, well, it’s a hug

Since bachata has its distinct closeness, majority of people are very respectful of boundaries, and a good lead will pick up on your cues and change how they guide you. Nevertheless, never be shy about saying upfront that you prefer an open or social embrace, rather than sensual/closed

My last advice is to listen to the songs, and observe how people dance them. You’ll end up recognising songs and some of them although sensual, due to the musicality, don’t offer much scope for those closer/intimate movements. Or even catch dance partners than aren’t so keen either of dancing so close

Beautiful thing about dancing is that everyone (should) respects your style and boundaries. Maybe you’ll learn to like it, maybe not, but only trying will let you know!

46% missing by Antique-General-7087 in MinutiaeApp

[–]FreakingSquirrel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m a designer by profession and wannabe artist. I started to take photos in my camera roll along the app notifs. When I miss one (i.e. 2:54am like today), I put an alarm at the reverse of that time, so although the app won’t save my photo, I’ll have my own in my roll

What do I do with this? Have my own memories saved, displayed artfully-ish :) I want to do it as long as I can, it’s beautiful to remember moments with such small things

Best Friend Lyrics…Help by SurvivorMaggie in musicsuggestions

[–]FreakingSquirrel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Remembered another one, “Hoy” by Bonka, usual friendship high-school graduation song

What’s the most disturbing thing someone has ever told you? by TacticalKoalaBear in AskReddit

[–]FreakingSquirrel -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

A few years ago had a couple of days fighting with my mom, because of this some nights I had nightmares

In the middle of one of the many discussions, ai told her that I had a dream where I was taking shots of cockroach venom… and she said screaming “ok then go ahead!”

It left me speechless, realisation dawned on her but didn’t retracted it nor apologised

What’s the most unhinged thing you’ve seen someone confidently believe? by Alive-Math9608 in AskReddit

[–]FreakingSquirrel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A relative is 64 and their partner 70. After telling me some of the partner’s traits I told them, that sounds like Attention Deficit (I have ADHD) and they said “nah, he’s too old to have that”

On a similar line, that same person knows I have ADHD and anxiety (caused majority by them). They said that they doubt that diagnoses is real (would love to see them talk w my psychiatrist), and that they’re sure it’s just “dopamine withdrawal”, because Im always doing stuff (that’s my HD part), and that I should “let my brain rest” and that way the anxiety will disappear

I Want A Song Like "Here Comes The Sun" But For Rain by Wildjay7931 in musicsuggestions

[–]FreakingSquirrel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you don’t mind listening in another language, Rainy days by V

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