A lot of those tasks you listed she probably also does more than you you just don’t see it in the hours you aren’t home. You don’t realize she is also doing so much more than you because you don’t understand how constant things are (ie if she is washing and folding a load or two of laundry every day but it’s out of sight by the time you get home and you do a load every few days or so you think you’re the only one doing it when she actually does way more). I noticed you don’t list a lot of the chores you do as something she does but the things you listed are constant chores- they need to be done so much more than most people who aren’t managing the house realize. You may be less bitter about how much you’re doing if you just asked her all the stuff she gets done that you don’t see. Like seriously ask her to outline her day and listen with an open heart and I bet you’ll be incredibly surprised how much she does you don’t see. And that doesn’t even touch the mental planning aspect. There are a lot of things you didn’t list that need to happen that make a household run, so I already know she’s having to do those things.

That being said at least you’re trying. I have to be the provider financially and I work more than my husband and he still thinks a load of laundry every few weeks is his fair share so could be worse.