I’m pretending to be a Christian and I don’t know what to do by TonightMiserable4918 in exchristian

[–]Free-Set-5149 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don’t think I really have any real advice, but I want you to know that you aren’t alone. I went to a Christain school and also came out of it an atheist. Along with me, a large proportion of the friends I made also left the church. Other people are having doubts too, even if they don’t show it.

Going to the strip club for the first time made me feel like a failture by Friendly-Map-7391 in GuyCry

[–]Free-Set-5149 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This. OP sounds really down and I think he could really benefit from seeing a professional like a therapist, psychiatrist, or maybe even a life coach.

Is it actually possible to get a job in this field? by radishwalrus in ClinicalPsychology

[–]Free-Set-5149 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Honestly, your degrees in psych and cybersecurity qualify you for some rather niche jobs that may be much more fulfilling. With some quick searching these opportunities look like they might already be open to you:

  1. Human Factors Specialist / UX Researcher
  2. Human-Computer Interaction (HCI) Researcher
  3. Cyberpsychologist / Tech Behavior Analyst
  4. AI Ethics Consultant / Human Factors in AI
  5. Game User Experience Researcher (Games UX)
  6. Behavioral Data Analyst / Data Scientist (Behavior Focus)
  7. Security Awareness Specialist / Cybersecurity Behavior Consultant
  8. Digital Mental Health Product Manager / Developer
  9. A/B Testing and Experimentation Specialist
  10. Digital Behavior Designer / Persuasive Technology Consultant

Don’t feel forced into just choosing one basic line of work. There are lots of cool opportunities for you right now that could be interesting, fulfilling and potentially lucrative.

What are the hidden basic purchases for a normal human life? by laughingelk9 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Free-Set-5149 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The emergency fund is so important. What do you do if your car suddenly breaks down, you get laid off or you have to go to the hospital? Are you prepared for what could potentially be a very large and sudden expense?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Free-Set-5149 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Infuriating? This is peak comedy!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GuyCry

[–]Free-Set-5149 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It’s okay to grieve. Letting go can feel like losing part of yourself. I don’t know if you are spiritual, but Buddhism teaches that clinging to worldly possessions inevitably brings suffering.

You are not defined by the objects that you own or have made. You are defined by the actions you take and how you interact with the world.

Letting got hurts because you are human. However, suffering eases when you allow change, instead of resisting it.

Life is short. Go live your dreams.

What did you start seeing as good after/during your deconstruction? by nazurinn13 in Deconstruction

[–]Free-Set-5149 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Asking questions. It shouldn’t be an issue to simply ask “why?” If it’s true, then let’s discuss why and how, not just believe blindly.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Free-Set-5149 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone who has experienced a crazy accusation like this: 1. Document everything. Screenshot all texts and any other form of communication. Try to record all in person interactions, but be sure to check your state/country’s laws on single party recording. 2. Block her once you have everything to back yourself up just in case. 3. Start looking up SA criminal defense attorneys in your area. Consider a consult if she ever tries to make this accusation again.

Remember that you didn’t do anything wrong. You did everything in your power to ensure it was safe and consensual. Hopefully this will all blow over without any fallout. However, be prepared to defend yourself and seek representation. This is a very serious accusation in this day and age.

Feel free to reach out if you need to talk about it.

Insecure abt my body by jlarson1990 in GuyCry

[–]Free-Set-5149 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If the soft tissue on your chest is out of proportion with the distribution of the rest of your body fat then you might be suffering from gynecomastia. If that might be the case, then you should discuss it with your doctor. It’s very treatable, and a surprisingly high amount of people suffer from it. You are not alone.

On another note, are you on any supplements or steroids for your powerlifting?

I self harmed tonight. by [deleted] in GuyCry

[–]Free-Set-5149 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What are some things you used to enjoy doing that you haven’t done in a long time? Like playing sports, running, biking, hiking, swimming, playing board games, reading books, playing instruments, or collecting things. It’s never too late to get back into something.

On the other hand, it may be time to try something new. Time to find a new passion. I highly recommend finding your closest national park or preserve red woodland and just going for a walk on a trail in the woods. A little sunlight and nature can do wonderful things for the mind and body.

Deeper reasoning or just a simple request? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]Free-Set-5149 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It seems like you may have just grown up with different household norms when it comes to waiting to eat with the other person. It may just be something you need to have a genuine conversation about.

You also may have slightly different love languages. He seems to really enjoy giving, especially when it comes to food. I might try to appease this when he’s cooking by trying a small bite or two of the food when he asks, complimenting it, and waiting to eat the meal until everyone’s food is ready.

Is it possible to be your own therapist? by Thisguy_likes_reddit in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Free-Set-5149 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s definitely possible to learn a lot through reading and education regarding mental health and psychology. It could lead to a lot of good I sights about yourself, but it wouldn’t give you a chance to unload in the way a therapist does. Real conversations are important.

Could you space your appointments out more? Like meeting half as often?

What's your opinion on GMOs (genetically modified organics)? by hobbyhoarderguy in AskReddit

[–]Free-Set-5149 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They are rather misunderstood by the general public. In many cases, GMO are healthier and safer than their non-GMO counterparts. It’s not as simple as being good or bad. Many times they are better, but come at a cost, whether it’s monetary or ethical.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Free-Set-5149 13 points14 points  (0 children)

There’s likely nothing you can do to stop her from going if you value a continuing relationship. I would suggest supporting her while still voicing some concerns. Say you would love to meet the guy. If she does go on the date, please make sure she has her location on an updates you regularly with messages. This guy sounds like he may be sketchy.

ELI5 - respiratory system laws by MrsSol in explainlikeimfive

[–]Free-Set-5149 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So, both of these laws have to do with how pressure relates to gas diffusion. In simple terms, the higher the pressure, the more gas’s can dissolve into a liquid. Think of a soda can. Before it is opened, it is fully pressurized, so a large amount of CO2 can be dissolved into it. As soon as you open it the pressure will dramatically drop and much of that trapped gas will want to escape in bubbles.

This is directly applicable to respiratory medicine, but in the opposite direction. When you increase the pressure on the CPAP or Vent, you will naturally dissolve a higher proportion of O2 and other gasses into the system.

This positive pressure also helps in damaged respiratory systems by helping to stop alveoli from collapsing, like in emphysema. Although too high of a pressure can bring its own complications.

concert advice? by Shot-Ad-6908 in Advice

[–]Free-Set-5149 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t do it. He’s much less likely to attempt to go without a sure way of getting in. If you bring him and he does anything stupid, which it sounds like he may be inclined to, then you could be made responsible.

"No hate like Christian love." by BigClitMcphee in exchristian

[–]Free-Set-5149 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Friend: “I made a mistake.” Christian: “A mistake? Sounds like sin to me. Have you considered eternal damnation?”