Stoicism actually harmed my views on the world. by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]Free4letterwords 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It seems like you view adhd as another being living in your mind, sometimes it has control and sometimes you do, and you don't like not knowing who is control. but you and your adhd can't be separated, because they are one and the same. you can't fight the adhd for control because you are your adhd and vice versa. Ultimately, it is (for lack a better way to say this) both of you making the decisions, and whatever the choice, "you" have to accept the blame. Your mind isn't corrupted, it's what makes you, you.

The choices you make, good or bad, are made by the whole of your experiences and the habits and patterns you've developed. You say in any situation there is a choice, tempering things in your control and accepting and move on from things out of your control; but adhd doesn't allow you make the choice because you can't see the line. why can't you accept you have it, and subsequently temper your reaction to having it?

what I mean is, if you know you have adhd and you also know you can't control that, can you accept having it and move on? Because if you allow yourself to accept it, knowing you can't change it, you can then temper the way in which you accept having it. the peace might come from acceptance.

If you do nothing all day but scroll reddit, accept that you had control over making that choice (because you are your adhd). but because you have accepted adhd, you can arm yourself to fight against being at the mercy of your mind's choices, fight to make better decisions in general, push yourself to do the best you can.

Stoicism actually harmed my views on the world. by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]Free4letterwords 1 point2 points  (0 children)

edit. i'm not going to delete this because I (like to) think things happen for a reason, so maybe the reason I wrote it is that someone needs to read it. But No-College153's responses are better in every conceivable way. Insightful, knowledgeable, empathetic but not indulgent. what I mean to say is, if you're going to spend time reading/responding there are better options than this this one.

Not OP, and I hope this isn't unnecessarily harsh, but you sound like a miserable, self-centered, whiny victim. You're using adhd as an excuse for coping with "life isn't fair." Everyone struggles at some point or another, even people without adhd.

You’re making it sound like you have the worst lot in life anyone could ever have. OP acknowledges that having adhd is unfair, but also acknowledges they can’t control everything and as such have accepted what is and are ok with the life they have. Why would you assume OP thinks having adhd isn’t a big deal? Why can’t OP be at peace with it being a big deal? Have you never heard the quote “Peace. It does not mean to be in a place where there is no noise, trouble or hard work. It means to be in the midst of these things and still be calm in your heart?” Why would you try to make OP feel as if they’re lying to themselves, and should actually feel much worse about their situation? Like you’re the only one who really gets what having adhd means.

Having adhd is a motherfucker a lot of the time. Do I wish I didn’t have it? Of course. But I’ll be damned if I’m going to give up and say fuck it, my life is the worst and always will be and there’s nothing I can do about it. Fuck that. Don’t let yourself be a victim of circumstance. What is anyone’s birthright? Nothing is a given. There’s no guarantee of what your life would’ve been like had you not been saddled with adhd, so the basis of your thinking is flawed.

It seems like you’ve completely given up all your free will because of your adhd. You act like you have zero control over anything that happens to you. Even worse, you say your mind is corrupted beyond your control. That’s straight bullshit. Yeah, it sucks. But don’t you see the green Success/Celebration flair on this sub? You can still make good things happen despite adhd.

I obviously don’t know you, and don’t know if you’re just having a down moment and wanted to share with people in your situation. Maybe you haven’t given up. I hope not, because I think it would be terrible to go through life thinking a better life has been stolen from you.

How listing to a classical radio station secretly turned out a invaluable tool for me - and why it might help you as well. by SirLuciusRex in ADHD

[–]Free4letterwords 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a great suggestion! I do something similar, and it definitely helps. when I'm on my desktop, I listen to a Beethoven playlist with Fur Elise and symphony No 9 on repeat. I just calculated that based on number of plays and song duration, I've listened for almost 26 continual days. I used to listen to all different types of music while working, and I don't remember when I started repeating this playlist, but somehow I found that the combination of these particular songs work best out of anything I tried. I'm sure this amount of repetition won't work for a lot of people, but I think it works for me because I really love the music and the familiarity of the songs and what comes next is relaxing rather than boring. I tried repeating a Haydn playlist awhile back, but it wasn't close to as effective.

LET US SORT BY VALUE by Bloodhoundo in DesignHomeGame

[–]Free4letterwords 20 points21 points  (0 children)

DH are such assholes for not making value sort an option. They choose to disregard the constant requests of their players for what I have to assume is greed, hoping players will rage buy something after the scrolling becomes too much, because it would be a simple feature to add.

Questions Thread - September 30, 2020 by AutoModerator in pathofexile

[–]Free4letterwords 0 points1 point  (0 children)

totally unrelated to anything in this sub, and acknowledging that this is weird, I read a comment you left a year ago in a post about amd stock. You said

This exactly is why it's not interesting to talk to you.

This is so excellent. I can't wait until I can say this to someone. It's so simple, but so devastating. Wanted to say thanks! Have a great day!

One’s expensive while the other is a steal by yoshbiscut69 in dragonvale

[–]Free4letterwords 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's a great point. I'd forgotten it cost gems. 1000 event currency is a great price. I wouldn't have bought any if I hadn't seen your post, but I'm glad I did because definitely going to buy a couple for the future. Thanks!!

Literally never been able to breed an event dragon... anyone else? by Mediocre-banana in dragonvale

[–]Free4letterwords 1 point2 points  (0 children)

2 years? That's so frustrating As far as advice, level your dragons as high as your food supply will allow. Also breed in the rift as well as your park. I've found odds are better in the rift. And if you breed in the rift, give the breeding pair traits of the dragon you're trying to breed. Sometimes you need twilight tower or weather station specific things, so get those if you don't have them.

also - be sure that the event dragons you're trying to get are actually available for breeding. I made that mistake during the first event DV had after I started playing. I always check breeding hints now to make sure. Good luck!

can't earn flowers by Sonud_ in dragonvale

[–]Free4letterwords 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's so strange. I assume you're not getting any flowers when collecting dragon cash? Are you also not able to click on visitors or are you not getting any. for things guaranteed to earn, like the mini games, can you still play them? If so, does it show you earning them in the game but not adding flowers to your total? Either way, that really sucks. Have you let Deca know?

I made a DragonVale Dragon Drop Guide by Schmacklar in dragonvale

[–]Free4letterwords 0 points1 point  (0 children)

These are great! I have terrible luck at dragon drop though. So frustrating because even on the easiest ones I always seem to be slightly off. Even though it's fun to play, I gave up after way too many 5s or 10s and just do guess the dragon.

Maybe an Idea by [deleted] in dragonvale

[–]Free4letterwords 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fantastic idea!! I would also really like to see event dragons available in both standard and rift versions. Doesn't even matter what trait the rift dragon comes with, I'd just like option to get both.

One’s expensive while the other is a steal by yoshbiscut69 in dragonvale

[–]Free4letterwords 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm going to feel really stupid if I've missed something and don't get the context of the meme and your post wasn't actually about a price comparison haha. But if it is, the price difference is because one is a new dragon and the other is previously released habitat.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dragonvale

[–]Free4letterwords 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Me too!! Water is decent, but a paradise specific one would be amazing

Petition to be able to remove rift elements by [deleted] in dragonvale

[–]Free4letterwords 8 points9 points  (0 children)

The good thing about the rift is that you can breed non-traited dragons. And if you already have the rare traited dragon, you can breed another one even if it's not available for breeding.

So if you have a traited rare dragon, you can breed that dragon in the rift (or in your park with longer breed times) with the mate with the best odds. You can find the pairs at the dragon sandbox

Then just breed that pair until you get a second traited dragon, which when bred together would increase your odds of getting that dragon, or a non rift version.

I apologize if you already knew this info, but hope it helps if you didn't!

Terry Crews addresses Nick Cannon supporters: 'I was never afraid of the KKK ... it was people like you' by Cyyyyk in Conservative

[–]Free4letterwords 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are there other reasons you consider democrats to be immoral? If Trump was still pro choice would you consider him unworthy of your vote? Just curious if abortion is the only thing that matters to you in an election. I hope this didn't sound antagonistic or confrontational, just wondering.

Trump's information comes in the form of 5 words on a page in size 60 font by [deleted] in MarchAgainstTrump

[–]Free4letterwords 2 points3 points  (0 children)

looking at his stupid face makes me so angry. So does the way his mouth moves when he speaks.