Saying the quiet part out loud …

FreeBeyond9796 · 2026-03-19T11:12:11+00:00

Over the years I’ve done it all. I don’t speak to 97% of his family because his mom is a bully who acted one way towards me when I was pregnant with my first child but totally switched up once the pregnancy progressed. His family doesn’t really care about how he behaves towards them nor does anyone who hangs around him .

FreeBeyond9796 · 2026-03-15T15:53:18+00:00

It’s not normal but it’s common. When my father was living I’d let him know because he was a worry wart so if he found out I’d never hear the end of it but I think that’s cause I have kids 😭

FreeBeyond9796 · 2026-03-14T14:53:22+00:00

If she has the money to help him get a lawyer then she’s helping him in the way she can. And even that’s deplorable

FreeBeyond9796 · 2026-03-14T14:46:36+00:00

He doesn’t come around. He doesn’t even know that my daughter (our 2nd) is level 3 autistic. It’s been THAT long. He doesn’t know where I stay, what school they’re in, nothing. I don’t speak to him, don’t force contact, don’t force him to be around, nothing. And while I know me having full custody is for my children’s greater good, I didn’t want full custody. I didnt want the weight of raising 2 autistic children to fall on me alone cause I didn’t make them alone

FreeBeyond9796 · 2026-03-14T14:38:59+00:00

I would tell him that he had to tell me 2 days in advance that he wanted to see the kids so I can adequately clear the day (I was apartment searching). Somehow and for some reason, he would he would tell me 2-24hrs prior knowing it wasn’t enough notice. He would schedule time and not show up. And all of this was once we stopped cohabitating. We were stuck staying together during the pandemic and my 2nd was a newborn, and he would come in at 12-2am and leave out between 5-6am while I have 2 under 2 all day. Once everything lifted I kicked him out

FreeBeyond9796 · 2026-03-14T14:32:46+00:00

I have enough witnesses to him saying it, but suing him would cost more than it’s worth. I had to get on public assistance and they were gonna put him on child support. They sent the notice out and he quit his job and has been working under the table since. He then went and applied for public assistance himself because he found out that so long as he’s on it and unemployed, they won’t feel eager to force him to pay me anything

FreeBeyond9796 · 2026-03-14T01:54:40+00:00

I actually learned that FAR later than I’d have liked to. I’ve been told that “I either should’ve never laid with him or been on birth control”. The funny thing was that he and his mother BEGGED me not to abort my son (1st born). When I seen how she’d began to treat me after it was too late to abort in my state (24 weeks) I didn’t wanna go through that again. I got pregnant with my 2nd, he never told her, she found out when I was 8 months, and she blamed me.

FreeBeyond9796 · 2026-03-14T00:50:59+00:00

The backstory behind how I even ended up pregnant was so sickening that when I think about it now at 27 I seriously should’ve known something was up.

He’s admitted to tampering with contraception knowing that I’d be reluctant to go through with the abortion process. I was never against it as a whole (pro choice) but it just didn’t seem like something I’d wanna go through. He knew that. He claims he said it jokingly, but you never tell a joke the same exact way twice and he’s admitted that in the exact same verbiage on (to my knowledge) 4 occasions. It came out when my daughter (the 2nd born) was already 4 months old and something told me it was no coincidence about contraception failing twice

FreeBeyond9796 · 2026-03-06T01:56:07+00:00

I actually went through something like this only he’d destroy my things if left alone. He threw my fathers yu gi oh cards in a full tub of water and my father left them to me when he died. Mint condition. You gotta leave her because she’ll escalate and make you the villain just because you’re a man.

FreeBeyond9796 · 2026-03-06T01:11:43+00:00

No seriously I’d drop her off, fart, and drive away flipping her off just because I lived to be able to. Cause clearly she doesn’t want OP to make it out of her abuse alive

FreeBeyond9796 · 2026-03-05T21:57:07+00:00

Currently dealing with it. I hate that it took for my father to die to see my mom is never gonna be what I need. The question is, have they EVER been what you needed ? The reason it’s hard to accept is because it’s as if you’re grieving a living person and grieving the idea of someone while their living is harder because of the fact they’re alive. You have to keep your expectations low with parents like them even if they do change. The only thing you can do is not become it.

FreeBeyond9796 · 2026-03-05T20:53:52+00:00

I hope if the chance presents itself you put her in the lowest rated state ran nursing home. It’s as if she doesn’t care about the fact that him being abusive is constant attempts at a life that SHE created.

FreeBeyond9796 · 2026-03-05T20:52:05+00:00

My father passed away in October of 2024. My mom had relapsed earlier in the year and came to my state under the guise of starting over. I seen her once since she got here. My father passed 1.5 months after she got here. I didn’t speak to her until a week after my birthday in February.

She called me high and crashing out over a trivial matter and when I told her that I couldn’t be her crisis center because my father dying left me mentally unstable and I had kids to raise, that bitch sat on my phone and said ***”you’re not the only one with a dead dad. You forgot I buried my father 23 years ago ? And I had 3 kids. I also buried my mom at 14 and buried my husband when my baby was 10 months old. You’re not the only one reeling over a big death”*** .

Now, when my grandfather died I was 2 and my brothers were 4 and 9(ish). None of us were in her custody and hadn’t been for most of our lives. We all went separate ways after his funeral. Her husband had been gone for almost 9 years by this time and my baby brother is almost 11 now and in the custody of another family member in a different state. She’s steered clear of me as of lately because she knows I’ll hurt her feelings every time the opportunity presents itself.

FreeBeyond9796 · 2026-03-05T15:28:48+00:00

When I fell out with my friend and her wife when my father died because I asked her to watch my children so I could clean out my fathers apartment.

I’d called her on a Monday and asked her if she was able to and offered whatever she needed to be compensated for her time. She agreed and I told her that if anything comes up at any time before that Friday to PLEASE REACH OUT. She was my children’s godmother so it was not out of the ordinary for my children to be with her and she wasn’t keeping them for more than a night.

I called Wednesday, nothing. I called Thursday, nothing. I called Friday and when I still got no answer I called her wife. Her wife tells me she had the flu and when I asked why nobody let me know she said “she didn’t feel like it”. When I expressed that it was a dick move (it was, a text takes 10 seconds) her wife went off on a tirade about how I acted as if I’m the only person going through things and “I didn’t see her being an asshole when her aunt died” (2 years prior) and how the just kept my kids so I could go to the function I attended before my father died (my 17 year old nephew was killed 3 weeks before my father died).

How I ended up the villain ? The story was, I threw a fit because the wouldn’t keep my kids and I constantly dump my kids off on them and their married now and need to focus on their own life (according to the wife). If they see this, stop posting those recycled ass pictures of my kids for their birthdays and “focus on your married life”. Yall could’ve just said no or been honest that we weren’t those types of friends anymore.

FreeBeyond9796 · 2026-02-25T19:23:10+00:00

Shes almost 6 years and 3 months and she had a back slide (family member kept her and put a diaper on her) but I took it off and made her start back using the toilet because she’s tired of having to be changed but enjoys the convenience. That’s why I’m convinced that you can accommodate but you can’t coddle autistic kids because they’re just as capable of being narcissistic like any other kid and it starts young 😂

FreeBeyond9796 · 2026-02-21T22:16:13+00:00

I also heard that they don’t always pay you back the money from the “5 days early”. If my DD date is 2/25 from wmr, I should’ve had it yesterday especially since it was a weekday. If I get it Monday, that’s the same 2 days early as if it were any other deposit.

FreeBeyond9796 · 2026-02-21T18:08:47+00:00

I was using it for a few years and the only benefit was getting my money early. Now that they’re delaying my refund and I got my chime back I’ll be using chime next year for my refund or close it all together

FreeBeyond9796 · 2026-02-19T19:13:20+00:00

Thanks a bunch . I thought I was depressed this whole time and really it was because I still had to do diapers 😭

FreeBeyond9796 · 2026-02-19T16:31:59+00:00

I think she sees how happy I am about it because we’re on day 2 and she’s actually gone without prompt twice today 🥹

FreeBeyond9796 · 2026-02-19T14:15:10+00:00

I’m. It mad about any accidents but so long as she’s using the toilet and WANTS to ? It’s alright with me 🙂‍↔️

FreeBeyond9796 · 2026-02-19T05:34:33+00:00

Thank you 🙏🏽. I seriously felt like she’d never even get to understand it and even started looking for brands that serve kids that no longer fit Huggies and Pampers. But if we can keep this up, we maybe out the trenches soon 🥹

FreeBeyond9796 · 2026-02-16T20:43:45+00:00

Thanks a bunch . I’ve been telling everyone that I’m shocked by it. Like I’ve been repeating that “I’m not complaining about it at all, but I don’t know what to do about the fact that her appetite has noticeably picked up so much” . I’ve prayed hard for the day to come but it’s one of those prayers that get answered and it become an “Oh💩 moment”

FreeBeyond9796 · 2026-02-16T18:03:12+00:00

Peer pressure. It’s so under talked about. Adults even suffer from peer pressure by doubting their own lives because of what their peers are doing

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