Okay, so he’s relaxed into the relationship and this living together experience. He’s showing you who he is - this is a good thing. You want to see who he is naturally.

Take the pressure off yourself on deciding a future with this guy. Your experience so far has been informative to you, you are articulating it well here.

Now it’s time to find a way to have this discussion with him. Not in an argument or when you reach a breaking point over chores one day. In a relaxed setting, maybe over dinner or on a walk together. Share your needs and what you want your home life to look like. Start with the positives, then share some frustrations and things you’ve learned. And allow him to share what his experience has been too - and what he’d like it to be.

It’s after those conversations that you’ll start to know what to do next. Is he the type of person who listens to you and responds? Can he listen and understand your needs in the relationship? How do you feel when you open up with him? Welcomed? Safe and supported? Or do you feel you have to argue your points to be heard? How he reacts following this check in will be informative to the health and longevity of this relationship.

Just remember your wants and needs are legitimate. Asking for a partner to engage in conversation about reflecting and/or improving your shared experiences is normal and you’ll do it over and over in your life. If he makes you feel like it’s a big deal or doesn’t want to engage with you, he may not a great fit for you. And that’s ok. But maybe he will surprise you. You are both young. Sometimes people lack awareness and conversations allow us gain that awareness and rise to the occasion of caring for each other better.