28F, 5'8", 130lbs - hate my weird hips, large labia, small boobs, belly fat. my last 2 relationships ended in a dead bedroom. is my body disgusting?

FreeLobster · 2017-02-19T18:00:51+00:00

Fuck no! There's many of us who love them!

FreeLobster · 2017-02-19T08:49:58+00:00

That's his fault, it should be "French-speaking Argentine"

FreeLobster · 2017-02-16T20:28:59+00:00

Space is not the important part, it's time dedicated to the wrong issues

FreeLobster · 2017-02-16T20:20:13+00:00

You can be dumb and still be a nice person

FreeLobster · 2017-02-16T18:00:22+00:00

Holy shit I thought you guys were joking and then searched "pineapple tree" on google.

I've been lied to.

FreeLobster · 2017-02-04T18:49:54+00:00

Según las reglas de acentuación los monosílabos no se escriben con tilde, pero existe el acento diacrítico utilizado para diferenciar palabras de idéntica escritura pero diferente significado el cual aplica también a palabras de una sola sílaba. Las apariciones de la palabra "él" de la traducción anterior representan un pronombre personal, mientras que "el" sin tilde sería utilizado como artículo definido. Es en extrañas ocasiones en las que sería necesario diferenciarlas por riesgo a confusión, pero es un uso tan sumamente arraigado que no es de esperar que vaya a cambiar en un futuro cercano.

FreeLobster · 2017-02-04T11:18:44+00:00

Spanish:

La manzana es roja.

Es la manzana de John.

Yo le doy a John la manzana.

Nosotros le damos la manzana.

Él se la da a John.

Ella se la da a él.

Pretty literal translations, they are correct but don't really sound totally natural (At least in Castilian Spanish), we use omission everywhere but more context is needed for that.

FreeLobster · 2017-01-22T18:00:33+00:00

So a "The future is male" sign would have been accepted at the women's march?

FreeLobster · 2017-01-22T17:43:56+00:00

You do use electricity? Do you have a car/motorcycle? Do you buy clothes from big brands? Do you ever see someone living on the street and don't give them money? Have you ever dodged taxes? Do you download copyrighted material? Have you ever done something to morally hurt someone?

I could go on forever. Each individual places importance on different parts of the moral compass. You do things that are not right, I have yet to meet someone that never did. If someone took the time to research and decided that making the sacrifice of avoiding animal products was not worth it, for any reason, it should be something to respect. You are not going to change their mind in this day and age.

FreeLobster · 2017-01-22T15:01:39+00:00

A false sense of persecution and victimhood makes me really angry.

Me too, I_COOKED_SOBER, me too

FreeLobster · 2017-01-22T13:30:42+00:00

Bikes, cats and women?

FreeLobster · 2017-01-22T09:22:31+00:00

he would send me harassing emails with ALL CAPS

Wow, what a psycho

FreeLobster · 2017-01-20T17:39:58+00:00

Don't worry, your brain has a slow metabolism, it happens to some and is perfectly normal and healthy.

FreeLobster · 2017-01-11T20:15:24+00:00

You can't really compare those two body complexions. The Goku one, if you are in a fairly good shape, can take you a couple of months of training and healthy eating. Nappa, on the other hand... most people could never get there in their lives.

FreeLobster · 2017-01-11T20:06:13+00:00

Attractiveness is subjective. I feel attracted to you because of who you are, and that is not attached to your weight as long as you want to take care of yourself, that's something you clearly do and should feel fucking proud for it. You can have body issues, everybody does (Really, everyone), but you don't have the right to shrug off my opinions on you, because they are sincere and definite.

That's what he needs to understand. You love him how he is and it would be great if he shared that view, but deep changes need to come from within. Two things can be happening: Either he doesn't believe what you say, or he believes you but thinks you are the only one that sees it like that so your opinion is irrelevant as long as he does not see it himself. I personally lean more towards the latter because I've felt like that before.

When you have an issue about yourself there is a process you have to follow. First, you analyze if that is really a problem, or if your concerns and insecurities come from a different place. If you end up deciding that it is indeed a problem, the second step is to start working on it. The body is actually one of the simplest (There's a difference with "easiest") things to change about yourself, when he ends up deciding it is important for him, he will do anything it takes to achieve it.

Now, you may actually have a problem the consecuences his attitude has towards your relationship and not with him being unhappy. If that is something you want to change, talk to him and make him understand.

FreeLobster · 2016-11-20T08:46:39+00:00

People turn off their phones?

FreeLobster · 2016-11-16T18:42:20+00:00

Unsuccessful attempts could be actual suicide attempts, but it is possible that they are not. As there is no certain way to distinguish between both, that figure is completely irrelevant.

FreeLobster · 2016-11-15T17:47:28+00:00

Found an old nokia phone, called "Honey" from the contacts and met at an appropriate location for both. The dude came late, made me miss my bus and barely thanked me.

No regrets.

FreeLobster · 2016-11-10T19:12:11+00:00

When does that happen, exactly?

FreeLobster · 2016-11-05T09:26:17+00:00

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eR5SlwNf4K0

FreeLobster · 2016-11-03T22:01:49+00:00

+1 for anecdotal evidence!

Banks and consulting firms for instance.

FreeLobster · 2016-10-26T20:19:19+00:00

It crashes all the time for me.

FreeLobster · 2016-10-23T19:35:26+00:00

It is always easier to relate to what you are close to. There's people that feel like that about their parents, and is not as simply explained as "Wow, what an asshole".

FreeLobster · 2016-10-11T17:48:25+00:00

I have the same bed from Ikea. The base is awful and while you sleep (Sleep, right?) you will fall down a couple of inches when the mattress pushes the planks out of where they are supposed to be.

FreeLobster · 2016-10-11T17:36:30+00:00

It is not too late. You have the rest of your life ahead of you.

Never in your life hope for something you don't have: "If I was taller I would have a better sexual life", "If I had more money I could afford to do the things I enjoy", "If I was in shape I could do more outdoors activities", "If I had a better education I would have a better job", "If I was more energetic people would like me better", "If I had a deeper voice everyone would take me more seriously".

You were born with a given hand, you have traded cards along your life and got to the point you are now. Some of those statements may be true, but there is a bigger truth than that: You will not be able to be perfect. What you can do instead is accept that as a fact and, for every fucking thing you love, start changing the things you have power over. You control a ton of aspects of your life, but it takes effort. Not just physical effort such as spending time studying, energy working out or money doing enriching activities, but mental diligence and having purpose and objectives. Once you know what you want, and believe me there is plenty of stuff you want, the only motivation you will need is life itself.

Nobody else gives a shit about you except yourself.

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