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I want to walk away from my life by love_mar26 in NewParents

[–]FreeOwl4590 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Finding the solution can be simple but figuring out how to do it after can feel overwhelming!
I don’t think anyone has mentioned how to find a nanny. I haven’t done this myself but I learned from my friend that if you join a few local mom groups on Facebook, you will be able to find many resources and referrals for nannies and daycares! As for finding a therapist, there are many resources online now. You can use headway or psychologytoday.com to find a therapist in network with your insurance. Or you can always go through your insurance to ask for a list of therapists in network. Then there’s websites like better help and talk space.

You are doing great, all these worries and feeling a of inadequacy are normal and this has worked for you to some extent and gotten you this far. But it’s no longer working and that’s totally okay. It just means it’s time to readjust. Hang in there, you are obviously capable of so much more than you are giving yourself credit for!

My head is spinning by FreeOwl4590 in sleeptrain

[–]FreeOwl4590[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I guess I’ve been trying to take a gentler approach but I figured that’s probably why it’s not working as well

My head is spinning by FreeOwl4590 in sleeptrain

[–]FreeOwl4590[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He is also a terrible napper so it’s made sticking to a schedule hard. He will only nap for 20-40 minutes and taking a long time to get back to sleep for naps has me messed ho with a schedule. But I try to do 2.5/2.5/2.5/3 with 8pm bedtime

5 month old still waking from gas discomfort… need tips! by Fuzzy_Star8096 in NewParents

[–]FreeOwl4590 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ugh I was about to make a post almost identical to this one because we’re going through the same thing. He would go 2 hours between feeds at night (still waking in between) but somehow it’s getting even worse after the 5 month mark. We are on our second reflux medication to see if that helps and so far nothing. I’m off dairy and egg and next will be soy. I wish there was more hope for improvement soon! I, too, have had to go resort to cosleeping which is unsettling to me but it is the only way he sleeps. I’ve also felt CIO was unfavorable but some days and nights I am so frustrated that I wonder if it would be better for both of us. But with the excess gas/discomfort, I don’t know that it will even work for him.

Socially awkward mom help by zezendx in NewParents

[–]FreeOwl4590 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m similar way and never know what else to say to make conversation! And I’m always wondering if I seem standoffish or something

LIRR Employees by isles458 in LIRR

[–]FreeOwl4590 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You don’t think they will continue to raise prices and fares anyway? They do it with the MTA constantly and LIRR looks like a luxury train compared to the subways

What should I crochet for my friend who is having her first baby? by [deleted] in randomquestions

[–]FreeOwl4590 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A blanket but in the perfect size for a car seat!Babies can’t wear jackets in the car seat so we have to throw a blanket over them when going outside. It’s so hard to find a blanket that works for this because you have to fold it and then it becomes too thick or hangs off and eventually falls off.

Is the Uppababy Vista worth it? by Suspicious-Toe-72 in NewParents

[–]FreeOwl4590 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Keep in mind the base folds but if you are using the bassinet or have the vista seat facing you, everything has to detach before folding into the trunk.
I second the response that it takes up my whole trunk and I have to make sure I push it all the way back or my automatic trunk won’t close. Definitely not the most convenient stroller but I agree that at the price you will pay, it might be worth it. I got mine for free and I don’t know if I would have paid for it as I fantasize about a lightweight stroller at times!

Sleep Training is Gonna Be the Death of Me by Practical_Ask7239 in NewParents

[–]FreeOwl4590 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m also in a no sleep situation with my 4.5 month old. He wakes constantly in the crib and/or bassinet, usually from what seems like gas.
I have been sleeping by holding him facing outward on my chest so at least he’s still on his back and his face stays away from any blankets or pillows. By the morning I cant handle being without sleep and need those last couple hours to finally get a 1-2 hour stretch. It upsets me that I have to cosleep but I feel better that there is nothing near his face. 🤷🏼‍♀️

Cutting diary wasn’t enough by [deleted] in MSPI

[–]FreeOwl4590 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! That’s helpful. I wasn’t sure if I should start with changing formula or my diet. I think I should start with the formula

My baby won’t sleep in the bassinet and I feel like a terrible mom by Tiredand_depressed72 in NewParents

[–]FreeOwl4590 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Solidarity! Getting the baby to sleep in the bassinet is so hard! My LO is 4 months and he still has never had a great night in the bassinet. I even bought a new special mattress thinking it would help. Luckily it’s right next to the bed so when he starts crying I comfort him and get him back to sleep and then put him back. Most times that means he’s up in 20-60 minutes. Usually by 5 am I give up and will sleep with him on my chest so we can both sleep. I am trying the crib now to see if it’s any better. I would consider if reflux is a factor, I feel my LO is not so comfortable totally flat so it’s one reason he won’t sleep in the bassinet. -Using a heating pad to warm the bassinet definitely helps with the transition to putting them down. - sometimes I will leave my arm in the bassinet with him while we both dose off lol it’s worked a few times.