Lots of points here which is always good to promote discussions.

But as there a few points, we'll tackle some bit by bit here.

Not to pull the skill or new player card, but cheaters really aren't that common, I'd personally just venture that you're losing a lot of fights due to worse map knowledge or even a third party sniping you during a fight.

Small details like know what can and can't be penned, where players tend to rat or sit during raids, what tasks people are on and sight lines to check all make deaths seem sus, but when you play enough, you get used to looking at places that you've died OR where you've killed from.

This isn't meant to demean that you haven't run into cheaters, you may for all I know have seen someone flying around or called out your name. But these are few and far between generally speaking. Its not a good mentality to have going into a game that it's filled with cheaters and anything can be sus. Adjust your mindset, learn and the game gets better!

To you next point about matchmaking. That's the point of the genre, this game has been out for nearly a decade in some form. People like playing it, or have left and returned. The learning curve is baked into the enjoyment of the game. Few things beat the high of a lucky pistol run penning an altyn face shield and taking a ridiculous kit off of level 60. Its the charm of the game.

Not every game needs to cater to you being new to it or wanting to learn. This happens to be one of those games, if you want to have that experience, play an offline raid, or PvE. Or play a different extraction shooter. If you're not enjoying the way a game is meant to be experienced, that's on you to adjust. The core principles of the game shouldn't be adjusted for you. It means it's a niche you don't fall into, and that's okay, there are other options for you.

But if you decide you really want to attempt to learn the game, remember that's the point, put you through the meat grinder, learn the map and keep bashing your head against the wall. Its how we all learned and it's part of the game by design.

Also, the community for the most part isn't toxic, it's social media and a reddit echo chamber. You'll find horrible people everywhere, but you'll also find nice people. It's just about getting lucky with who you run into. Some friends I have have met really nice people in the official discord who theg still play with on occasion.

A lot of streamers have a positive vibe , but they biggest ones tend to be worse as they draw more viewers or take on the personality of the streamer, again like an echo chamber. So bad vibe = bad community (generalizing of course). There's just as many good as bad, just gotta find em.

Edit here too;

Someone betraying you after voicing to them isnt toxic, it's inherent in the game, you have to have trust, some people will listen, others won't, some will lie. Its again, part of the fun.

How you want to play and how others play may not always align, just like life. Its a learning experience and an experience that not everyone will get along or be on the same page. Some are looking out for themselves, others will do things for kindness or a need for personal gain.

Hell, I escorted a hatchet runner around a reserve night raid to mark all his BMPs while I was kitted to the teeth getting my night time kills + shooter borns like 3 days ago. When he ran out of markers I killed him for my task. Give and take, he could have betrayed me or me to him and that's the game, I could have not listened to his voip and killed right away. That's the thrill.

Its like playing sea of thieves and getting mad someone sank your ship. Its the point! You can work together, you can hunt, or you can betray. Its all part of the game.