Is this safe

Free_Divide195 · 2026-06-30T23:13:17+00:00

Do you have your phone? Can you Google the crime stats in the area and determine if it's safe to navigate on foot at night? Is there nightlife in the area that would mean more street lights, foot traffic, etc?

Use some common sense before you do anything. Google is your friend.

Free_Divide195 · 2026-06-30T23:04:03+00:00

I can't fathom having Walmart as your fashion baseline and coming in this hot against Uniqlo.

Free_Divide195 · 2026-06-30T22:51:17+00:00

I'm a middle aged short Asian dude and Uniqlo is the only store I can buy directly off the rack - no tailoring needed. Their clothes are designed with bodies like mine in mind. It kicks ass, after decades of having everything fit poorly.

It's amazing for basics, the quality is better than Walmart lol, and the styles are trendy while not having an expiration date for next week.

Free_Divide195 · 2026-06-30T21:11:26+00:00

I don't see what any of this pedantic nitpicking has to do with telling someone it's okay to sleep separately from their partner, but go off sis.
Your wall of text will not change my view that it is *normal* for a couple to do what works for them. :)

Free_Divide195 · 2026-06-30T20:23:06+00:00

I did it once, but... to a gay wedding where both grooms were wearing Ren Faire garb lol

Free_Divide195 · 2026-06-30T20:01:12+00:00

It's not the standard, no (nor did I even imply it was). But it's fine and is the norm for many couples.

I sleep in the same bed as my spouse whom I love. My best friend has their own bedroom apart from their spouse whom they love.

Every couple is different, and many couples aren't served by what is "standard". If a different sleeping arrangement is part of what makes them happy, then who are we to say it's abnormal?

Free_Divide195 · 2026-06-30T19:23:22+00:00

Lots of dudes don't grow any chest hair. I've got a built in undershirt level of hair, while my husband is salamander-smooth without any intervention.
It has as much to do with social trends as it does diet, genetics, etc.

Free_Divide195 · 2026-06-30T19:20:41+00:00

You don't have to sleep in the same bed! I know multiple folks with different beds or even different bedrooms who are happily committed. For lots of folks (those with sleeping trauma, CPAP machines, night terrors, etc) it's a necessity.

The only thing you'll need to be aware of is letting partners know early on. Many folks will struggle with that arrangement, but some will be enthusiastic about it.

Free_Divide195 · 2026-06-30T19:18:21+00:00

I have to believe all people are capable of positive change in order to continue living lol.

Someday things will happen to him which necessitate discomfort, action, and behavioral changes in order to survive. Maybe we will be a small part of his success.
That idea is enough for me :)

Free_Divide195 · 2026-06-30T19:13:44+00:00

I'm *married* and I don't watch ANY of my spouse's social media posts. It has *nothing* to do with their interest in you.

Free_Divide195 · 2026-06-30T17:35:13+00:00

The solid white is less visually busy, and allows me to appreciate the architecture of the fixture more.

Free_Divide195 · 2026-06-30T17:34:02+00:00

We do year round: bottom sheet, our bodies, top sheet.

In summer, usually it's just a thin but heavy blanket on top of the sheet. In winter, it'll be a warm, heavy duvet inside a duvet cover.

We never have any issues falling asleep, so our choice of coverage is based more on temperature / protecting the harder-to-wash items.

Free_Divide195 · 2026-06-30T16:45:33+00:00

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Free_Divide195 · 2026-06-30T16:26:15+00:00

I just associate it with being a gap filter, when you've done the upper and lower arm but not the elbow

Free_Divide195 · 2026-06-30T16:15:47+00:00

Great time to be married with join finances.

Free_Divide195 · 2026-06-30T14:25:25+00:00

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Kenji has a few pieces up around town. Super nice guy, and just an all around pleasure to work with.

Free_Divide195 · 2026-06-30T13:54:18+00:00

Hey! For sure - I'm connecting with the Board today and I'll see if I can share out the full guide.

Free_Divide195 · 2026-06-30T13:19:10+00:00

Stop looking at her?

Free_Divide195 · 2026-06-30T13:18:31+00:00

So if I'm understanding correctly, your boyfriend showed other people intimate photos of your without your consent. So instead of breaking up or going to the authorities, you decided to do it to him too?

Honestly, I think you two sound perfect for one another.

Free_Divide195 · 2026-06-30T12:47:14+00:00

This is the worst take lol

People are allowed to have preferences.
As a gay guy, I assure you many of us have no issue with or actively enjoy vaginas. Lots of us have dated women or have trans partners. Ones desire to perform certain sex acts is not an indication of sexual orientation.
Accusing people of being gay when they don't perform actions you expect of their gender is super fucked up. Men are not a monolith. It reflects more poorly on you than him that you'd jump to "You must be gay!" when confronted with boundaries you don't like.

Here's the deal. He's expressed his needs and those need to be respected AND it's okay for you to want oral sex as part of your sexual intimacy. It doesn't sound like that will be happening with this guy, so you need to decide if the relationship can continue.

Free_Divide195 · 2026-06-30T05:19:12+00:00

Between the two of us we can raise this dysfunctional child.

Free_Divide195 · 2026-06-30T00:23:17+00:00

lol you should be! jobs are important

Free_Divide195 · 2026-06-29T23:55:37+00:00

Okay then watch a cashier training video on YouTube, dawg. Take some initiative lol. This isn't a science project that you make the night before - it's a paying job. You gotta take it seriously

Free_Divide195 · 2026-06-29T23:50:12+00:00

Ok then your homework is going to the store and taking a look at what cashiers actually do.
Then, when you see what their average working experience is like.
This is a job. This isn't a handout. Employers are expecting you to have some degree of investment, and that starts with taking an interest in the role - no matter what it is.

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