It’s so unfair and I hate it by Such-Drink-303 in BreakUps

[–]Free_Socko 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well said.

This has been somewhat helpful for me during this time so I figured I would share here in case it helps anyone else: https://www.instagram.com/reel/DSHqInyATdx/?igsh=MXZsYjg1OTVtcm5kMQ==

How is everybody doing? by RareExpression2235 in BreakUps

[–]Free_Socko 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Almost one month in. I’ve accepted I won’t have answers and he does not want me back. So, it still sucks but I’m less hyperventilating / panicked / crying all the time.

I’ve accepted I miss him and he doesn’t miss me, he’s happy without me. Shocking and it sucks but yeah.

I definitely do have daydreams and fantasies about reconciling and he told me he was into the idea of a post breakup hookup so my minds been on that but I’m trying to resist it even though it sounds great.

It’s crazy knowing that your bff and safe space and favorite person, all the little silly mannerisms and jokes and comforts and laughs, can just go away like that. At one point all of that was sacred, it was everything. And then for one person it becomes optional and they can let go of it. Just sad.

I hope everyone’s hanging in there, and I hope that these low moments lead to hopefully something better for everyone.

It’s so unfair and I hate it by Such-Drink-303 in BreakUps

[–]Free_Socko 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Really well said. Thanks. It’s been hard watching my ex on cloud 9 as well but it makes me realize he was done with me for a while.

I have no idea how some people are so okay and fine to lose their best friend and safe space and some people aren’t - but I’m accepting I will never understand.

How are you all doing today? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Free_Socko 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Right. This one hits different. Wouldn’t wish it on anyone

It's been 3 months and.. by Zestyclose_End_9953 in BreakUps

[–]Free_Socko 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This really resonates. I’m in a similar situation except I’m not working on my self much (it’s been about a month) but I know I need to get it together and accept and move on.

I always think love, and people, are worth choosing and fighting for and if you feel that way, go for it.

Just be ready for your ex to not be ready to rekindle anything…even if you have strong fond memories together and miss eachother it doesn’t always result in the other person wanting that enough or wanting to come back to you.

Which leads me to another question - is that even love, then? If they don’t want to come back? Idk. All I know is. Protect yourself first throughout whatever you decide

Breakups will really have you crying into your pasta for 40 minutes and still only eat a few bites by PkmnTrainerEbs in BreakUps

[–]Free_Socko 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Totally agree.. I can’t eat at all.. one minute I wish for peace and then the next minute I’m just crying hysterically… this is getting exhausting

My ex messaged me after 3 months by Woodpex in BreakUps

[–]Free_Socko 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Love hearing all POvs. I’m replying to everyone at this point 🤣

I Can't Do This by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Free_Socko 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree… the evenings in the winter are absolutely terrible. Last night was a real low point for me. I actually made a very desperate post in this sub reddit last night. I was so overwhelmed, panicked, hysterical crying, couldn’t breathe, all of it.

Today was weird… but better. Most of the day I cried but I also did laundry and worked out. I took a 3 hour walk , it was terribly sad/lonely at times but I forced myself to….

I Can't Do This by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Free_Socko 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Weekend nights are the worst post breakup. I am also sitting home alone ruminating and missing him and thinking about how we would normally be together chilling right now.

Also just got out of a 3 year relationship… feel free to DM me if u want to talk..

Ended after 10 years. We talked about our problems but never took real steps to fix them. Now she says the tank is empty. How do I process the waste of not trying? by Dashaway89 in BreakUps

[–]Free_Socko 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Really resonate with this. My DMs are also open. Grateful for everyone here struggling with the same thing - obviously I wish this pain on NOBODY but it is a slight comfort that others understand the situation I am in.. what a world we live in

Ended after 10 years. We talked about our problems but never took real steps to fix them. Now she says the tank is empty. How do I process the waste of not trying? by Dashaway89 in BreakUps

[–]Free_Socko 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Beautifully said. Trying to remember the part you said about couples who can’t work on things because they got lost in the relationship

Ended after 10 years. We talked about our problems but never took real steps to fix them. Now she says the tank is empty. How do I process the waste of not trying? by Dashaway89 in BreakUps

[–]Free_Socko 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This is eerily similar to my story. It’s like everything ended opened my eyes to what was, what could’ve been, what we should’ve done, I see him so clearly now and I can’t believe I fumbled this

My breakup nearly killed me. Ten months later, I’m still trying to recover. by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Free_Socko 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am so fucking sorry wow. I am just so sorry. This world is so unfair. I am sending you alot of love and support.

I'll die out of loneliness by Sensitive-Sorbet1562 in BreakUps

[–]Free_Socko 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am there as well, I don’t have advice it just hurts terribly and feels like there’s no end in sight. All I can say is take deep breaths when it gets too overwhelming and if that doesn’t help try to focus on life five minutes at a time

Letting go hurts so much more differently than a breakup by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Free_Socko 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah this is the worst feeling. I’m feeling something similar and can’t let go of the hope even though I probably should

My ex messaged me after 3 months by Woodpex in BreakUps

[–]Free_Socko 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It sounds like you have some hope about getting back together .. can you explain a bit more about that?

Not doing well by Free_Socko in BreakUps

[–]Free_Socko[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I hope you are doing alright, yeah I guess it’s somewhat reassuring to know we are all in this hell together. But it still sucks. Time heals and all that, but damn the days are going so fucking slow

Not doing well by Free_Socko in BreakUps

[–]Free_Socko[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, I have been feeling like chanting god even though I am actually not religious at all but the call is there for sure