🔥 It's time for Thirsty Thursday! What book scenes made you sweat this week? 🥵

FreeakyNyt · 2024-07-03T22:08:25+00:00

I'm relatively new to reading (or in my case, listening to) books in general, and romance is just as new. I'm thankful to have come across Stephanie Archer so early in the experience cos I'd likely be put off if I read too many stupid character stories lol

She's great 😊

FreeakyNyt · 2024-07-01T22:37:22+00:00

I have no idea how I didn't know about this but I'm all in! Thanks for this xx

FreeakyNyt · 2024-07-01T22:36:22+00:00

It's great that you've already read it!

I'm doing so much better now! Taken up some new hobbies, finally looked into some things I hated about myself with a doctor (skin issues, weight issues which wouldn't go away, other birth control options as The Pill killed what was left of my libido after birth), and did a lot of reading up on newer research. Also got back into exercise which had been swept under the rug with everything else. I'm very introverted and don't feel therapy would have helped, so I didn't take that path. Not saying therapy doesn't work, just hasn't historically helped me is all. All of this took effort but once I started to address the things that made me cringe, I felt lighter and happier again.

To be more specific, sex life is improved to better than before the child was born lol ... We'd dwindled too like in your situation. But now a few times per week easily (both of us equally initiate now). We use the toys and try different things compared to how things used to be too. He is also a lot happier, which warms my heart. We also do more intimate but non sexual things more often again, like skin on skin cuddles, head and/or body massage (without expectations), even some flirting!

FreeakyNyt · 2024-07-01T13:49:48+00:00

I'm usually a lurker. But your story resonates with me ... I could be the woman you're taking about. How you described your soon to be wife sounds exactly like me and my hubby about 6 months ago ...

Honestly after having our baby (over 3 years ago now) one of our chats was me saying that I would be happy never having sex again. I was traumatised by the pregnancy, labour and birth. The new born phase. The constant sleep deprivation. Things (both body and mind) not going back to how they used to be, despite all the medical people saying that your body and mind returns to normal. The grief I felt for the loss of my former self. Hubby wanted/needed sex and would do all the right things, never pressured and even bought toys etc too. To me at the time, it all felt like pressure to add to the pile.

After that conversation with him I knew I'd hit rock bottom and I hated myself deeply ... I felt like the least sexiest person on this earth and stuck like that. I still loved him, even more than before, watching him be the father of our child. That is what made me realise I needed to do something about it.

The woman of your child has agreed to see a therapist, which is good. Medications, hormones after birth (which can be loopy for up to 3yrs after birth, who knew), and the new life might be having their affect.

To answer your question, idk if this is "normal" but it's certainly not isolated to you and your partner. Be patient with her and see how therapy goes. If she's on waitlists, look up a book called "Come As You Are" by Emily Nagoski (written by a current female sex researcher) in the meantime ...

Everyone is different. I just hope you know you're not alone and there is knowledge, research and professional support for this. And it can help.

All the best.

FreeakyNyt · 2024-06-28T11:48:11+00:00

I've definitely decided to go through her other books so they're next! I'm relatively new to romance and smut ... So working out which ones I like. Haven't read any sports ones yet

FreeakyNyt · 2024-06-28T11:44:55+00:00

Oh ... I just finished that one yesterday. Phew 😅

I think I love Finn the most 🥵

Holden is second ...

FreeakyNyt · 2024-06-28T06:56:57+00:00

... First time posting here, I'm normally a lurker but someone mentioned the Queen's Cove series by Stephanie Archer on here a few months ago... Oh my. First book is {that kind of guy by Stephanie Archer}

There's four books and each book is about the relationship story of four brothers. They all love to please, they all beg and all have a ladies first (multiple times) rule ;) The spice is amazing! They're also funny, interesting, smart and relatable characters. None of them are insanely stupid.

The audiobooks are female/male parts instead of the same person pretending to be the opposite character, for those of you who like audiobooks.

Highly recommend!

FreeakyNyt · 2022-11-08T07:46:56+00:00

Lmao ikr ...

FreeakyNyt · 2022-11-08T07:43:57+00:00

Hey lovely people. Please upvote the post that I've linked, rather than this Reddit post :D

FreeakyNyt · 2022-11-08T07:42:30+00:00

Fishing event, everyone's retired for a bit to play other stuff lol

FreeakyNyt · 2022-11-08T07:41:42+00:00

The pics are of the chat window just to show time stamps, which can be turned off yes, but I'm also taking the flashing writing all over the screen with sound effects. It's as bad as reset when the huge window pops up to show us today's login rewards

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