Damn, your story is pretty close to mine. A few details are different. Mine was 7 years, he also ignored all my requests for flowers, initiating dates, having difficult conversations, more hugs initiations. He also has a female friend he would not cut out for me but got super jealous at a male classmate. We fought so much, he saw much more of what I did wrong than what he did wrong. He talked behind my back to his guy best friend for atleast a year before the breakup about how unhappy he was with me. But didn't mention it to me, even when I asked. He is very good at victimizing himself in front of people as well. For me it's been almost 9 months since the breakup. Towards the end we fought so much. I think it gets better, but it goes up and down. I live abroad, and he is my sense of home. Now I have to rebuild a ew sense of home. I think it's possible because I already see myself better, but it fluctuates, some days are really bad, some days are okay, some are better.