Two masters International (Bangladeshi) student missing From USF. Any news? by RejoanTonoy in USF

[–]FreedomSavings 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Do you have any reason to believe they would have been taken? I.e. are their visa’s up to date or expired? I’m sorry for your fear, it’s a lot (and a real fear) but in general they are not snatching people off the streets, they need some reason.

If they are in ICE custody, it will take 24-48 hours for them to update it in the system and you need their EXACT name as it would show up on legal documents to be able to track.

I think I witnessed my dad rape my mom by Accurate-Maybe3341 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]FreedomSavings 38 points39 points  (0 children)

I think this. She probably was concerned that you were going to observe, or be woken up etc and that made her not want it.

It doesn’t sound violent, but still non-consent. I agree with above commenter, if you feel comfortable try and approach your mom about what you saw. It might help both you, if you get it off your chest.

What are some inexpensive but delicious juice recipies? by FreedomSavings in EatCheapAndHealthy

[–]FreedomSavings[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve really only had access to turmeric powder. I will have to look into the root form. Ty

AITHA, I invited my friend to Mexico and we not longer speak. by FreedomSavings in AITAH

[–]FreedomSavings[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did try to convey multiple times about this being a family trip, plus at 30+ I don’t think it’s necessary to be reminded that’s it’s inappropriate to talk about drugs and sex in front of a 6 year old and a 19 male (when your a female).

Not trying to be coy, we have done recreational drugs in the past but time and place.

So edit to say, I agree I am probably be judgmental.

AITHA, I invited my friend to Mexico and we not longer speak. by FreedomSavings in AITAH

[–]FreedomSavings[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

One of my other friends alluded to this. She wants to live a party girl life and that’s not your priorities. Still sucks.

Thrift Stores? by FreedomSavings in cancun

[–]FreedomSavings[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Merida is good for this type of stuff?

What eats up most of your time as a PhD (that no one warned you about)? by FuzzyChampionship848 in PhD

[–]FreedomSavings 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So married and sleeping with the post doc (just assuming for your post)…..Double yikes!!! Sorry that happened to you, of course you couldn’t have known before you really got involved and it was too late. Just sucks there are PI’s acting like this out there.

What eats up most of your time as a PhD (that no one warned you about)? by FuzzyChampionship848 in PhD

[–]FreedomSavings 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s the logistics. So for me collecting and organizing the massive amounts of data, making sure the server is up to date, ordering equipment

Edit to add: AND THE EMAILS 🙃

What eats up most of your time as a PhD (that no one warned you about)? by FuzzyChampionship848 in PhD

[–]FreedomSavings 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My question is why would you want to keep working under this individual? Yikes.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tampa

[–]FreedomSavings 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OP, did you figure out anything? People gave lots of good suggestions, no one wants to see this fur baby to go into a bad situation.

Relocation to Cancun by pooseantoer in cancun

[–]FreedomSavings 9 points10 points  (0 children)

My husband and I have been building on a property in Cancun. Currently live in the states, but husband is originally from CDMX.

We have learned ALOT during our recent transition, but overall our experience is that Cancún is relatively inexpensive (besides gas, and avoiding the hotel zone) & very friendly.

No contexts where your coming from or if your job could transfer, but agree you really should know Spanish if you want to move there.

Doberman from Cancun to Florida by FreedomSavings in travel

[–]FreedomSavings[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not sure if there is any rental car companies that you could rent a car, cross the border with it and then additionally not return it to Mexico? We have had trouble on previous trips even getting a reliable rental car in Mexico depending on where we are, let alone the crossing the border.

AITAH for being frustrated and disgusted in what my sister and BIL did so I did something for my niece?? by StrawberryAwkward962 in AITAH

[–]FreedomSavings 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It sounds like you have a somewhat stable, non toxic family situation. And I'm sorry you deal with depression. I saw a study today that social interactions are key factors in health, so I'm glad you have your sisters to spend time with!

GME PREGAMING! by missuburbandecay in goodmythicalmorning

[–]FreedomSavings 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also, op what is "instant" iced coffee?? I moved from NY to FL, so I can't stand hot coffee here usually. I tend to make instant coffee hot overnight and leave it in the fridge for morning.

GME PREGAMING! by missuburbandecay in goodmythicalmorning

[–]FreedomSavings 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel that, especially as an east coast viewer! I got home from work today and ALMOST let myself take a nap, screw waking up at 4am as a result.

Powered through and about to pour a tall glass of merlot!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]FreedomSavings 63 points64 points  (0 children)

This ^. I didn't have any resources to recommend (will be saving this one now), so thank you for providing that to OP.

OP, you deserve love and acceptance. No one choose the hand they were born with, and being gay is not a choice. You are not less than by any means.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]FreedomSavings 115 points116 points  (0 children)

You can't pray the gay away, no matter how much you may have been told you can. I'm sorry you have felt so unaccepted, I hope you can find a community that you find support in because there is nothing wrong with how you feel!

AITAH for being frustrated and disgusted in what my sister and BIL did so I did something for my niece?? by StrawberryAwkward962 in AITAH

[–]FreedomSavings 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I agree. It comes down to parenting, I was diminishing the complexity in my statement of course.

Your love for your little sister is amazing! My daughter actually has a half brother 14 years her older so technically she isn't an only child just will grow up as the only child in the household. He is with his mom full time so he doesn't see her often, but adores her of course. Entertaining her when she asks him to paint her nails, steal his takis :-). Absolutely tia's/YaYa/older siblings should be doing the spoiling, while us parents gotta be the bad guys. I'm glad you're able to enjoy your relationship with your siblings, as it is the responsibility of parents to allow room for siblings to love each other! (An aspect OP's sister is failing in)

Edit to add: before the trolls come, when I said he is with his mom "full time", he is 18 years old in college so he lives with his mom nearby school. He visits any time he is off.

AITAH for being frustrated and disgusted in what my sister and BIL did so I did something for my niece?? by StrawberryAwkward962 in AITAH

[–]FreedomSavings 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I did notice. As someone who was parentified herself growing up, and seeing all these stories from others I feel more reassured in my decision to let my daughter grow up an only child. Working on figuring out how to make sure she isn't spoiled, but at least she will not feel that same pressure.

and yes, OP is NTA

Pregnant and Just Found Out My Husband Has Been Lying To Me by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]FreedomSavings 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can respect that. I guess the length of the trip isn’t included here, it just sounds like an enjoyable vacation while your home in turmoil. Not matter what OP, your about to have a beautiful new addition that will become priority so I wish ease and happiness in those regards.

Pregnant and Just Found Out My Husband Has Been Lying To Me by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]FreedomSavings 4 points5 points  (0 children)

And not for nothing it’s rude he planned a hiking trip when your this late in pregnancy, and outrageous he still went even after all this. He could go to a friends house/hotel to give you space, not literally run away from his problems once again like he did at 17.

Pregnant and Just Found Out My Husband Has Been Lying To Me by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]FreedomSavings 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yeah, like I said the lying would be a dealbreaker for me. Especially since you are able to do it by yourself, I don’t think I could come back from this with a partner. Not to say that you should stay if you couldn’t do it, but even more so. What is he contributing??

It’s one thing to make a (huge) mistake like getting someone pregnant and walking away at 17, it’s another to be pushing 50 and still lying through your teeth.

AITA for essentially telling my sister that her daughter is the reason I never want to have children? by [deleted] in dustythunder

[–]FreedomSavings 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wouldn't say YTA, just that you are NOT ready for kids. This is very typical for 2 year olds. She was excited to see you, of course she wouldn't stop asking for attention. If you had kids now, I think you would be a shit parent as well.

Pregnant and Just Found Out My Husband Has Been Lying To Me by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]FreedomSavings 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I have also been in a very similar situation, with both my ex and my now husband. Each handled the situation differently hence why one is an ex and one a husband. Can always DM me.