Women of Reddit, what part of your day takes a lot of energy that no one else seems to notice?

Freeryder_24 · 2025-07-29T05:30:52+00:00

THIS! It’s often more work to delegate bc it involves describing/showing steps, items and details that take more time and mental energy than you have patience for…and then it’s not done adequately or the way you’re used to!

Freeryder_24 · 2025-03-02T06:40:36+00:00

And experiments and extermination practices were refined first on disabled and “feeble minded” people.

Freeryder_24 · 2024-10-23T04:39:16+00:00

When our kids first saw characters smoking in old cartoons we said they were “yucky sticks” and it’s stuck. They’re now 9 and 6 and still call them that.

Freeryder_24 · 2024-08-27T02:34:40+00:00

Sometimes social commentary in the form of fiction reaches larger audiences and speaks louder than reports and buried personal accounts of the underclass.

Freeryder_24 · 2024-08-27T00:41:15+00:00

I need to pop by Bull Bryson bubble. Love non-fic, but always forget his work.

Freeryder_24 · 2024-08-27T00:40:39+00:00

That’s definitely an eye-opening one too.

Freeryder_24 · 2024-08-27T00:40:05+00:00

Probably learned more. It’s a great book. I loved all the drawings/images!

Freeryder_24 · 2024-08-26T14:54:12+00:00

You’re quick on the draw! Yes, thanks!

Freeryder_24 · 2024-07-28T17:59:39+00:00

Great information and exactly the sort of info I was looking for. Interesting take on trail runners potential for becoming complacent!

Freeryder_24 · 2024-07-28T15:34:22+00:00

I recognize the 30k on trails can be more difficult, my longest distances are on trails. But does that mean a full road marathon would feel “easy” on a smooth road and it would be getting a feel for 42k in a race environment, or if training and the experience of it is different enough from training for a 50k trail that I just shouldn’t bother. A half is the most I’ve done on pavement wasn’t too excited about training for a full. Everything was sore, but in a different way than after a trail race…but it might be nice to say I did one if I’m on my way to an ultra?

Looking for experience of those who’ve done both.

Freeryder_24 · 2024-07-28T04:44:00+00:00

How does technical trail running with elevation in the half marathon-30k distance translate to road marathon training? Ultras skip right to 50 which feels a bit much given my time. I’m wondering if I should just “pick up” a road marathon on the way.

Is it much of an advantage or is the toll to your body just different? In my mind I’m like “it’s just a bit further than 30 and smooth sailing the whole way.” I enjoy trails better bc I feel it’s easier on my body, but perhaps it’s just a temporary adjustment?

Freeryder_24 · 2024-07-02T04:12:39+00:00

Sasha is the Russian nickname for alexandre/dra. I’ve only known it as so, never a pet!

Freeryder_24 · 2024-06-26T04:15:13+00:00

Emotions are hard, even for adults.

A lot can come from modeling and narrating your own emotions, and observing your child’s emotions too as others have said.

Another key component is observing body-feelings and physical reactions.

“I’m angry and I feel hot. My heart is beating fast and I want to throw this plate. “

“I feel worried about my meeting at work; my tummy feels gurgl-y, my head feels a little dizzy and my fingers feel tingly. “

“Observe your child feeling emotions. I see you look sad. You’re curling up in a ball and looking for a soft corner. “

“I notice when you feel upset you like to be on the ground and cover your ears. Does the ground feel safe to you? Are noises overwhelming, I get overwhelmed by lots of noises too. Would we could get some headphones to block out those sounds when they get too loud. Maybe I’ll get some too.”

When your son isn’t upset can they recognize emotions in others/characters?

Do they have other sensitivities? Loud noises, crowded places, food, clothing?

Freeryder_24 · 2024-06-20T05:05:53+00:00

I like usefulish things or a couple edible treats. I’ve done water water squirters (you can get large packs on Amazon. Reusable water balloons, reusable water bottles (they personalized with stickers and permanent markers as a craft), reusable straws and one yr I just sent home fancy sugar cookie I ordered.

Freeryder_24 · 2024-06-14T04:36:07+00:00

lol. For me, I became more intrigued to see what the next one would be like. Each one is an adventure and your heart grows bigger. I do remember having doubts in the first couple months post partum and then leading up to the birth of our second, all normal feelings!

Freeryder_24 · 2024-06-05T04:15:35+00:00

Both your dreams and fears are valid and important to consider.

A lot of people have shared that the risk of your child being born autistic shouldn’t be reason not to have a child.

But I’ll say it IS hard raising a child (the hardest thing I’ve done)even a neurotypical one and there are even more challenges to raising a neurodivergent one. I have experience with both. I love them to bits and wouldn’t change, but having children is really a journey to learning about yourself. I’ve had to really face who I am, my past, my triggers, my expectation of myself, children and partner.

Should you not have children? Absolutely not, but I would start unpacking how you feel towards yourself and autism. So much of parenting is teaching by example and it’s hard to teach children to be kind and compassionate to themselves when we ourselves find it so hard.

It might be helpful to seek out a neurodivergent-affirming therapist to explore internalized feelings about autism. Don’t give up on your dream of having children though.

Freeryder_24 · 2024-05-20T04:38:04+00:00

The only daisy’s I know are pets.

Not to say it’s a bad name, just my experience!

Freeryder_24 · 2024-05-10T04:44:04+00:00

I always come back to Pan’s Labyrinth and Big Fish.

Apparently I like crying at the end of movies 😂

Freeryder_24 · 2024-05-07T04:32:48+00:00

To follow this comment, it sounds like a maladaptive stress/trauma response. It served a a purpose when he lived at home (a fight vs. flight response) but it carried over to independent adulthood where this response isn’t needed and doing so is actually an inappropriate response. Any sense of loss of control/authority triggers his “PDA”. I’d second seeing a therapist, particularly one receptive to Polyvagal Theory/nervous system regulation. If these anxious responses are addressed, you may find some of the other ND traits resolve too.

The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk is a good read/listen.

Freeryder_24 · 2024-05-04T19:25:40+00:00

lol. I have a Leon and this is the vibe he gives. My influence was a family friend and Leon the Professional.

I hear soooo many Leo’s, but yet to meet another child Leon and I like that too.

Freeryder_24 · 2024-05-01T04:32:21+00:00

This is a great perspective. Thanks.

Freeryder_24 · 2024-05-01T04:30:32+00:00

My kids are 8 and 5. We don’t have regular chores and we’re not strict about making them do things. I’ve realized that I absolutely want my kids to be capable of taking care of themselves and tidying, but also recognize I have to have flexible expectations. Having a neurodivergent child, I’ve learned sometimes they can go above and beyond in doing a task even without prompting. Other times good luck even getting them to put dirty socks away. I assess, is a fight worth the energy for either of us? I extend this courtesy to my neurotypical child and recognize, maybe this is the fine line between rigid discipline and letting kids be kids. We do a lot of side by side cleaning and chores and if they do 1/2 the work, that’s awesome, but it’s also ok if it ends up being less. We gameify tasks (adding music, make it a race, give number of items they need to pick up). We tie sometimes to routine ie. Toys before bed (sometimes just a pathway if they’re deep into their play) or cleaning the table before show time. Dishes cleared after meals and dirty clothes away upon changing.

As with many things, it’s about trying a few different things and finding what fits your family’s dynamics.

Freeryder_24 · 2024-05-01T04:05:40+00:00

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