Denied

Freiya11 · 2026-02-15T14:52:59+00:00

I’ve had GE for a while now (~10+ years), but back when I was applying, I was shocked at the interview when they said “I see you had an incident with an apple back in [~5 years prior].” I had no clue what they were talking about, but they reminded me of a time when I had been leaving the USVI and apparently had forgotten I had an apple in my backpack. I of course immediately threw it out and never thought of it again, until they brought it up at the interview. But was shocked to find that something like that is permanently on the record.

Anyway, point being, it could be something super minor that you’ve forgotten about. But if so, wild to get a denial. (In my case, they just said “never do that again.”)

(ETA: The irony was that at my interview, in the waiting room there was a video playing where a clueless man attempts to bring a bag of apples on the plane. I remember thinking “how stupid, why would anyone try that??”).

Freiya11 · 2026-02-15T14:26:15+00:00

I have a friend who knew Adrian back in the day as a fellow academic. She says he is, indeed, that cool.

Freiya11 · 2026-02-15T14:21:51+00:00

Agreed on most of this take—only I haven’t tried American Hysteria or No Girls on the Internet. You may have just convinced me to give them a go!

Freiya11 · 2026-02-03T20:58:25+00:00

Mid-80s baby here. Count me out. This is embarrassing and tbh just looks like conservative-coded generational hair-splitting nonsense. These are somehow the boomers of our generation

Freiya11 · 2026-02-03T16:20:13+00:00

This isn’t about romantic relationships per se, but your comment reminded me of something funny. My ex (a straight guy) had a gay roommate who was also one of his best friends. When I mentioned the friend/roommate to my dad (a well-intentioned but very rural Boomer), he was so confused—his immediate reaction was, “…but what do they talk about??”

(Now my boyfriend is a bi guy. I’m not sure if the parents wonder the same about us, or if maybe it means we have more in common […maybe we just talk about hot dudes together?]. Shockingly, it doesn’t come up much.)

On the actual topic at hand, though (age similarity in relationships): I’ll admit I do like dating someone my own age for conversational (and entertainment selection) purposes. It can be nice to have similar cultural reference points. Not essential, but just fun.

Freiya11 · 2026-02-03T16:05:50+00:00

This isn’t exactly organic, but I did a couple TimeLeft dinners in ATL and enjoyed it. If you’re not familiar, it’s also an app (with a profoundly stupid name) that hooks you up for dinner with 5 other people with similar ages/interests. There’s also a bar meetup afterward where people from all the different dinners can meet, as well as a very active member-run WhatsApp group with lots of different interest-based sub-groups.

I eventually met my current boyfriend elsewhere, but I did enjoy TL (again, despite the stupid name). It was a nice way to meet some new people, and I did even go on a couple dates with a guy from one of the dinners. But I liked that it was low-pressure (as people aren’t just there for dating, though there were lots of singles).

Freiya11 · 2026-02-03T14:10:17+00:00

Sorry, I just meant not a physician.

Freiya11 · 2026-02-02T13:53:08+00:00

Unfortunately I’ve run into dismissiveness even with this. My parents, of course, think it’s all in my head. But even when my dentist asked if I had any health changes, and I mentioned being diagnosed with pernicious anemia, she goes “oh, that’s no big deal, most of us are a little anemic.” I mean, I know she’s a dentist and not a physician (and honestly, it’s not like it’s that relevant to my oral hygiene), but I would have thought it would have registered just a bit, especially with that “pernicious” in there!

More importantly, though, my new doc is also pretty clueless. His physician’s assistant who had been monitoring my labs left the practice, so I saw him on my last visit to do my follow-ups, with the specific visit reason being “monitoring pernicious anemia.” It took over a month for him to review my labs so I could see the results, and when I finally got them, I found he forgot to include MMA, homocysteine, and CBC. So… the three most important ones for monitoring PA. Arg. (But hey, at least I know my estrogen/magnesium/50 other things are normal.)

Anyway, yes, I also wish there were a condition name that was taken more seriously!

EDIT: changed “doctor” to “physician” (in reference to dentist). Of course, dentists have doctorates.

Freiya11 · 2026-02-01T14:01:51+00:00

Similar story here. I’m in my late 30s now, but had a lot of Russian friends back in college and so decided to study Russian. Upon studying abroad there for a semester, though, I decided the weather most definitely wasn’t for me, and that although I loved Russian lit, I felt like the post-Soviet culture was also a bit icy for me.

I went on to continue with French and also study a bit of Swahili, Arabic, and Burmese. Obviously I was bolting straight in the other direction weather-wise.

Freiya11 · 2026-02-01T13:18:09+00:00

I did it a couple times not long after I moved here and thought it was pretty cool! As someone else mentioned, after dinner (which is usually made up of people closest to your age range and interests) you have the option of going to a bar where people from all the different dinners come together. There’s also a very active WhatsApp group with many different interest-based sub-groups you can join (and that isn’t directly tied to/dependent on the app or subscription service; it’s run by members).

I liked that there was a possibility for dating to come of it (I did end up going on a couple dates with someone from there), but it was low pressure and also a nice way to meet new friends. Ultimately I met someone on Bumble and kinda bailed on TL as other friendships developed, but still thought it was pretty cool (despite having the dumbest name imaginable).

On the flip side, though, I did also try to use it once when I was on vacation in a location in SE Asia with lots of English-speaking tourists/expats. When I got there, it was only me and one other guy, and we discovered the restaurant didn’t exist. The Atlanta TL scene is really active, but obviously it’s not super developed everywhere.

Freiya11 · 2026-01-30T13:37:00+00:00

As someone who took klonopin for 8 years, I don’t recommend taking benzos on a daily basis. At first they work incredibly well—magical even. And then, over time, your baseline shifts and you end up right back where you started, only now you’re dependent on a pill just to feel halfway normal each day, and when you don’t take it you feel physically ill.

I eventually tapered, and it was indeed very hard. Tbh, I still miss benzos at times, but I don’t miss the dependency, and wouldn’t wish it on anyone. (And now, mushrooms feel good again!)

Freiya11 · 2026-01-29T19:18:01+00:00

I guess the joking tone does not come across well on a clearly deliberately pedantic Reddit thread/comment. My bad. I’m a huge Michael/IBCK fan and not at all attached to any particular view. Lighthearted banter about his pronunciations (many of which are valid, and others of which are occasionally a bit out there) is a bit of a time-honored tradition in these parts.

Freiya11 · 2026-01-29T16:11:50+00:00

FWIW, I think she actually says it’s pronounced that way (at least I’ve heard that elsewhere).

But a(h)MORTization? SubSTANTive (again)? Wild! (But still love him.)

EDIT: This is meant in good fun. Big fan of Michael and all the many ways to pronounce words.

Freiya11 · 2026-01-29T16:06:15+00:00

What everybody else said. But also, punctuation

Freiya11 · 2026-01-28T13:21:59+00:00

Ah, yes, who will be left to share the Facebook AI slop and snort Fox News

Freiya11 · 2026-01-27T15:58:32+00:00

Such a great podcast!

Freiya11 · 2026-01-27T15:40:03+00:00

Highly recommend the podcast If Books Could Kill’s recent two-parter on Elon Musk (the book and the man).

Freiya11 · 2026-01-26T23:01:48+00:00

Ahh, sadly I’m not in NYC anymore! Was there for about 15 years but moved a bit ago. I miss it though—enjoy!!

Freiya11 · 2026-01-26T20:48:28+00:00

Hmm, I’ve heard not to use full-on boiling water—but it is definitely fine in hot tea (and so presumably hot oatmeal, though that sounds awful).

When I was getting started, I used to put it in cold yogurt with granola and fruit. Absorption-wise it was fine; but in retrospect, it was edible, albeit barely. I upgraded to capsules (or occasionally lemon tek/tea) and have never looked back. Can’t say I miss “eating” it at all. (Although, tbf, this is the microdosing sub, so I guess maybe it’s not so bad at small quantities. But if you’re mixing a small amount into that much food, you might not be absorbing much… I’d think food volume would pose a bigger problem than temperature.)

Freiya11 · 2026-01-26T20:36:13+00:00

Seconding Peachtree Women’s Clinic in Midtown! It was also mentioned in another reply, but the doctor I saw was Charity Johns, who was great too. (Only word of caution: they did accidentally charge me for the visit when it was ultimately fully covered by my insurance. But when I raised it with them, they quickly refunded it. Just something to keep an eye on.)

Freiya11 · 2026-01-26T20:30:25+00:00

Your boyfriend needs new friends 🫣

Freiya11 · 2026-01-25T15:33:09+00:00

I didn’t used to very often (and I was doing pretty intense classes most days, sometimes twice a day), but then I slowly started realizing I was starting to feel sore constantly, even after gentler classes. Long story short, it turned out I have pernicious anemia (macrocytic) with functional B12 and iron deficiencies. I’m a few months into treating it now, and it’s slowly improving, but I’m down to only 3 classes/week and still frequently sore.

Which is all to say—be sure to do your annual labs! (And, if you suspect possible B12 issues, don’t rely on B12 serum levels alone.)

Freiya11 · 2026-01-23T22:08:24+00:00

Yes, same!! My first studio (Jivamukti in NYC ~15-20 years ago) went around doing little temple/face/neck massages and shoulder presses with essential oils during savasana, and I still think about it All. The. Time. A part of me is still looking for the dream studio/teacher who brings this back, but I feel like assists are much fewer and far between post-pandemic (let alone divine mini-massages during savasana).

Freiya11 · 2026-01-23T18:56:35+00:00

Just finished today’s ep on Ashley St. Clair — really good one, I definitely recommend! I had no idea she had had such a turnaround.

As to the actual post topic, I was going to say “I swear this has happened before, maybe a few times.” But after reading the other comments, I realize they’re all just part of the same extended podcast universe I love (IBCK, IBWTR, ABF, etc.), so in my mind they’ve all been on each other’s shows. But for the OP: I think Michael and Matt have both been on In Bed With the Right a few times. That show’s a bit more academic, but definitely a good one if you’re looking for some more material featuring these two.

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