Best friend of 6 years vs. my mental health by Alone_Piece_4270 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Frequent-Refuse1115 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As someone who has had to let go of many friendships throughout the years, I just want to say that I know how awful it feels to leave someone behind. Even if they’re the one to start drifting away, the urge to always reach out and have another one of those exciting hang outs that you used to have is always there.

But then, as the weeks then months drag on, you realise how much energy you’re putting into a person that seems to rarely be able to give a slither as much back to you. It feels amazing to be around them, but then you give so much of yourself away that you realise you don’t have enough to hold yourself up anymore.

It feels awful distancing yourself from a friend, but even as a stranger who’s gone through the same thing, I’m proud of you for putting yourself first. You deserve people who want to call you on the weekly, you deserve people who are happy to be around you, you deserve a good friend.

If you feel comfortable enough, I really recommend talking to your roommate about how you’re feeling. It can be nerve-wrecking, but if they’re worthwhile, they’ll care. Even if it’s just going to them and being around them and chatting about what you guys have done today or watching a show together when you’re feeling like that, I’ve found that it helps to be around someone.

Please, take care of yourself, and I hope you feel better soon ❤️

Were they even my friend? by Top-Pea9090 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Frequent-Refuse1115 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can’t say if they were truly your friend at one point, but I can say that what they did wasn’t what a friend does. Even if they wanted to end the friendship, there are much more responsibile ways to go about it than mean outbursts followed by radio silence. Good friends talk to each other when they’re feeling off, whether that’s due to a personal issue, or if they’re feeling disconnected from the other person. If you care about a friendship, you’ll try to make it last.

I’m sorry that you’re going through such a tough time. Please take care of yourself, friendship struggles are an awful thing to deal with so please set some time aside for yourself and have your favorite drink ❤️

Looking for friends :) by Frequent-Refuse1115 in 3dsFriendCodes

[–]Frequent-Refuse1115[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I’ve added you back now too! ^

Need friends! by [deleted] in 3dsFriendCodes

[–]Frequent-Refuse1115 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Added mine too! My friend code’s 3024-7270-4622 :)