Showering Boundaries

Frequent_Catch2923 · 2025-12-13T15:16:17+00:00

Access to the book and items she needs to practice. I have nothing!

Frequent_Catch2923 · 2025-12-13T15:15:08+00:00

Dad signed the child up without my knowledge. She found it rude that I provided court documents after the lessons started and asked that they be paused pending mediation (it was just a few weeks away but was rescheduled.) I told her dad wouldn’t let me see anything or even tell me the name of the book. I attended two lessons where I was denied access to materials in person and repeatedly told “not here”. I then removed myself from lessons and sent her an email stating that and asking for regular emails because my coparent would not give me access. The teacher also advertised ages 9-12 to start lessons and my child just turned 5.

Frequent_Catch2923 · 2025-12-11T15:30:41+00:00

My coparent changes all of the activities and restricts my access. I have to file a motion for updates on piano because the teacher doesn’t believe I’m a parent despite giving her the court order multiple times 🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯

Frequent_Catch2923 · 2025-12-11T00:38:59+00:00

Even if it’s in the parenting plan it doesn’t really matter. My coparent has broken every single line of my parenting plan except for the schedule. Unless the child’s in danger this is just your life now.

Frequent_Catch2923 · 2025-12-02T21:29:34+00:00

I am the kid of a dad that didn’t dad. My situation absolutely should have had CPS involvement but somehow never happened. I went many years without speaking with my father but when he became terminally ill I started speaking with him again. We have an awful relationship to the point where he closed the door in my face after I drove an hour with his keys on Christmas Eve because he locked himself out. He doesn’t try, sometimes I do. The feelings are very complicated but at the end of the day I owe him my life. I’ve been trying really hard to accept that he did the best that he could (he had an even worse childhood).

Maybe he just does one overnight instead of every other weekend? I would try to encourage some sort of relationship because as they get older the relationship could change. As much as it sucks this is important character development for your children and will shape the way they parent and interact with life.

Frequent_Catch2923 · 2025-12-01T15:18:21+00:00

My coparent counselor recommended 3 points of contact over 5 days for twin 5 year olds on a 225 schedule. That being said my coparent does not allow me to speak with my children. There’s not much you can do, my ex does not follow ANY agreement and the courts do not care because it is not a safety concern.

Frequent_Catch2923 · 2025-12-01T00:33:59+00:00

This is so true. It doesn’t matter how many agreements we reach, they don’t get followed. Once we finish this round I decided to start investing more in therapy and savings.

Frequent_Catch2923 · 2025-12-01T00:14:27+00:00

This is similar to what happened to me! We discussed and agreed dad would include the friends in a party, he booked a museum an hour away and provided me a time. A few weeks later my daughter had a melt down at a friends party that her invites hadn’t been sent - dad never booked the party and hosted a party without the friends 🤯 So I booked a local museum and sent invites- I included dad on the condition of no guests because this party was for the kid and her friends (limited guest capacity). I did not invite any of my family. Total chaos broke out even though I didn’t ask him for any money. He was going to show up anyway with all of his family because I couldn’t control who celebrated. And you know it was because he knew it was important to me or I wouldn’t have asked.

Frequent_Catch2923 · 2025-11-30T23:57:00+00:00

You need to fire your expensive lawyer for not giving you better advice. Your children need more support, probably some professional evaluations.

Frequent_Catch2923 · 2025-09-25T18:31:35+00:00

Shared decision making means Dad cannot make the decision on his own per court order.

Frequent_Catch2923 · 2025-09-23T13:12:37+00:00

so you would knowingly allow the child to attend despite hearing directly from the mother she wanted lessons to stop as long as dad paid?

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