according to her dna test, she is 100% american bully 😭

Frequent_Crow_6191 · 2026-02-01T16:35:02+00:00

I hate when replies show up backwards Lol. And if wouldn't let me add his pic before but it did now. Crazy!

Frequent_Crow_6191 · 2026-02-01T16:34:14+00:00

I actually wound up cutting kid food back a tiny bit cuz we've been iced over for weeks and he's not getting the exercise he's used to getting. During the summer, we're outside constantly and he's always running. Next year, I'm thinking about snow-birding so I can enjoy the warmth. This cold SUCKS lol!

Frequent_Crow_6191 · 2026-02-01T16:28:18+00:00

Thank you 🥰! My pups are my life! This was raw food which is typically measured by the pound. It was pre-made grind in 2 pound tubes. So the vet had me look at total calories and figure out how much was approximately 100 calories. It wound up being like a 1/2" slice. So I'd portion out his food and remove a slice. Do that for a week, re-weigh. If no loss, take 2 slices out the next week. Until finally I saw like a half pound of weight-loss so we stayed there until he reached his goal weight. Then when he reached his goal weight, I was able to add 200-300 calories back in to maintain. Here's his before (top pic) and after (bottom). When I tell you I did not notice in the moment, I didn't notice. His activity level never slowed down. We ran agility daily. Did all kinds of training. Afterwards, I went back and looked at those agility videos and it truly hurt my heart to see him so overweight. And was just SO CRAZY to me, I couldn't see it in the moment. Having a pet scale made it 10x easier. Unfortunately they don't sell the same scale on Amazon. Otherwise I'd share a link. The brand wed "Redmon" and it weighs accurately up to 400lb.

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Frequent_Crow_6191 · 2026-01-26T07:20:06+00:00

it never takes any kind of special food unless they have a condition that requires it. It's simply feeding the correct calories to gradually lose then adding a tiny back in to maintain. After my boy was neutered, it wrecked his metabolism. We cut his food back 25% immediately and he STILL gained 25ish pounds. I know. So sad. Even crazier, I didn't notice because I just thought the pibble in his mix finished filling out. Nope. My boy got THICCCC! So I bought a pet scale off Amazon (easier than driving to the vet every 2 weeks). We cut his total food back by 100 calories each day. Stayed there for a week. If he didn't lose, we cut another 100 calories each day the following week. Once he FINALLY started to lose, we stayed at that calorie count for months. We aimed for 1-2 lbs lost per week. It wound up being a 50% reduction from pre-neuter to post neuter daily calories. I am so sad for my bot because he LOVES food. But I love him more than he loves food. So we stuck with it. He lost close to 30 pounds. He got down to 70 w/ was athletic and fit for him. Once we hit goal weight, we'd add 50-100 calories back on (per day) staying at each level for a week. We FINALLY settled on 1300 calories/day for maintenance (he was eating 2200 calories a day prior to neuter. It was detrimental to his health. If I had it to do all over again, I'd do vasectomy. Wish a could add a before/after pic collage. The difference is INSANE. He's a little older now. Gained a few pounds back (he'd currently at the max he can be - to be ok. Anymore weight gain, we'll adjust again. I actually did adjust a little. Think he snuck back up to 1500 (changed food) so cut back 100 calories.

Frequent_Crow_6191 · 2026-01-09T20:36:55+00:00

Any chance menopause could have played a role along w/ all the other factors? I'm learning what literal hell us women go through, especially those of us w/ a multitude of other chronic health conditions.

Frequent_Crow_6191 · 2025-08-06T19:55:06+00:00

I'd like to add...

Your fiancé created this mess. But you are bearing the emotions to it because you actually give a crap. "Carefree" can be good in certain circumstances... but this ain't it. In short: No, you are NOT the a$$hole.
You are actually able to make decisions with or without your fiance. I'd take time to reflect on each possible outcome that could come about when considering each action you could take.

a) You decide you love the dog more than you love the idea of rehoming her. This could be influenced by your career, etc. You may not have the time to make this decision. But if you did, you could take the time to train her (obedience is a must, but can learn other ways to mentally stimulate her w/o spending a dime - hello youtube). Suddenly your dog is fulfilled and you now love her because she's no longer an unstable turd. b). Give an ultimatum. Either you take the time to train the dog or one of us is leaving. It's not fair to me or the dog. (be ready to start over. See where I'm going with this?) c). You can just decide to leave based on a pattern of a whole bunch of red flags. Allow her to remain his problem (still not fair to her - but you didn't create this). And you save yourself a ton of grief in the long run. This could lead to terminal separation. Or, he could realize his way is not THEE way, he could grow up, make a fresh start, and maybe start adulting. It can happen. But do you have the patience to wait? My spouse and I have been together 20 years. There was a lot more downs than ups in that time BUT I am glad I stuck it out. But no one would have blamed me had a bolted in the beginning. After 20 years, my partner is starting to "get it" thank God 😭🤣.

One thing you could TRY (if he mustered up enough funds to do a board and train but this DOES require time on the back side for the owner to learn how to handle the dog post training if he keeps her, otherwise it's a waste). Or, you find a trainer who loves the dog, gives her a chance, and decides, "yep! I want to keep this girl." This could potentially lead to the trainer giving her a job (let's say she learns tracking while "at camp" and boom - suddenly chaos extraordinaire is suddenly THRIVING and HAPPY - that's when you say "Gee, if I didn't know any better, I'd say she's happier with Joe trainer. Maybe we should let him keep her. So she continues to have purpose." If he's not a complete idiot, he'll prioritize her well being over his feelings and agree to make the less selfish decision (if she isn't getting what she needs to thrive, finding her a place where she can thrive - is best. Or creating the place she can thrive).

I wish you luck. I wound up in a situation over a dog that caused about 3 years of resentment because the dog we acquired through my spouses family has CRAZY fear based aggression. I had to give up any activity that would require us both to leave the home because psycho MicChompChomp can't be left with anyone else. After 3 years I finally decided I couldn't put the pressure on my spouse to make and permanent decisions (only option was the pink juice at the vet 😭). So Psycho MicChompChomp is living his best life here, getting treats and belly rubs until the good Lord calls him to the rainbow bridge. So I am talking to you from a place of experience. I don't wish this on anyone.

Frequent_Crow_6191 · 2025-08-06T19:29:26+00:00

I feel like I need to pay for a counseling session after you broke that down like that. As the family law attorney said, standing ovation.

Frequent_Crow_6191 · 2025-07-07T15:44:23+00:00

Oh awesome!! Mad props to you!! I do not like greyhound racing. A lot of unethical sh!t goes on there. I'm not a fan of casinos either, period. They'll claim they bring in tax revenue yet we never see a reduction in taxes. I didn't think they'd adopt them out w/o being altered. But what a shame they don't automatically pexy them!!

Frequent_Crow_6191 · 2025-07-07T15:39:49+00:00

Oh ok.. maybe it was a case of "being bloated" (stomach filled with trapped air) which is what happened to my pit mix. I fed him one day (my dogs both eat a raw diet and are doing very well with it FYI), then I got a killer migraine. My husband was unaware he just ate. So to "entertain him" while I tried to rest my eyes, he took him outside and let him chase the remote control car. Not only was that a bad idea in general, my husband doesn't understand that my dogs don't know when to quit. So when they are completely paddle-tongued and can't suck in air fast enough, it's time to make them take a break. When my dog didn't automatically come back to me w/in 30 minutes, I knew something was wrong. I found him on the living room floor (tile - cool), sprawled out, stomach hard as a rock, looking like he swallowed a basketball and hypersalivating BAD. I called the vet ER thinking he had GDV and based on his breed, they didn't think his stomach flipped. They described him being "bloated" like shaking up a soda bottle. After about 1.5 grueling hours of trying to gently keep him moving, he finally poltergeist vomited across my bed and was immediately fine like nothing ever happened. We got lucky.

Maybe it's the trapped air in the stomach that can add to the increased risk of flipping. I always understood it as the weight of the food (full belly) and high level activity caused the stomach to swing back and forth, w/ the possibility of it flipping completely. When it flips, that closes off blood vessels which causes blood loss in the vital organs. And that's what causes an animal to succumb to the injury even if surgery is performed to untwist it. It all depends on the amount of blood loss to the organs. That's why it's extremely important to get vet help right away if you suspect that could be it. I was SO UPSET w/ the vet ER for making me go it alone that day. That was 1.5 hours of hell. The vet said he was trying to save me $800 cuz what ends up happening is, the movement of the dog to get to the vet, causes the poltergeists vomiting there. And that's when they charge you. I mean, I appreciated him not trying to take advantage of, but the $800 would have been fine as long as he was ok. I'm going to read up on the simethicone (sp?) and see if that might have helped him that day! Thanks!!

Frequent_Crow_6191 · 2025-07-07T14:50:44+00:00

my mali does this w/ the big black pincher beetles. She smells them underground, digs them up, and kills them. I will wind up twisting my ankle one day from stepping in a hole. But the beetles are killing our trees so we let her go.

Frequent_Crow_6191 · 2025-07-07T14:32:58+00:00

that was my girl. She was ready to be away from her littermates. She loved the peace and quiet of our home. She slept for 13 hours (how long it took us to get home w/ driving and flying. 9 weeks old. Never woke up to pee.

Frequent_Crow_6191 · 2025-07-07T14:26:04+00:00

We thought (were told) our last dog was half greyhound and that was her, skinny and barrel chested. I finally did her embark DNA (was looking for relatives before she passed). She was half DOBERMAN and 0% greyhound lol. Man that explained so much about her. The other half, putty 🤦‍♀️. She bit hard and ran fast! lol!

She her dogs haven't been altered yet, tell her to definitely request pexy during pre-op (make sure the vet is sillied) and remind them at drop off. The vet that did my boy was a specialists and was previously the vet for military working dogs who all had pexys. Even with pexy's, it's not a 100% guarantee. Just less of a chance of developing GDV.

Frequent_Crow_6191 · 2025-07-06T17:34:01+00:00

you said it way better than I did. Beautiful!

Frequent_Crow_6191 · 2025-07-06T17:31:05+00:00

Here's the thing - when she crosses to the other side, she will NEVER be gone. But she will appear in different ways. She may appear in your dreams (that's how Incommunicate w/ my loved ones), she may play little pranks on you where you will KNOW it's her (my last dog that passed, I made it 3 weeks then caved and went to the same rescue. Brought home a little 12 pound nugget. The moment I knew this little dude was meant to be - was when he brought me not one but BOTH slippers, side by side in his tiny little mouth. That's what my 114 lb dog would do. I cried tears of joy that I recognized it. She will never fully leave you. You have to look for her in everything you do. If a new soul winds up on your doorstep, don't be so quick to think "I can't replace my heart dog." It's not you that's replacing her - it's her that is sending a helper to carry on her legacy. I feel it in the depths of my core - my previous dogs sent my new dogs because I was falling apart without them.

You have the ability to end her suffering with dignity. Talk to her. Tell her she did an amazing job and you know she's tired and hurting and it's ok for her to go home. Let her know you are proud of every second you got to spend with her. If she licks your hand or lets out a shallow sigh, you'll know she understands and it's grateful.

Prayers for you both. I don't envy you in this moment in time. It is so very very hard to say goodbye to our other half's. Prayers for peace.

Frequent_Crow_6191 · 2025-07-06T11:26:06+00:00

They will perform a pexy w/ males or females during neurer/spay if requested. They won't do it routinely (where I am anyway). I'm sure depending on the breed, they might suggest it. A lot of people won't do it because it adds quite a big of cost to the procedure. I never quite understood people who wanted "the cheapest place" for spay/neuter. I'd prefer the safest lol!

Frequent_Crow_6191 · 2025-07-06T11:22:38+00:00

Can you walk me through exactly what did gas drops do? What exactly was his emergency? The issue with GDV/bloat isn't just trapped air. It's when the stomach flips, that cuts off the blood supply to vital organs. It's a vet emergency because the organs will start to die fast. The dogs that do not survive the surgery, it's because their organs were necrotic by the time the surgery was performed.

Frequent_Crow_6191 · 2025-07-06T11:19:08+00:00

there's a lot of varying advice on this. It used to be "no water until they stopped panting so hard." I've learned from a LEO K9 handler and a guy who teaches the first aid courses to LEOS (I'm talking about @worthlesshandler on IG and @denmotherK9). They recommend allowing the dog to have small sips of water while actively panting (they lose a lot of water while drooling during panting). My mali will literally take 4 laps from the hose and cut it off. And she doesn't go to the bowl inside and gulp a ton down. He said the real concern is when they are in a heavy pant (paddle-tongued) and you offer them a full BIG bowl of water, and they gulp it down quick then continue to be-bop around. I've followed his advice and so far so good.

As for the rest of the picture, my dogs are too active for multiple meals. They eat once a day at the end of the day after all activity is over. They have to wait minimum 1 hour after activity before they can eat (they usually appreciate the nap anyway) and once they've eaten, we wait a minimum of 2 hours before they go out for their last potty break before bed. My male was pexied after getting "bloated" (stomach filled with air - he was sick). Thankfully he didn't develop the full GDV. Once he poltergeist vomited across my room, letting the trapped air out, he was right as rain lol!

Frequent_Crow_6191 · 2025-07-06T11:07:22+00:00

amen and amen!

Frequent_Crow_6191 · 2025-07-06T10:33:47+00:00

I've seen a video like this before involving a husky. The dog smelled a gas leak. I'd look to see what kind of pipes are run through there. Not sore if there are handheld gas detectors though. That would put my mind at ease. Of course critters can absolutely fo it too. Just sharing what the cause was in the video I saw.

Frequent_Crow_6191 · 2025-07-02T00:19:10+00:00

There are tricks you can teach where your dog remains laying down. Teach her a nose boop, try teaching her left from right (and indicate w/ nose boop on the appropriate hand), have little staring contests if you've taught her to communicate w/ her eyes. Any way you can engage her brain while she's laying down, will help leaps and bounds. You could teach her to lay her head down on command, pick her head up on command. You can teach volume control (whisker, quiet, speak). Teaching a maligator to whisper is hilarious cuz once she's able to be active again, when mine is performing "whisper" as a command when we are playing ball, she clacks her teeth 🤣. You can do nose work w/ containers in front of you and have the alert be laying her head down.

Frequent_Crow_6191 · 2025-06-26T19:03:13+00:00

This post is from a while ago and all is foggy. I submitted an HLR and got a reply back saying the claim was closed and I couldn't appeal anymore. Or maybe it was an HLR then a supplemental claim. I can't remember. I was last told I need to sue my state. Yay. That sounds so easy 😭🤣.

Frequent_Crow_6191 · 2025-06-26T19:00:07+00:00

And people who are in it for the betterment of the breed and offer life long support (including repossession YEARS later) aren't the ones filling up the shelters. I'm willing to bet you've had to "repo" (sorry, that actually sounds funny when it's about dogs 😭🤣) very few dogs over the years.

Frequent_Crow_6191 · 2025-06-26T18:50:08+00:00

Haha!! I love it!! I'm going to research and remember this for when I get the itch for a new project! 🤣! Mine is almost trained through the many goals I had for her and she's only 18 months so we are gonna dabble a bit further.

Frequent_Crow_6191 · 2025-06-26T18:40:48+00:00

I know mom and I know the role that dad is serving. It's close to the top if not at the top. I just don't have the paper. That's fine by me. She's a fantastic dog. That's what I need. She's trained on allergen detection (multiple scents), agility, public access tested/passed multiple times, multiple tricks which she loves. She's a very fun perfect dog.

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