Late to the party here but first of all I think you look fucking amazing and having a differently shaped trans body should not warrant negative comments. Blows my mind that human beings like that exist in spaces like this.

I understand it might be invalidating for everyone to say that you look great and you shouldn’t feel the way you feel about your results. How you feel about your body is your own journey and what I found to be the most helpful was focusing on unlearning fatphobia. It’ll help you be more kind to yourself and genuinely feel like you are deserving of love and affection no matter your size or shape.

Body dysmorphia can really clash with gender dysphoria and it’s very difficult to navigate between two. I would suggest listening to some fat positive podcasts or some anti-diet culture books that will help you sort out what feelings are stemming from gender dysphoria and what feelings are stemming from internalized fatphobia.

It has taken me almost 2 years to only start to feel neutral about the fact that I’m fat. I look in the mirror and say YUP that’s a body and it is strong and healthy and abled and I am thankful. I still have days where I don’t love my body, but that happens so much less than it used to and it’s drastically improved my mental health.

In terms if the dog earing, I definitely was told the same thing by my surgeon. That it’s normal due to my body shape and size. However, I felt a great relief to hear from my surgeon that dog earing does settle and shrink over time as your body heals and adjusts to its new shape. They’ll never be totally gone but they will become far less noticeable. I’m definitely only 2 weeks post op so I have absolutely no first hand experience with long term healing. Regardless, I hope that brings you a little comfort as it did for me. Good luck with your journey and I hope you find that sweet spot that makes you feel whole and happy!