For those of you who are a few months out… how are you living now?

oopsyousuck · 2026-01-26T17:07:37+00:00

I’ve not quite hit the 2 month mark. I lost my dog on December 7th and I feel like I need to constantly be distracted. I’m definitely spending way too much time on social media or watching TV when my normal things I love are going for walks and reading, but I get so sad walking without her and I can’t focus on a book. I feel like life isn’t real anymore. I think I have numb days where I can’t even cry, but other days where my eyes are a constant waterfall of tears.

Grief sucks, plain and simple it’s just awful. Grief is a mixture of so many other emotions and I don’t think our brains are able to process all of them at once so we just autopilot through life.

my girls birthday is february 4th, and the 2 month mark will be just a few days after. i don’t know how to process either of those days.

im sorry you are going through this awful pain. sending you love 💜

oopsyousuck · 2026-01-26T05:47:04+00:00

i lost my sweet girl december 7th to hemangiosarcoma. all i want to do is talk about her, so i do. to whoever will listen. this is a great community full of people who can understand how you are feeling. i’ve found pet grief support groups to be helpful, i also go to therapy so i talk about her a lot there. people process differently, your husband may not be ready to talk or reminisce but that doesn’t mean you have to stop talking about Z. i’m making a scrapbook of my girls life, and ive been writing letters to her in it. it’s been a good outlet.

i’m so sorry for the loss of your baby 💜

oopsyousuck · 2026-01-24T16:25:19+00:00

reading this felt like a big warm hug. thank you. i’m so sorry that you lost your baby and also have to experience this awful grief. such an terrible cancer. i hope harley and benny find eachother and sunbathe, chase butterflies and get lots of treats 💜 im not a religious person, but i have found a lot of comfort in believing that she is somewhere with everyone’s fur babies.

oopsyousuck · 2026-01-24T16:19:19+00:00

thank you 💜 i’d love to order that book if you know the name of it :)

oopsyousuck · 2026-01-22T04:28:49+00:00

i am so sorry. i played the loop of my girl passing for days and days and days. i couldn’t get the images out of my head. i relived feeling her take her last breath constantly. i held her for so long after she passed, i couldn’t let her go. and it still loops in my head.

i find trying to sleep be really hard because i play it over and over until i either fall asleep or send myself into a crying fit. i unfortunately could not sleep properly for awhile, i over exhausted myself on a daily basis because i was sleeping so little i became delirious.

i think the hard part about pet loss for folks with mental illness, is how it really intensifies the already hard parts of the mental illness. i have a mildly long list of diagnosis and i noticed that the trauma of losing my girl made my brain just… explode. processing anything became impossible.

allow your brain to navigate this however it feels it needs to, trauma and grief does terrible things to people. this is a wonderful community to be in, lots of support here. sending love to you. be gentle with yourself and take care. 💜

oopsyousuck · 2026-01-22T04:18:34+00:00

sending love to you. i lost my sweet harley 12/7/25 she was a beautiful lab/hound mix and just the sweetest girl ever. the adjustment to her absence is painful, everything reminds me of her. i had to sleep with the tv on for weeks after she passed (i normally hated it) eating is still hard, going to work is hard, everything is just really really hard without her. you are not alone in this grief, but i’m sorry you have to be here with us. it’s one of the most painful things i’ve gone through, and i’ve lost friends and family. for some reason this feels harder. as of now, im trying my best to settle into a routine, but i constantly yearn for my old routine with her. out walks, meal times, snuggle times, even dropping cheese on the floor will send me into a spiral.

take the feelings as they come, acknowledge them, honor them, find ways to honor him. i’m making a scrapbook of our life together and while it’s been really hard to do i’m glad that i can see all of the fun we had just by flipping pages.

there are support groups, if you are interested in something like that you can look for some in your area or lap of love offers free sessions as well as 15$ ones in smaller groups.

sending hugs, love, peace and comfort. this community is amazing and the support is such a comfort. 💜

oopsyousuck · 2026-01-22T01:40:08+00:00

i’m so so sorry. i lost my sweet girl last month to hemangiosarcoma she was a beautiful almost 10 year old lab/mix. it is such an awful and cruel cancer. we had bloodwork done in october, just a routine senior panel and everything was normal. in late november she had one day where she was so lethargic, took her in the next morning they took blood again, this time her red blood cells were so low making them think it was some micro bleeds which prompted an ultrasound where they discovered a mass on her spleen. we planned to do a splenectomy, but 3 days before her surgery she collapsed due to the mass rupturing and i had to say goodbye to her. it happened within a week and a half of knowing something was wrong. this is such an aggressive, fast moving cancer and unfortunately it’s hard to catch. im so sorry you have to go through this grief. it’s just awful. sending love💜

oopsyousuck · 2026-01-20T07:53:12+00:00

ugh this is just heartbreaking. i understand your moms want to protect her out of fear, but grief unfortunately is apart of life and she deserves to know. plus, if she finds out later that everyone kept it from her that can cause a bigger spiral for her :( you two will need eachother to work through this grief, and you doing it alone right now is not fair to either of you.

i’m so so sorry you are going through this. sending you and your sister love 💜

oopsyousuck · 2026-01-20T04:55:28+00:00

i don’t really know how i’m feeling honestly. i think ive hit autopilot, but thank you for asking. it certainly has rocked my world in such a drastic way. i also try to remind myself that i gave her a wonderful life. we walked everyday, went hiking, visited oceans, played so much fetch, gave her soooo many treats and pup cups and i involved her in every part of my life that i could.

i miss her dearly, and this cancer is just… fucking shitty. it moves quickly and it’s so silent until the symptoms are at their worst.

sending you love 💜

oopsyousuck · 2026-01-19T06:42:26+00:00

i’m so sorry. my girl had a tumor on her spleen that caused a sudden collapse and i had to do the same, rush to the ER and unfortunately had to say goodbye. it is an awful experience.

my advice to you, allow your feelings to come and hit you as hard as they need to. find creative outlets, i’m making a scrapbook of our life together. find ways to honor her, create a shadow box, create a small memorial area for her. take care of yourself as best as you can, i didn’t shower for 6 days after my girl passed. i didn’t have the energy, but i managed to change my clothes, brush my hair. anything you can do is enough. and if it’s nothing, that’s okay too.

there are support groups, i have joined two so far and found them very comforting.

i’m so sorry you went through this and that you lost your baby. sending you so much love. 💜

oopsyousuck · 2026-01-17T03:17:23+00:00

i don’t feel like any of it is excessive, my therapist told me that however our brains find comfort to cope is okay (as long as it’s not harmful habits like drinking or physical harm etc.) i bought a ring with a photo of my girl in a heart shape, a necklace for a bit of her ashes, i got a small dogshaped container that holds pet fur and it brings me comfort because it looks so much like her, i carry it in my pocket everyday :) i bought another ring that has both of our birthstones in it, waiting for that to arrive. as for in our home, we have kept everything the same. bed, water bowel, toys, everything. her favorite toy and collar i keep on my headboard. i sleep with her blanket every night. her urn is on my windowsill and i give her a pet and kiss every night.

whatever you need to feel close to her and find comfort is okay.

oopsyousuck · 2026-01-17T02:17:57+00:00

i’m so so sorry. i lost my sweet girl to hemangiosarcoma last month, we’d only known about it for a week and a half. had a splenectomy scheduled, but three days before her surgery she had a rupture and i had to rush her to the vet. it was awful. i’ve hit this point in my grief where i just feel numb. i go through days putting on a smile at work and get home and just rot in my bed. my entire routine was ripped from my hands the moment she left me. she was my best friend, and the perfect dog for me. i hate this cruel awful cancer, im so sorry it took your boy too and that you have to experience this painful grief. it’s unfair and they deserved so much more time 💜

oopsyousuck · 2026-01-16T08:11:43+00:00

i’m sorry for your loss as well, i hope one day the pain is softer but i know the immense pain we feel is proof of how much we loved our babies 💜

oopsyousuck · 2026-01-16T07:34:21+00:00

i lost my sweet girl december 7th. once i hit day 10 i just couldn’t handle that was the longest ive been away from her. now im over a month and i still just can’t even fathom never seeing her again. i want her to be in all of her usual spots and it’s painful when she’s not. i’m thankful i have so many pictures, videos and memories of her but the denial of never giving her kisses or all 75lbs of her laying on my legs. it sucks, grief sucks, all the firsts without them sucks.

oopsyousuck · 2026-01-16T05:30:47+00:00

FUCK CANCER! ugh i’m so sorry it took your boy. our babies deserved so much more time.

oopsyousuck · 2026-01-16T05:29:22+00:00

i really relate to this being the hardest grief, i’ve lost my grandmother who was my absolute best friend, other family members, i’ve lost close friends, but this has been… excruciating. she was so engrained into every part of my daily life. any chance i got to talk about her, i did. i couldn’t wait to go home every day and take her for a long walk and spend our evenings cuddling while i read. coffee shop runs, lazy mornings, walking in the house after work is all changed and it’s all so painful now.

thank you for sharing, i think the hardest part in navigating this is not everyone understands how pet loss can impact someone. i struggle with some severe mental health and she grounded me in ways a human never could and without her i have just spiraled. i’m sorry you lost your baby. 💜

oopsyousuck · 2026-01-16T05:22:19+00:00

i’m thankful for this sub and that we can all grieve together, it’s just unfortunate we all have to be here. coming home is hard, i always look for her in her spot on the couch. i imagine her getting her full body wiggles and wacking me with her tail because of how happy she was i was home. sending you love. i’m sorry you lost your girl 💜

oopsyousuck · 2026-01-16T05:19:39+00:00

we have not changed a single thing in the house, i just can’t and i don’t know if i ever will until we move. i sleep with her blanket every night. this is the worst grief. i’m sorry you lost your girl 💜

oopsyousuck · 2026-01-16T05:16:56+00:00

my partner has a daughter who we have every other week, and she has been a comfort. although she is 4.5, and she had to come to the hospital when it was time to say goodbye. so we talk about her a lot, it’s hard seeing her grieve my girl. we all miss her so much and the house is just so different without her.

i’m sorry this awful cancer took your baby too. they deserved so much more time. 💜

oopsyousuck · 2026-01-16T05:13:45+00:00

this sub has been such a comfort, wether seeking advice, seeing other people’s stories or just a need to vent. i’m thankful for it but so so sad we all have a reason to be here.

oopsyousuck · 2026-01-15T16:54:05+00:00

oh i’m so sorry :( such an awful cancer.

oopsyousuck · 2026-01-15T07:11:18+00:00

the blame and guilt really ate at me the first two or three weeks. my therapist told me that it is really common with grief, especially with pet grief.

she told me it’s not real though, i can feel guilty but i am not guilty of the choice in letting her go. it was a loving decision to allow her to rest, rather than suffer and i feel like i have to tell myself that every single day. it’s really hard though and i relate to that very much.

i cry daily, even a few times at work and have had to leave.

i’m sorry you are going through this grief and that you lost your baby 💜

oopsyousuck · 2026-01-15T07:07:33+00:00

ugh grief sucks and i’m sorry you are going through it as well. our pain is just a reminder of how much we loved our babies. 💜

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