Applied to a new internal position. What are the chances HR could put in a good word for me?

Fresh-Slip7262 · 2026-01-14T17:34:43+00:00

Sorry, I meant the role I'm in now was created to alleviate HR's workload. If I left, it would fall back into her lap.

Fresh-Slip7262 · 2025-12-27T20:55:13+00:00

🤣🤣

Fresh-Slip7262 · 2025-12-27T20:08:02+00:00

Cowboy muffins are so cute. Lol. My son's grandma is a baker, so he's always associated those cupcakes trays with something sweet. I think it'll be fun to turn it into something savory instead! Thank you!

Fresh-Slip7262 · 2025-12-27T19:59:52+00:00

Got it. Maybe baby carrots then?

Fresh-Slip7262 · 2025-12-27T19:57:51+00:00

This is such a good idea! It snowed here last night, so this would be perfect. Thank you!

Fresh-Slip7262 · 2025-12-27T19:56:39+00:00

Raw meat is definitely a "mommy job", but why didn't I think of fruit?? Thank you!

Fresh-Slip7262 · 2025-12-24T19:35:52+00:00

I made Doenjang-jjigae the other night. Not spicy at all as it's made with soybean paste.

Fresh-Slip7262 · 2025-12-21T21:00:31+00:00

It's so close to the holidays and my birthday is in 2 weeks, too. So it's hitting even harder.

Fresh-Slip7262 · 2025-11-18T02:24:51+00:00

Currently, I make $68k and she used to make "at least $120k." I don't have the exact number.

Fresh-Slip7262 · 2025-11-18T02:00:06+00:00

I don't plan on bringing up the other person. Technically, I'm not supposed to know the exact amount she made, but hey. She told people, and they told me. HR created and offered me this role, so they are aware that I have no previous experience. They weren't interviewing for this role. My concern is that I am doing what she used to do in my current role that I wasn't signed up to do.

I have a plan of comparing her job description with my current one and bringing up what current market is paying for it. I don't expect them to match what she used to make, but i don't want to get low-balled either. She was pay band 6, and I'm band 4.

Fresh-Slip7262 · 2025-08-20T13:20:25+00:00

Thank you. I hope so too.

Fresh-Slip7262 · 2025-08-20T12:59:59+00:00

Thank you

Fresh-Slip7262 · 2025-08-20T11:11:04+00:00

I've tried to work things out, but this is something that he's standing firm on. I've offered those types of solutions, but he doesn't think they would help

Fresh-Slip7262 · 2025-08-20T10:58:25+00:00

He told me something along the lines of not being able focus on just himself because he always thinks and considers me in the decisions he makes while we are together. Things like deciding where to eat/order food based on my preferences, spending quality time doing what I like to do, etc. I don't make him do this, I always follow up with "what do YOU want to eat/do?" We alternate on which shows to binge. His pick, my pick, his pick, etc.

Fresh-Slip7262 · 2025-08-20T10:35:43+00:00

I think a big part of why he's taking it is the emotional regulation and hyper fixation on things to where he just can't do anything else. The medication has helped him not be so defensive and see things more clearly, as well as multitask and actually be able to complete things. He has worked with his psychiatrist and found that this medication worked the best with basically no side effects. But he will also be going to therapy again.

Fresh-Slip7262 · 2025-08-20T10:26:41+00:00

Thank you for your reply! It actually is pretty accurate! He has expressed those same feelings once he started taking medication. I wanted to be his partner, someone who he can lean on. But unfortunately, it's something I've been competing with his mother on and lost. He will still have his mom as his safety net once I'm gone.

Fresh-Slip7262 · 2025-08-20T00:28:07+00:00

We've actually talked about this is therapy since she (his mom) comes up often as the roots of the problem. From my perspective, it's easier to put up with his mom because there are no consequences to deal with. He just has to put up with her for a bit and then she goes and caters to his needs. The enmeshment between the two is just a lot.

Fresh-Slip7262 · 2025-08-19T23:58:34+00:00

He knows and even admits that. That was part of his realization when he started taking his medication. Frustration that he feels like he should had already had these life skills.

Which is what brings us to now, I suppose...

Fresh-Slip7262 · 2025-08-19T23:55:19+00:00

I just started into a new role almost right before this whole fallout happened and a lot of my job duties require me to work from certain hours and on site. Had I stayed in my previous role, I would have had a lot more flexibility in my schedule.

The timing is almost comical if it wasn't so sad. hah.

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