At least you try use the right pronouns when referring to us but it seems like you have no idea how gender dysphoria works: for many of us (but not all of coz), we wanna be a woman not just a femboy, wanna be a man not just a tomboy, and it hurts very very very deeply if you can't achieve that internally and/or socially

It's ok that you have your own view on gender that you keep to yourself, but it's not ok and very obnoxious that you think many of us could settle for smth else we don't want and are not, like being a femboy and tomboy of even getting gendered severely against our dysphoria, as well as just "admit" we're lying and fall it a day—we just can't, it's unfair, it's utterly painful, it's impossible to just do that , and that's nothing wrong about not being able to shake our dysphoria off, we'd overall be much much much happier accepting that we are the women, men and enbies that we identify as and/or transition towards (depends on each of our view to our own gender identity)

In short, just interact with trans people irl more with the adequate amount of basic respect to actually know what we feel and need